55 year old dime says being child free is great!

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Booksnrain said:
That’s part of the reason why she is addressing it. Because a lot of women are sick of the assumptions men make about them and harass them with. There are more than enough women who want children and marriage. But life has afforded women different options these days and many are finding traditions to be SEVERELY lacking for a lot of different reasons.

I think she knows it’s important to dispel the myth that a woman can’t be happy or fulfilled unless she is a wife/mother. That’s never been the case, even moreso now a days and that threatens a lot of people.
I’m going to see if I can find that study. It mentioned the primary issue women have with being single and child-free isn’t loneliness…get this…it was dumb asses concern trolling them and projecting sob stories of loneliness onto them.

That shyt is irritating. I’m married and the shyt I see people give single happy women is fukking disgusting and they be living their best lives.
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That’s the thing.
If no one said anything to childless women about being childless it wouldn’t be a thing.

People who are genuinely happy with their lives don’t bother childless women, though.
 
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Gloxina said:
That’s the thing.
If no one said anything to childless women about being childless it wouldn’t be a thing.

People who are genuinely happy with their lives don’t bother childless women, though.
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And they do it ALL THE TIME. Talk shyt, talk shyt, talk shyt, talk shyt and then when you shut the lies down….”WhO sHe TrYiNg To CoNvInCe?”
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Why? The real question is why society falls on itself every time a woman does anything out of its conventions? Instead of trying to browbeat women in these shyt, maybe we should be looking at laws that and social shyt that makes women say “Nah…fukk all that

Chicks literally giving a middle finger to all of this shyt. bytching, whining, fearmongering, shaming, ain’t working. Women literally born with wombs and this world tried to fukk them over so badly that they don’t even want motherhood. Right now there are lawmakers trying to abolish birth control. People talking shyt about moms every second. More this is coming. Nobody is obligated to do anything they don’t want to do.

And when people opt out, common sense should tell us to start thinking about why.
Parenthood is a HUGE sacrifice and most of that is on the woman.
Her body, risking her life in childbirth, primary caretaker, and many women never get to achieve their own life goals or dreams beyond motherhood. Those are years they never get back. They got a right to choose otherwise and for many of them, I don’t blame them.

I dunno why people think pregnancy and motherhood is a joke. It can be beautiful or it can be a disaster. People need to stop sugarcoating shyt and be honest about why humans are opting out of shyt we used to take for granted.
 
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Booksnrain said:
And they do it ALL THE TIME. Talk shyt, talk shyt, talk shyt, talk shyt and then when you shut the lies down….”WhO sHe TrYiNg To CoNvInCe?”
:stopitslime::mjlol:
Why? The real question is why society falls on itself every time a woman does anything out of its conventions? Instead of trying to browbeat women in these shyt, maybe we should be looking at laws that and social shyt that makes women say “Nah…fukk all that

Chicks literally giving a middle finger to all of this shyt. bytching, whining, fearmongering, shaming, ain’t working. Women literally born with wombs and this world tried to fukk them over so badly that they don’t even want motherhood. Right now there are lawmakers trying to abolish birth control. People talking shyt about moms every second. More this is coming. Nobody is obligated to do anything they don’t want to do.

And when people opt out, common sense should tell us to start thinking about why.
Parenthood is a HUGE sacrifice and most of that is on the woman.
Her body, risking her life in childbirth, primary caretaker, and many women never get to achieve their own life goals or dreams beyond motherhood. Those are years they never get back. They got a right to choose otherwise and for many of them, I don’t blame them.

I dunno why people think pregnancy and motherhood is a joke. It can be beautiful or it can be a disaster. People need to stop sugarcoating shyt and be honest about why humans are opting out of shyt we used to take for granted.
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That’s the thing. Being a GOOD mother literally is a lifetime commitment. Complain about babymommas and women picking the wrong men, now teen pregnancies are down and the women who truly aren’t passionate about motherhood aren’t succumbing to societal standards.


