A woman that rejected me 12 years ago seems to now be interested in dating me, is this something I should pursue?

[Morose Polymath]

I had this happen once, when I returned home after college. Though I never asked the woman out, she was the sister of one of my friends.

She asked me when was I going to take her out? Mind you she has two children by two different fathers and one was in prison. I just looked at her and resumed my question of where was her brother.

Later, she saw my new car, asked how much I pay a month for it, and then proceeded to state I could not afford to take her out after receiving my answer. Joke was on her though. My car payment was less than 1/5th my half-month pay at the time. I burst out laughing when she said that, as I climbed into my car.

Damn big dawg, you really showed her

 

[Commish]

Comments making me proud.

this one got me cookin tho'

"My brother in Christ, you aren't the backup plan. You are the 10 years later plan. Nobody randomly thinks of some person from 10 years ago and sends them a message because their feelings changed. How could her feelings change? You haven't even kept in touch. She doesn't even know who you are anymore.

What did change is her life circumstances. You probably got your shyt together, maybe a house, good paying job. She's got two kids she may need to provide a father figure for.

Hard pass, my guy. Go find someone who thinks you're the shyt, not someone willing to consistently overlook you for a decade. "

I agree with the above^^

Personally, I don't see any issue with the woman wanting to shoot her shot. Iish happens.

But, that doesn't mean the guy has to entertain her interest. Of course her circumstances changed. Everyone's circumstances change. Some for the better. Some not.

Thing is..

Dude may still be attracted to her, otherwise he wouldn't be conflicted. But, this time, he will have to deal with her as a single mother. So, is he willing to accept everything that comes with dealing with a single mother?

I wonder what he will do?

 

[Rozay Oro]

This thread is hilarious

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

At my age, a single mother is no big deal to me......if she has ONE kid (or her child is an adult). It's not that difficult to manage and the sacrifice isn't that significant if you truly love the woman you're with.

When you're talking a single mother with 2 or kids, you're stepping into a situation where the responsibility you're taking on is flat out unreasonable and just not worth it. The financial implications are just downright absurd for kids that aren't even yours. You're now needing to purchase homes or apartments with 3 or more rooms and that's just the start because there's higher bills all across the board. A man has got to be a complete fool to sign up for that.

 

[DJ Paul's Arm]

The simple fact that you made a thread about this

Spoiler

 

[Henny and_ HotWings]

Smash and dash my friend…. Nothing more

 

[big bun]

I'd go. Coffee date, catch up, and another chance to show her she messed up. Be as courteous and charming as possible, say your goodbyes, and if she hits you up again tell her you would like to just be friends. She'll get the message.

Petty me would do this.
Adult me would just ignore all communication from the jump.

 

[UnQuantized]

Self respect above everything. No chick is so special that you have to have her.