After a first date you should delete her number

[Ashley Banks]

this shyt doesnt apply to introverted chicks, just do whats feels good to you at worst she is not interested then kim

This.

I usually just wait for the guy to call me because I feel like I'm bothering him if I call him. and if he doesn't call, I assume he doesn't like me.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

if you took a woman out on a date you've already gone after her...you've displayed interest by investing time and money into her that you didn't have to

Exactly. So after that, why is calling her the next day a simp move? Ol "Oh he called me so he must like me so I don't like him anymore." ass nikkas in here.

 

[MikelArteta]

The premise of this thread is true. The delete number part makes no sense. Are you worried you might cave in and text her? Sound like you have some real issues if thats the case.
But obviously you would just keep her number saved and wait for her to call you. In 2013, we go too much shyt going on to chase hoes like nikkas in the 90s did. GIve her your number take her out once and then she should be fully on the dikk or get the fukk outta here. nikkas really trying to woo girls over in 2013 ::

nah not worried i might cave ,

 

[MikelArteta]

Well if you want to lose another opportunity of hanging with greatness due to your fear of bothering you don't deserve it

This.

I usually just wait for the guy to call me because I feel like I'm bothering him if I call him. and if he doesn't call, I assume he doesn't like me.

 

[BezO]

If it works for the OP, I'm not knocking it. Like others have said, letting her initiate the next contact ain't a bad idea, but personally, I'd like to know who's calling.

But I don't use that method. I tend to be the aggressor. I've never given my number out to a chick I just met & waited for a call, for example. In fact, the few times women hit me with, "I'll take your # instead", I took it as they weren't interested.

What I don't do is call a chick after a date to thank her. I planned, I paid, I may have even picked her up. She's thanking me.
I'm also not calling to tell her I had a good time. If I had a good time, I said it during or after the date.
I'm not calling to remind her she looked good. If she looked good, again, I already told her that.

What I am calling for is what I called for the 1st time. To set up a date. The whole point is to sleep with her and see where things go. Why would I not call?

Unless I'm seeing a chick regularly, calls are short. "How are you? How has work been? Word, that bytch at your job still gettin' on your nerves? Sounds like you need a drink. I just went entertainment shopping, picked up some liquor, wine, some of that and a few movies. What type of movies you like? Word? I just got that new shyt. Come over Frida night and get this weekend started. Aight, I'll hit you Friday.

About the only concern I have with calls is I don't want to initiate all the contact. If I called, say, 3 times, I might wait to hear from her. Even then, as long as things go smooth when I call and she's not hittin' me with "Let me call you back" or "I'm busy this weekend" I'm not sweatin' it.

I know when a chick likes me. What I don't know is how she'll behave. Some women are shy. Some are old fashioned. Some want to see if I'm still interested after a 1st date. Some got enough men calling where they don't feel the need to call. If a chick wants to sleep with me, why would I let any of that get in the way?

 

[opulence]

Some of you all will be alone for a very long time. ...

 

[MikelArteta]

Some of you all will be alone for a very long time. ...

Im a black man 28, no kids, a career, no criminal record with a baby face. I'll never be alone .

 

[opulence]

Im a black man 28, no kids, a career, no criminal record with a baby face. I'll never be alone .

I did not quote you love...


Although I would imagine your personality would probably clash with certain women if you act as you do here offline. ...

 

[My neck and my back]

Exactly. So after that, why is calling her the next day a simp move? Ol "Oh he called me so he must like me so I don't like him anymore." ass nikkas in here.

it ain't a simp move to call but if i guy just took a female out on a date she needs to be calling him to thank him for showing her a good time...if dude coming out of pocket and spending his time with her it shouldn't be anymore shyness or uncomfortableness between them for where she's afraid to call or text

 

[BlvdBrawler]

it ain't a simp move to call but if i guy just took a female out on a date she needs to be calling him to thank him for what for showing her a good time...if dude coming out of pocket and spending his time with her it shouldn't be anymore shyness or uncomfortableness between them for where she's afraid to call or text

So how does deleting her number help precipitate this?

 

[My neck and my back]

So how does deleting her number help precipitate this?

my post was addressing the whole basis of just waiting for her to call back but if some dudes can't restrain themselves then deleting the number helps

 

[opulence]

What you all are missing is all "rules" cannot apply to all of life circumstances or people you come across....you may miss out on a good person trying to assume they fall into a category because of their actions. ..or treating everyone the same ...


Dating rules should be thrown out of the window. ...

 

[Ziggiy]

If it works for the OP, I'm not knocking it. Like others have said, letting her initiate the next contact ain't a bad idea, but personally, I'd like to know who's calling.

But I don't use that method. I tend to be the aggressor. I've never given my number out to a chick I just met & waited for a call, for example. In fact, the few times women hit me with, "I'll take your # instead", I took it as they weren't interested.

What I don't do is call a chick after a date to thank her. I planned, I paid, I may have even picked her up. She's thanking me.
I'm also not calling to tell her I had a good time. If I had a good time, I said it during or after the date.
I'm not calling to remind her she looked good. If she looked good, again, I already told her that.

What I am calling for is what I called for the 1st time. To set up a date. The whole point is to sleep with her and see where things go. Why would I not call?

Unless I'm seeing a chick regularly, calls are short. "How are you? How has work been? Word, that bytch at your job still gettin' on your nerves? Sounds like you need a drink. I just went entertainment shopping, picked up some liquor, wine, some of that and a few movies. What type of movies you like? Word? I just got that new shyt. Come over Frida night and get this weekend started. Aight, I'll hit you Friday.

About the only concern I have with calls is I don't want to initiate all the contact. If I called, say, 3 times, I might wait to hear from her. Even then, as long as things go smooth when I call and she's not hittin' me with "Let me call you back" or "I'm busy this weekend" I'm not sweatin' it.

I know when a chick likes me. What I don't know is how she'll behave. Some women are shy. Some are old fashioned. Some want to see if I'm still interested after a 1st date. Some got enough men calling where they don't feel the need to call. If a chick wants to sleep with me, why would I let any of that get in the way?

 

[Medio]

OP, I like and appreciate your advice but if i'm not mistaken you always preach about not playing games and stuff with these women and throwing to them bushes. and by waiting to see if she responds, that's just you playing games.

What you're saying can work also but it just shows a lot about yourself, i'm not trying to throw shots but there's an inner issue with yourself that you NEED her to hit her up first because that makes you feel better about yourself? or you've been hurt and you really want a girl who is into you. I can understand that.

But there's nothing wrong with texting a girl first after a date, but let her do it sometimes also, don't let it be one sided. That's how I feel about it.

 

[YouMadd?]

see again y';all misinterpreting what im saying, i never said wait to call. I said delete the number and go on with your life if she hits you up cool if not then cool who cares.

Actually my advice keeps you the "mysterious, why wont he call" nucca,.

2nd I never said I wanted these chicks, when I go out on a date, its doing something i want to do the broad is just tagging along i could care less if i ever see or speak to her again. If she wants to she can hit me up and maybe I will bless her with the opportunity to tag along on another evening and if not

Actually I am a guru on dating, I've dated women from all across the world, different races, different ages, different social class. I've dated white girls, asian girls, middle eastern, black girls, hell even a albino chick, i've dated broads as young as 18 and as old as 34, i've dated hs dropouts and girls with their mbas and phds, ive dated unemployed chicks and ive dated lawyers. I've dated skinny broads and chubby chicks.

But why do you need to delete her number? Can't this all be accomplished by simply just being a busy person and not having time to call her?

This sounds like good advice for people who sit around with nothing to do but worry about a girl they went on a date with...