Why does a man have to be assertive with his boundaries? Why do women push a man to see what his boundaries are and what they can and cannot get away with?
shyt don't make no sense to me. Makes me bush a chick quicker than diarrhea
Because, ironically, as much as women want to feel
independent in their choices, they also want a guy they feel they can
depend on.
Women, like children, crave structure. And also like children will walk all over you if you fail to provide them with boundaries.
If women are already soft and sensitive, what do they need a soft and sensitive man for?
If they're already indecisive, what can an indecisive man do for them?
If women are passive-aggressive, why....you see where I'm going with this?
Women are looking for a man to be a
man, so be one.
Another one of these threads where men who don't have success with women for various reasons project their revenge fantasies onto them. "I want to treat women badly, because they've made me feel bad. So women must want to be treated badly".
Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.
Actually, what they lack is depth.
They, rather shallowly. assess their own misadventures with women, despite being what pop culture has termed "nice guys", and compare them to the success of men who are typically considered "bad boys". From that shallow assessment, they draw erroneous conclusions i.e. women like men who treat them poorly. When really what most women find attractive is men who possess typically masculine personality traits i.e. men that are assertive, dominant, and proactive. These are all traits commonly found in "a$$holes" but not limited or even inherent to them. Meanwhile, in their flawed perception of "nice", they express behaviors more commonly associated with femininity, such as being indecisive, passive, and reactionary.
I've found nothing dries a girl up quicker than a guy who's more of a "girl" than she is.
That's where the contempt OP says he's noticed comes from. It's an instinctual aversion to "weakness".