I spoke to this on here before...
When I moved to Virginia, we were living in a middle class neighborhood, nothing poor or really fukked up about it. My neighborhood back then was about 40% black, half of those black folk owned their homes and were solidly middle class (or better). This includes the people I call my parents, and as the children under their guardianship, that made us middle class children...
I've explained my family dynamic before, but to outside eyes, people didn't know that, so people who I knew who grew up in rougher areas in VA, you know how it is in high school, they considered people from my neighborhood "soft" or "try hards", wannabes. And there were some guys like that for sure, on the block I lived on, but there were other kids in my neighborhood who grew up similar to me--->one of my best friends at the time was from Brownsville, BK. His mother got married and his stepfather moved them to VA, I've mentioned them before. I don't know the block or whatever he was from but he was the second oldest of like 9 kids, never knew his dad, grew up in poverty in Brooklyn before coming to VA in middle school. Virginia was a new existence for him, but to outside eyes, he wasn't living in a traumatic area in VA so if he acted out, you'd think he was just some spoiled suburban kid doing that...
And there were a couple other people like that, so the point I'm making, at least some of these kids, while they come from a stable area, their home life and background is a lot more chaotic. Others, for sure there are kids who grow up in suburban areas with really stable home lives, who just gravitate towards that lifestyle. That definitely happens, but there is a decent number of kids who you'd assume come from stable backgrounds because of the area they are from, but their home lives and childhood was a wreck. I was one if those kids...
Lmao say that...