A situation some of us may be in the future. "AITA for not paying for my inlaws assisted living?"

[Heafcliffe]

Is he the a$$hole you ask? Nope.

Should he divorce this disrespectful, assumptive, non-understanding wife who doesn't involve him in major decisions but only to pick up the pieces? Yerps.

Reading that made a breh.

Edit: The wife and I have talked about this several times and have made plans to house my mother-in-law as she gets older. In response, my mother-in-law is highly appreciative.

 

[Jay Kast]

Man fukk that family.

The fact that she called him an idiot when he asked on the flipside is enough for me to say, "Tell ya family to figure it out without me "

If you want to leave over that, go be a bum with them.

 

[Gloxina]

I want to say this is fake, because I cannot believe his in-laws would be that fukking bold, but… who knows.

Family gets taken care of, no if, ands or buts. However, don’t go out like a sucka.
Your siblings WILL be kicking in an equal amount, or selling/refinancing that property. Or the sibling living in the house will be the main caretaker if they can’t contribute. I wish my future hubby’s family tried to play me like that.

I’m an only child so I have to have that shyt figured out by myself. If you have SIBLINGS and y’all can’t come together to figure it out

 

[Easy-E]

They found one that was perfect and my wife was very excited when she told me about it. I was less than thrilled when I found out our contribution will be roughly $3,000 upfront then $5,000 a month.

I immediately question why it cost roughly $15,000 upfront fee and $25,000 a month for 2 people in an assisted living apartment.

Didn't read nothing else after this. WTF?

 

[Dont@Me]

if my girl ever comes to me about paying for her parents assisted living, i'd tell her, "pay for WHAT? they're practically already DEAD! "

I'd morph quicker than a power ranger. "It's demon time! "

 

[the cac mamba]

I was less than thrilled when I found out our contribution will be roughly $3,000 upfront then $5,000 a month.

I immediately question why it cost roughly $15,000 upfront fee and $25,000 a month for 2 people in an assisted living apartment. I admit I sarcastically asked if their apartment is next door to Elon Musk’s parents. She then told me that we’re going to cover the lion’s share of the costs because we make more than her siblings.

 

[Ashley Banks]

She would need to explain this “Per your suggestion, I asked my wife if we’re going contribute this much money to her parents, how they’re going to contribute to my parents when their time comes. She answered, “don’t be an idiot, that’s an entirely different situation.””

What’s different? Are they not her in laws? The only difference I see is they have more children to contribute theirs, his parents only have him.

I wouldn’t even fix my face to ask my husband to dish out money for my parents when he has his own parents to care for, even more so if he’s any only child. I can see him helping out with this and when it comes time for his parents retirement nobody will have anything to contribute. She clearly doesn’t care about him or else she’d see how messed up this is.

He sounds like he makes enough to be able to find another wife. fukk her & her broke entitled family.

 

[TRUEST]

If you’ve got your own parents to worry about then you would be a perfect fool for struggling with this common sense decision.

Suppose you care for her parents until they’re gone. Then she decides to get a divorce? And takes the house from you. Then what? Oh you didn’t think of that? The fuccking nerve of some of y’all living reckless out here.