El Coupeacabra
Diamond Teeth Samurai
Do you plan on having kids? If not, disregard.
If yes...do you plan on staying and building with the mother of your children? If no, disregard.
If yes to that...then...how will you explain your line of thinking to your children? "I love y'alls mama but...not enough to risk half my stuff."
What message does that send to your sons? That his mother isn't worth half of what he's growing up in and around?
And your daughters? That she herself will never be worthy of half of her future partner's belongings?
Let me put a real life spin on this. My younger cousin just had a baby.
So she asked me "do you plan on ever getting married?"
I said yes.
She asks "what does a girl have to do to be good enough for that?"
I told her it varies from man to man, and some of them just won't period.
She responded with "Well its cool I don't really even want to have to do all that."
I said: Well...at some point wouldn't you expect him to marry you?
She says, (no bullshyt) "My daddy didn't even marry my mama so what I look like getting married?"
Maybe you had to be there and hear the defeat in her voice but...that shyt was sad brehs. It hurt me to hear it. That's a 20 year old mother who doesn't think she's worth marrying because she was conditioned by her surroundings to believe that.
If yes...do you plan on staying and building with the mother of your children? If no, disregard.
If yes to that...then...how will you explain your line of thinking to your children? "I love y'alls mama but...not enough to risk half my stuff."
What message does that send to your sons? That his mother isn't worth half of what he's growing up in and around?
And your daughters? That she herself will never be worthy of half of her future partner's belongings?
Let me put a real life spin on this. My younger cousin just had a baby.
So she asked me "do you plan on ever getting married?"
I said yes.
She asks "what does a girl have to do to be good enough for that?"
I told her it varies from man to man, and some of them just won't period.
She responded with "Well its cool I don't really even want to have to do all that."
I said: Well...at some point wouldn't you expect him to marry you?
She says, (no bullshyt) "My daddy didn't even marry my mama so what I look like getting married?"
Maybe you had to be there and hear the defeat in her voice but...that shyt was sad brehs. It hurt me to hear it. That's a 20 year old mother who doesn't think she's worth marrying because she was conditioned by her surroundings to believe that.
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