For the brehs/brehettes in relationships, does your partner know your salary/how much you earn?

[ThaBoyBam]

fukk no

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

Yes but I got a bank account she don’t know about with 20Gs

Why is that? Is it for when shyt goes left or when you need to purchase some shyt you dont want to show up in your regular bank statements?

Yes How are you going to make moves if you don't know the financial situation?

What moves? Is she your financial advisor or your girl ?

Nah. She knows when I get paid and she knows how much my bonuses are but not my salary. She isn't working and hasn't for quite some time. I have financial goals and aspirations so when I need her to think I'm destitute for a spell then I don't need her doing math trying to tell me I should be able to afford a pet lemur when I'm trying to accomplish something

I understand, I can respect this perspective.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Yes.

 

[JetFueledThoughts]

Why is that? Is it for when shyt goes left or when you need to purchase some shyt you dont want to show up in your regular bank statements?
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Oh you gotta have a slush fund, I’m not even married or share an account and even I know that. It isn’t about shyt goin left or being deviant. Sometimes you just don’t want your lady knowing / questioning everything.

Let’s say you’re on a trip w/ your boys and you wanna go to a strip club, casino, etc. You take out a couple thousand in cash, no big deal you can afford it, but you still don’t want your girl seeing a cash withdrawal for $2,500 when she wakes up and checks the joint account in the morning shyt will just bring unnecessary questions and judgment, even if what you were doing is 100% on the up and up.

 

[Hoshi_Toshi]

I share because I’m doing well now. I wouldn’t have shared a few years ago because i was broke.

 

[Music Fiend]

Of course. Its not simping to share the info.

Hell I've had hoes respect me more cuz I'm not wildin with my money.

Now would I tell how much I have stashed. I usually tell them its half of what it is. Salary doesnt mean shyt if you can't stash.

 

[fifth column]

Yup, I'm married so she handles all the bills. I can't be bothered

This is me breh, my lady pays all the household bills online. I only deal with business related expenses that she don’t care for.

 

[Sex Luthor]

Yeah she knows. She does our taxes. I mean even if she didn't do them she would probably still know

 

[Sex Luthor]

Double post

 

[Wargames]

Why not, brehs?

Because it’s none of her business and she should know that by now.

Flipside, I know exactly how much she makes….


Not enough because she be asking me to buy her meals and help her with bills and she has her own damn job.

 

[Koapa]

I believe you should have an idea and it has to be an honest idea. I do caution letting your partner know your numbers if they're not really making any money and not happy with their own jobs.

In my case, my ex assumed I was making 60-70k. She kept making the comments about making more money. I overheard her saying to her friend that I was content with worth my 9-5 job. Mine you she worked a 9-5 job making around 55k. I finally should her my W-2 which said I made $115k that year. The jealousy started. Now the comments turn to "just because you make more money doesn't give you right to talk to me any kind of way." Pure jealousy.

 

[AllHolosEve]

-No. I tell women flat out if we're not at the point of living together & sharing expenses what I make is none of their business.
-One of my pet peeves is other people trying to count my money & police my pockets. My BM would count my hours to keep a ballpark figure of what I should have & it was fukking annoying.

 

[Vandelay]

She has a general idea, not the exact amount however.

 

[Prince.Skeletor]

Why is that? Is it for when shyt goes left or when you need to purchase some shyt you dont want to show up in your regular bank statements?

Both, and don't think women don't do it.
According to a report from CreditCards.com, 4.4 million men and around 2.8 million women have either a bank account or credit card that they keep secret from a partner.
So it's not just men, your woman may be doing it too and my guess is that this 2.8M women, that number will continue to increase as women are increasingly wanting a man that pays for everything.

It's not only if shyt goes left, a common misconception is that if a divorce occurs the money you have in other personal bank accounts is something you can keep and she don't know about is yours.
You keeping it secret is illegal actually, you will have to disclose it during the divorce or face possible criminal charges.

Also look how Forbes says its bad a guy to do that.
Divorcing Women: Here's Where Husbands Typically Hide Assets

So my approach is to have a secret bank account and.......... ball out!!!
SPEND that secret money throughout your marriage.
Have fun, say you got a business meeting in another state and you will be away for a few days.
Go somewhere, that's what I do. I went to a massive music festival in Belgium, balled out throughout europe, went to Amsterdam several times, balling out in Miami, Cali, island resorts..... everywhere.

That's the correct formula!

What moves? Is she your financial advisor or your girl ?

You not responding to me here
I don't know about the other dude but he's right, you gotta know your plan.
What if you both make the decision to move to another state, country, or buy a bigger house, or another family car.
These things require both couples to know where they stand financially as one.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Yes How are you going to make moves if you don't know the financial situation?

This. If we buying a house together…and we wanna qualify for more purchasing power—

you know what? Nevermind.