Woman crushed by online dating -Asks Reddit Am I Ugly? (PHOTOS)(Update: she joined the coli pg 88)

[mamba]

You equate bittetness with black womanhood and femininity with non black women.

I never equated bitterness with Black womanhood. That's what you did.

 

[Yup]

Most Black women aren't offering much either in the grand scheme of things.

Then both black men and women deserve each other.

 

[mamba]

These kneegrows LOVE seeing black men with non-black women but HATE WMBW couples. So strange. And I also notice too how they always imply that non-black women DESERVE the best while also implying that black women should settle for burger flipper and a man who smacks her around.

But in my opinion, black women(like the woman in the OP) should stop turning away great men who happen to not be black. In all honesty it really does not help the black community to have black women having babies out of wedlock or to have black women who are 55 yrs old who have never married and are bitter. I actually had an older (bitter) black lady at my job scold me for dating the guy that I am currently seeing (he works in a different department).

I really do wonder why this makes some people so angry.....

Doesn't make me angry. Good for her. As long as she's not shytting on Black man to justify her choice, I wish nothing but the best for her.

 

[mamba]

Black men are unable to acknowledge what black women go through and only see things fron their perpective.

Black women also fail to understand what Black men go through. We get the blanket "nikkas ain't shyt", "there are no good Black men" rhetoric.

 

[mamba]

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Tell me where does that bitterness comes from?

You tell me!

 

[13473]

Women would have went extinct without men protecting them from nature.

women alone go extinct? women would not have created methods to protect themselves from nature?

bigger question, does protecting women from hurricanes and such give men the right to oppress them?

don't answer. just be wrong. this is not the topic of the thread.

 

[Yup]

I never equated bitterness with Black womanhood. That's what you did.

Is that so? Yet you are you are saying that black female feminity or lack thereof is the reason black men choose other.

 

[Poitier]

women alone go extinct? women would not have created methods to protect themselves from nature?

Nope

 

[mamba]

This ^^^^

You will never get some of these guys to be honest about the REAL reason that they covet the product of other men's cultures. They will NEVER admit to it. They want the spoils of war without waging the same battles within their own culture/community. Ever notice that the women whom men label as the most feminine tend to come from the most exclusionary cultures (Japan, for example). Their men fiercely protect their women and the culture from outsiders.

Black men want the daughters of men who didn't abandon their families. Black men want the daughters of men who would work 57 jobs to make certain that their wives and daughters did not have to do so. Black men want the daughters of men who slayed dragons for their families. Black men want the daughters of men who placed their daughters in ivory towers.

Those women tend to come from patriarchal cultures, something the negro wench feminists are staunchly against, hence the paradox.

Foolish Black women want to smash the patriarchy, yet still want men to give them traditional treatment!

 

[Yup]

You tell me!

Actually you seem to have all the answers, so you tell me.

 

[mamba]

Is that so? Yet you are you are saying that black female feminity or lack thereof is the reason black men choose other.

We were talking in the context of elite Black men choosing non-Black women over elite Black women. I said other factors probably are the reason. Those women are probably chosen because they lack one of the basics: femininity, a pleasant attitude, etc.

I didn't make a statement about Black womanhood in general. That's something your'e trying to do. Take that bullshyt elsewhere.

 

[AntiVenom]

Black women also fail to understand what Black men go through. We get the blanket "nikkas ain't shyt", "there are no good Black men" rhetoric.

They dont want to hear that though

 

[Yup]

Most Black women aren't offering much either in the grand scheme of things.

So black men and black women are equally yoked.

 

[mamba]

Then both black men and women deserve each other.

No one deserves anyone. No one is entitled to anyone. You get what you put in the work to get.

If Black women aren't getting what they want in a man, it's probably because they're not putting in the work to get it. That means working on the basics all men desire in a woman. It's not complicated.

 

[Yup]

We were talking in the context of elite Black men choosing non-Black women over elite Black women. I said other factors probably are the reason. Those women are probably chosen because they lack one of the basics: femininity, a pleasant attitude, etc.

I didn't make a statement about Black womanhood in general. That's something your'e trying to do. Take that bullshyt elsewhere.

And you are making that judgment based on what? How do you know these elite black men are passing up elite black women due to what black women lack?