I Suffer From Anxiety & Sometimes I Have Moments Where I Worry (Wish I Had Friends)

[Ricky Fontaine]

Even though my life has kinda improved I still have my shortcomings. I used to have social anxiety mixed in with regular anxiety. Now, I worry a lot about my future and try to cope with it. Sometimes, it's hard for us anxiety people to make friends.

Any advice?

I never had social anxiety per say but I'm just the type of person who don't fukk with people. I'm a house cat nikka. I go to work go home. And do what I want. And I'll stay there the whole weekend. And I enjoy myself.

Until I realized I was fukking up.

When I needed a new weed man, I had no contacts outside of business.

When I wanted to go to concerts, movies whatever, if I'm not dating, I'll have no one to go with. (Family, lives in another city)

Etc. Etc.

You don't need a therapist, you don't need to say fukk the world and get money.

You need to practice. Everything you do you can practice and get better at.

Not a conversationalist? Talk to random people even when you don't feel like it. Next time you're at the checkout, ask how their day is going. (And it doesn't have to be with only women).

Hate meeting new people? Next time you're standing next to someone you don't know just engage them and see how far you can take the conversation, you'll be surprised.

Awkward around women? Keep trying to talk to em, (not spit game, TALK like a normal person) even if youre nervous as shyt. Eventually your nerves won't come into play.

There's no short cut to being a better person, just keep trying til you are and one day you'll be where you want.

Besides you seem like a pretty cool dude . Give yourself a little more credit. I can easily see you dominating a discussion in a group setting. Even all the people talking shyt about you run into your threads to see what you're saying. In real life those nikkas would have to just stfu and listen around a personality like yours.

Think how much more confidence you have then the average nikka in here just by showing your face on youtube. You can't pay a lot of these cats to do that.

 

[Roid Jones]

Let cacs define what you can and can't call yourself brehs.


Gorillas are a majestic creature. Who in the animal kingdom is really fukking with them?

Shyt is truly pathetic, 'oh no what will white people say'

 

[Roid Jones]

Even though my life has kinda improved I still have my shortcomings. I used to have social anxiety mixed in with regular anxiety. Now, I worry a lot about my future and try to cope with it. Sometimes, it's hard for us anxiety people to make friends.

Any advice?

Have you talked to a person in real life that has had the same issues as you? talking to fonts is cool but nothing beats real world communication

 

[Weaver31]

I see your point, but getting chicks just because of who you are is the ultimate confidence booster. I seen some busted dudes get women off their personality

Good point...but there has to be some mutual physical attraction to lead to sex. Having charisma and confidence will make u want to be around a person...but not necessarily sleep with them.

 

[Weaver31]

Id probably end up fukking raw and catch some std.
But i don't care.

The thing about her is that she looks fine but a natural fine....a realistic looking girl that isn't too made up.

 

[International Playa]

Why buy hookers, when you can get it for free?

OP is a virgin, let him get a hooker to lose his virginity, then learn the dating thing after.

 

[International Playa]

Good point...but there has to be some mutual physical attraction to lead to sex. Having charisma and confidence will make u want to be around a person...but not necessarily sleep with them.

Yup physical attraction is required for sex, thats why someone adviced OP to hit the gym

 

[Torenko]

I used to be the same way; my body was going into fight or flight mode all the time, I was literally afraid of people. To make a long story short, things didn't start to change until I took some advice and went outside my comfort zone; I got a job as a cashier back in '08 and had to interact with people all day. When I first started, I still remember being able to hear the change rattling in my hands whenever I'd hand it to a customer because I was shaking so much lol. Today, I'd say I'm 90% over my social anxiety. Some remnants of it have remained, but I'm in a way better place than I was years ago. I didn't even start really living and enjoying life until like the last two years.



As for friends, luckily at the job I'm at now, all my coworkers are around my age and cool as hell. We all hangout outside of work on the weekends, talk to each other about real shyt, get at females, etc.. I never been a creepy weirdo , just very quiet most of the time and socialy awkward, but these guys accepted me and helped me get out of my shell a lot

 

[Weaver31]

@JudgeJoeGorilla

I think u need to build more self-esteem and confidence. That along with more social experience will help u. One option is that u can see a therapist (a good black therapist preferably)to help with ur anxiety and if there are any root causes that need to be dealt with just so u can put the past in the past and be able to move forward. Some people especially our folks look down on therapy because we see it as a weakness and we are too harsh on certain issues but it can help if u find a good therapist/counselor.