Sometimes being a wife and mother SUCKS.

That could be because a woman chose wrong, could be because her hubby is psycho and his personality flipped, could be because of financial constraints that didn’t appear until their family grew, could be because their hubby isn’t fully involved in the rearing process, etc.

It could also be the most amazing experience in the WORLD because the right decisions were made along the way!


I’ve said it before: this is a man’s world. The women who fully understand that, tend to make the wisest decisions whether they do or don’t want kids.
 
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I don't understand Coli's hatred over this. She likely has nieces and nephews we shame single mothers on the regular. She's married and has money. Most people depend on their kids when they get old because they have no money.

Your kids likely won't be able to take care of you if they have children themselves.

If it was just a fertility problem they can just adopt.

Woman have always had easy access to children. They can go to sperm clinics or they can adopt they don't have to be married like men.

She's happy and she likely has faced a lot of pressure to have children which is why she is speaking out.

"The you'll be alone as you age" is just stupid I have worked in nursing homes unless the daughter is being the main caretaker and if that's the case your health is just to awful.

Most of the happy 90 year olds live by themselves
 
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Madonna said:
As time goes on, just as many women are opting out of having children as men. The financial burdens of childrearing and the thought of possibly doing it all on your own is enough to keep a lot of women from having children. Not to mention, maternal and infant mortality is unusually high for Black women in this country. Can’t say I blame her.
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Having children never made sense to me... the inevitable of sickness, old age, and death makes it meaningless.
 
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Gloxina said:
That’s the thing. Being a GOOD mother literally is a lifetime commitment. Complain about babymommas and women picking the wrong men, now teen pregnancies are down and the women who truly aren’t passionate about motherhood aren’t succumbing to societal standards.


Sometimes being a wife and mother SUCKS.

That could be because a woman chose wrong, could be because her hubby is psycho and his personality flipped, could be because of financial constraints that didn’t appear until their family grew, could be because their hubby isn’t fully involved in the rearing process, etc.

It could also be the most amazing experience in the WORLD because the right decisions were made along the way!


I’ve said it before: this is a man’s world. The women who fully understand that, tend to make the wisest decisions whether they do or don’t want kids.
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All of this! I don’t blame any woman for thinking once, twice, three, four, five times before they buss out a lifetime commitment out of their bodies with zero guarantee that they’ll have any support for it, in a world that will talk shyt about them whether they have kids or not.
 
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Booksnrain said:
That’s part of the reason why she is addressing it. Because a lot of women are sick of the assumptions men make about them and harass them with. There are more than enough women who want children and marriage. But life has afforded women different options these days and many are finding traditions to be SEVERELY lacking for a lot of different reasons.

I think she knows it’s important to dispel the myth that a woman can’t be happy or fulfilled unless she is a wife/mother. That’s never been the case, even moreso now a days and that threatens a lot of people.
I’m going to see if I can find that study. It mentioned the primary issue women have with being single and child-free isn’t loneliness…get this…it was dumb asses concern trolling them and projecting sob stories of loneliness onto them.

That shyt is irritating. I’m married and the shyt I see people give single happy women is fukking disgusting and they be living their best lives.
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All of this right here! Shyt you can see in this very thread how some men are really offended by the shyt…btw, I’ve lurked for years and I’ve always appreciated your posts☺️. Now that I’m on here ( I haven’t “seen” you in a while), and you responded to me, I feel that I have arrived, lol. Many, many blessings to you on the wedding and your marriage. May your king appreciate his queen for the rest of y’all lives❤️. For whatever hater is going to respond to this, I don’t have to tell her to appreciate her king because based on her post history I’m sure she will.
 
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I'm so glad i have my two sons....

i cant imagine not understanding the light that creating children brings to your life

:wow:

old childless women concerned with looking attractive in their 50's-60's should remain childless...

better than shaming them into having kids they wont ever love more than themselves...

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