17-Year-Old Asked His Dad If He Could Go On A Day Date With A Young Lady From School (FATHER REPLY INSIDE)

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Perhaps, but I have plenty of acquaintances who were born into that socioeconomic background and had terminally poor pickers. I saw it in college (I graduated from Morehouse and my wife from Spelman) to even now as a retired Economist. A person's character can be influenced by one's socioeconomic background, but it is not determined by it. No matter your birth station, having self-respect first is the first key to creating a deep relationship that lasts in my opinion.

Most of what that father, in the story, said to his son was perfectly fine. Just some of it was a bit shallow and could encourage simping and a relationship scarcity mindset in his son. The father should have told his son what sort of women are worthy of that treatment and how to determine that. He did clue him in on the listening suggestion, but he left it too open by not actually telling his son that he needs to listen with discernment.

Anyhow, all women are not worthy no matter their socioeconomic background, just like all men are not worthy. It is just as important to know how to choose well as it is to treat the person you have chosen well.
Great points. And yes, I agree that some folks go off the rails. I already got expect to have to deprogram my oldest when she graduates from Spelman. She's already leaning towards rah rah feminism 🤦🏾‍♀️

I'm just saying folks like us don't get triggered by stuff like this. The only thing that stuck out to me was the whole you're lucky to be in her presence thing.
 

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What’s the problem? Most Coli don’t get women. Ya’ll listening to hours of dry dykkers who failed to
launch using their mom’s internet to complain about women. And taking cues from these mentally ill individuals or scammers. It’s the blind dikk leading the blind.
:dame::mjlol:

Meanwhile, none of this advice is bad. It just needs perspective. Only thing I would have added was that this is what you do for a woman who deserves it. If you vet carefully and have high standards in the types of women you allow in your presence, none of this would feel outlandish.

But some of ya’ll deal with the bottom of the barrel women or worse, the ones in your imagination b/c u not dealing with women at all. :wow:

So if u only fukking mentally unstable, toxic, bummy, ignorant chicks b/c that’s all u have access to, then of course applying this type of advice to that would be disastrous. Even sadder is if you are ONLY dealing with chicks you’ve fashioned in your imagination as fire-breathing dragons from shyt u see online b/c ur crippling social anxieties got u so shook of p*ssy that you come off as a complete weirdo that makes nipples go flat and clits shrivel and hide—then this advice is gonna seem completely outlandish b/c u think all women are evil just cuz they didn’t get wet for u.
:manny:
Meanwhile, women are humans. Some are good and some are trash. Go all out for the ones that treat u well. Pay dust to the bytches that ain’t worth your time. But for the love of God, please don’t let that male ego arrogance make u think you can save a chick who is obviously bat-shyt crazy or out there so u don’t end up CHOOSING to waste money, time, youth, resources on bytches unworthy of you who trap u with kids, fukk up your credit and have you bitter and angry at all women for the ones you chose to deal with just cuz ass/titties/p*ssy.

Oh and money won’t buy you love.

Either she wants u or she don’t. Don’t let ur ego make u linger on somebody that don’t feel you as much as u feel them. You come first.

It’s not a diss song…it’s just a real song.:manny: And don’t be a hit bytch hollering and getting all angry at what I said. If this triggers u, then it must apply. Recalibrate and move accordingly. Peace.
 

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Great points. And yes, I agree that some folks go off the rails. I already got expect to have to deprogram my oldest when she graduates from Spelman. She's already leaning towards rah rah feminism 🤦🏾‍♀️

I'm just saying folks like us don't get triggered by stuff like this. The only thing that stuck out to me was the whole you're lucky to be in her presence thing.
My wife and I are going to Spelman's 2023 Founders Day. It will be 30 years since we graduated. I can't wait to see up-close how different the AUC is now. Atlanta was some of the best years of my life. I thoroughly enjoyed 89-93.
 

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I actually thought it was a good response. I think he was od'ing with the "goofy" and the "she's the boss" parts but overall, I think it was completely fine.
 

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My first date she paid for the movies, I paid for dinner. And before someone says I probably paid more, the movie prices in 2000 were still high as Snoop, especially for two freshman high schoolers.
 

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No woman wants to be treated like that. It’s weird and screams desperation. Treating a person that way isn’t sustainable and eventually your real self will come out.

Feel bad for whoever wrote that, sounds like it’s someone very young and naive.
 

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A lot of dishonest clowns in this thread. Sort of amazes me that people are consigning blatant ducktales that promote the type of squares criticised in other topics.

If some unfortunate fool decided to follow the advice they would be labelled as boring. When they ask for advice on their lack of success with women, they'd be told that they need to be more than just nice. The women in this thread promoting that piece of fiction would be talking about the need to provide humour, excitement and stimulation.
 
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