A. Seales:I want to be with a brotha but a lot of you would rather be by yourselves. Why not commit?

[intruder]

B

But you quoted it

And i didnt post the thread.

Look at it this way: if doggy didnt post the thread we wouldnt know about it. Amanda Seales would only be able to be heard by her twitter/IG followers and that's it. By posting the thread OP is helping her reach even more people like myself. It just hilarious to me how the coli are always talking about public personalities they cant stand but help more and more people become aware of these people making them more popular.

Personally i find her cute. I'd cuff her. Plus her mom is from Grenada too so i bet she makes a half mean salt-fish breakfast Should be almost worth putting up with her black-american feminist side.

 

[The ADD]

Most wealthy people are married. No one wants half of your $25k salary.

Come on friend

 

[The ADD]

B
And i didnt post the thread.

Look at it this way: if doggy didnt post the thread we wouldnt know about it. Amanda Seales would only be able to be heard by her twitter/IG followers and that's it. By posting the thread OP is helping her reach even more people like myself. It just hilarious to me how the coli are always talking about public personalities they cant stand but help more and more people become aware of these people making them more popular.

Personally i find her cute. I'd cuff her. Plus her mom is from Grenada too so i bet she makes a half mean salt-fish breakfast Should be almost worth putting up with her black-american feminist side.

I was largely joking sir

 

[Rawtid]

I grew up in the church, thought that black love was everything and was willing to do whatever it took to be loyal, faithful and the complete opposite of what women complained about.

I totally regret it.

I live with my fiance and two daughters. I pay all the bills, she's staying at home since she just had a baby a few months ago. Yesterday, I woke up at 5:30 am, shoveled the snow, took out the trash, made my breakfast and prepared food for my older daughter.

Went to work. Put in a busy 9-5 shift at my corporate job.

Came home... didn't have a lot of food in the crib. Did wifey go to the supermarket? Nope. Of course not. I went. Bought groceries. Came home. Kitchen was a mess.

Washed the dishes. Cooked some food to go with the food I cooked the night before. Ate. Took out the trash. Shoveled again. Cleaned up.

Tried to get it in with wifey. She said she's still on her period (it's been 8 straight days)

Spent time with my baby daughter. Changed her diaper and put her down.

Shower, come out and see wifey trying to get me to watch Married at First Sight and talk about it... because she's interested. Seriously.

We haven't had sex in three months.

#GMB for life

She goes to sleep. I'm just watching ebonyhead Pornhub videos and NBA highlights.

Why am I saying all this?

I'm miserable. This get married shyt is for the birds. It's nothing but hard work, commitment, discipline, sacrifice and communicating a bunch of shyt you shouldn't have to. Did I mention we have a counseling session coming up?

For all the single brehs out there... do not be like me.

fukk what they say and how they cryin about shyt. Y'all are ahead of your time. Travel, see the world, eat exotic foods, have positive arrangements with women that get your lifestyle and make money brehs.

Unless you find a consistent, hard working woman who takes initiative to work hard for you and put effort into YOU... don't EVER commit.

Looks like your definition of a "marriable" woman may need some adjusting. A single mother doing everything you listed, by herself, would appreciate you way more.

 

[intruder]

I was largely joking sir

You good, fam.

Just gotta school the young lads on their posting behavior

 

[GoldenGlove]

This is one of the best threads I've seen in a minute good points being made all around. The original video is 3 parts though, and whoever shared that trimmed the end of the 1st part.

1. The 2nd part is some fake deep shyt about planets and satellites orbiting each other
2. She ends the 3rd part with that "Don't be the n***a that says 'not all men and females do it too' -- THAT'S NOT WHAT WE TALKING BOUT RIGHT NOW I'm a woman talking about dating men."

Women like her loooooove tryna pull that second part, "that's not what we talking bout"-- aka 'I don't want an actual conversation about this/I don't want to self reflect'. You're a woman, talking about dating men, who have to date women. We're supposed to just validate everything she's saying without having OUR experience acknowledged, let alone validated

What was fake deep about her analogy? shyt made perfect sense

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Fellas... Stay Away From a Woman with No Hobbies

Define hobbies b/c some dudes have uber unrealistic expectations and just want to date men that look like Draya, instead of dating chicks that would be compatible with them.
The male version of Tupac on a business suit seems to be Superhead/model in a Sunday School dress that also magically likes Naruto and has a zero body count.

Compatibility doesn't necessarily mean she will like everything you are into. I've known dudes COMPLETELY overlook tons of shyt women do and are interested in b/c she doesn't like shyt like Berserk and Fortnight.
Meanwhile chicks be legit on Pinterest putting together cute ass outfits under $20, into photography, drawing, creative writing, growing herbal teas, and that's not counting chicks who are legitimate nerds.

