This is the issue with some of us in the black community. Not having standards. Standards aren't to please other people. It is a way of representing yourself in the best light possible. I don't care about a black male looking down at me for anything I might do, some of them don't meet my standards. I want black women to win, but sometimes we have to call out foolishness so they can help themselves. Is this going to lead to a life of hoish behavior for her? No, but does she need someone to explain to her how inappropriate it is? ABSOLUTELY