Another thing...this is the most important...u need to build up self-esteem and confidence. This is the foundation....if u don't value urself and feel secure...u gonna exude a certain type of energy that's negative or off-putting...plus u gotta think...nobody really wants someone who feels inadequate...if u feel it...it will show in ur behavior, body language, mentality, etc. U need to think about what would make u more confident. If its ur body....try working out, cardio, weight lifting, eat right, etc. If its ur face...try to find a great barber and a haircut that would be becoming on u. If u got bad acne or scars....maybe try a facial product or see a dermatologist. If ur teeth are jacked up in any way...talk with a dentist about options to help that. If u need to save up and change ur wardrobe...do that and get advice from a co-worker or someone u know who dresses nice. Find a good alterations spot if u need for ur pants and suits so they could fit better....that's if u have a problem with clothes fitting right. My point of all this is try to present urself in the best manner. That could help if u not confident in ur looks. Looks are important...don't care what they say on here. Cuz the girls u like would have to find u attractive for them to wanna genuinely sleep with u.

Finally, get as much social experience as u can. Observe those who have good people skills and see what they do. The more experience with people...the better ur understanding of people will be. Ur anxiety does present a barrier for u to get close with people but u can improve on that. Like someone else said...it could be that u want folks to view u in a certain light and ur anxious cuz u wanna be liked. Sometimes u cant be friends with everyone or liked by all but u can be cordial and display decent to great social skills. But don't beat urself up too much because people aren't perfect...people are judgmental as fuk and flawed as fuk so I understand how difficult dealing with people especially certain people can be.

 

[It is a mystery]

I couldn't look people in the face when I spoke.

I used to have social anxiety mixed in with regular anxiety.

I feel like a broken record but you have a porn addiction judgejoegorilla
How do i know this? All the threads about smashing and pimping made by someone who said they are focused on politics on and not relationships. You are calling pornstars godesses and are losing sight of reality. Porn has negative effects on your brain if you overindulge in it and anxiety is a huge one. Join nofap for real if you actually want to change for the better

I don't try to push nofap so hard on everyone, but it's more necessary if you are addicted to porn and are suffering from it rather than a casual watcher

 

[Weaver31]

Yup physical attraction is required for sex, thats why someone adviced OP to hit the gym

I agree and mentioned this in my response.

 

[NkrumahWasRight Is Wrong]

Go to an island that speaks a different language for vacation by yourself

 

[peppe]

I was right when I said your using the coli as a therapist. You should go out more and face your fears instead of staying behind a computer screen it will improve your live greatly

 

[JayYoung713]

I have anxiety problems too, I've been to therapy for anxiety, depression, and other issues but sometimes I have moments where I challenge myself in social settings and it works for me. I've never had a problem approaching women or making friends but as I get older the less I like people and the more I enjoy solitude.

My advice to OP would be to challenge yourself, sometimes you may have to give yourself that "stop being a lil bytch" pep talk but whatever it takes man get out there and meet folks if that's what you desire to do bro don't let that mental block hold you back. Confront that shyt head on and be great.

 

[Cabbage Patch]

LOL. Have you seen OPs videos? He cant get them bad bytches with that virgin personality. But with 2 hunnid bucks he can get a pretty hooker who will say all types of confidence boosting shyt in his ear. After he runs thru a few pretty hookers he will get some "confidence" emedded in his personality.

If all he needs is a busted nut, it only takes one hooker to realize sex is not that complicated. Either you get it, or you don't.

If he needs more, he needs a bonafide professional sex therapist, not a troubled sex worker with her own mental issues.

If he wants friends, he has to nut up and be a friend first. He may need prozac style chemical help to get out of his own head.

We don't know.

Paying for sex as a regular hobby is not mentally well. He will just make some wack pimp rich, and himself twisted. Prostitutes are not true friends or girlfriends or wife material. Prostitutes are a trip to Vegas, not living real life.