When they're going on and on about the patriarchy.
Ask them the following questions:
1) Do you plan to get married?
Is so:
2) Who do you feel should make the initial approach and propose down the line?
3) Would you marry a many who makes less money (more than $20K) than you?
and
4) Would you marry a man noticeably shorter than you?
Sit back and observe how they deal with those questions.
[Advocatus Diaboli]
After they rip you on your poor grammatical mistakes, they might answer your questions like so:
1) Marriage is yet another male inspired historical structure erected and supported by the patriachal government. Founded in a time that demanded that a wom
yn be subservient by renouncing her patronym (the taking of the father's name is another issue that should be dealt with by those seeking equality) and taking that of her man, it also encouraged the loss of most of her autonomy, leaving decisions concerning her life to the man. So, when faced with that brutal history, why would a feminist want to get married? Well, there's one good reason: to destroy - at the very least, undermine - the underlying masculine hegemony. Which leads us to question 2.
2) The person who wants to get married the most should propose. I'm not sure if you have any electronic devices in the rock under which you live, but women propose all the time.
3) Many women, including feminists, make more money than their male partners.
4) Many women, including feminists, have partners and husbands shorter than themselves.
[/Advocatus Diaboli]
I think you're suffering from delusions of grandeur. Your questions were neither difficult, mind-blowing, nor even creative in any way. I can't imagine a feminist of even below average intelligence being cowed by any of them.
My two pence.