Sometimes I think both men and women try to squeeze compatibility into the people they are physically attracted to instead of finding somebody they are truly compatible with and building from there. Humans are so strange sometimes. But I love em all the same.

 

[Rawtid]

Come on friend

Why didn't you say anything when black women were making $30k and $75k in debt?

 

[Rawtid]

Define hobbies b/c some dudes have uber unrealistic expectations and just want to date men that look like Draya, instead of dating chicks that would be compatible with them.
The male version of Tupac on a business suit seems to be Superhead/model in a Sunday School dress that also magically likes Naruto and has a zero body count.

Compatibility doesn't necessarily mean she will like everything you are into. I've known dudes COMPLETELY overlook tons of shyt women do and are interested in b/c she doesn't like shyt like Berserk and Fortnight.
Meanwhile chicks be legit on Pinterest putting together cute ass outfits under $20, into photography, drawing, creative writing, growing herbal teas, and that's not counting chicks who are legitimate nerds.

Sometimes I think both men and women try to squeeze compatibility into the people they are physically attracted to instead of finding somebody they are truly compatible with and building from there. Humans are so strange sometimes. But I love em all the same.

Preach!

 

[you're NOT "n!ggas"]

What was fake deep about her analogy? shyt made perfect sense

I said it was fake deep, some try hard shyt. Not that it didn't make sense.

 

[EndDomination]

What does this mean?

There are more men in prison, with felonies, unemployed, than there are women.
Those men aren't suitable for marriage or long term commitments.

 

[The ADD]

Why didn't you say anything when black women were making $30k and $75k in debt?

 

[Rawtid]

Ya'll outchea takin the gloves off.

U do raise a point about marriage as an institute being attacked or denigrated in poor minority communities when it could serve as a legitimate way to pool resources, while the wealthy ALWAYS get married...I don't know how blks don't see how the elite are brainwashing them against it while reserving the privilege for themselves...


But u ain't have to go there
(Edit: Somebody was like "nikka I can't cut the PS4 in half and take it!!!" And I was so hurt.)

over and over again!! We love this mock freedom so much we will struggle to keep it.

Not the PS4 though

 

[GoldenGlove]

Define hobbies b/c some dudes have uber unrealistic expectations and just want to date men that look like Draya, instead of dating chicks that would be compatible with them.
The male version of Tupac on a business suit seems to be Superhead/model in a Sunday School dress that also magically likes Naruto and has a zero body count.

Compatibility doesn't necessarily mean she will like everything you are into. I've known dudes COMPLETELY overlook tons of shyt women do and are interested in b/c she doesn't like shyt like Berserk and Fortnight.
Meanwhile chicks be legit on Pinterest putting together cute ass outfits under $20, into photography, drawing, creative writing, growing herbal teas, and that's not counting chicks who are legitimate nerds.

Sometimes I think both men and women try to squeeze compatibility into the people they are physically attracted to instead of finding somebody they are truly compatible with and building from there. Humans are so strange sometimes. But I love em all the same.

I mean, we all know what hobbies are breh.

Ideally, it's an activity that someone is passionate about. My post is simply saying, vet your woman/partner before getting in a relationship with them. Compatibility matters, because while everyone who dates one another might not have the exact same interests, if they have compatible personalities they can enjoy each other's interests and learn and grow together through those interests.

There are some people out here, who really don't have anything else that they are into outside of their partner. That's not a healthy relationship. When you feel completely dependent on someone else to bring you joy, or entertainment it's just going to be a basic situation.

 

[Chapter_BLK]

Damn, dudes sound angry in this thread like they took what she said personally lol.

I see what she's saying, and I can't fault her for it because I know guys who act like this too. Part of the problem here is that a lot of people don't make their intentions clear when dating. Some things may go unsaid, but the problem is that one party (the girl) may be looking for a life partner while the other (the guy) is open to the idea of settling down where they are in life if they find someone worthwhile, but it's not urgent or something that can't wait. This leads to one (girl) trying to rush the other (guy) into getting serious, which in turn does the opposite effect since it turns guys off when girls rush things like that or come off clingy.

The other part goes back to what I and other posters have said about being willing to settle down if they find someone worthwhile. My views on marriage and relationships have changed a lot over the years from what I've experienced and learned. They may still change some more. With that being said, the qualities that I deem to be worthwhile (which I believe are realistic) haven't changed much and are not those that I've found a large majority of in any woman I've met (hence why I'm not married). A lot of woman just do not have traits that make them desirable life partners. Blame it on society, ill-equipped parents, social media, hyper-consumerism, whatever, but even the girls who seem to have a decent head on their shoulders have a shytload of baggage that they need to address before they can be taken seriously as a potential spouse.