Most women have always been like this
Women simply are no longer are gonna date a man they not attracted to because they rather hope they can lock down the guy with options they really are attracted too
Most bw are poor so finances isn't the issue
Social media def changed it
Women who are 4 or 5 got 20 men in they dm
And men willing to simp hard for sex
The better looking the more they simp
It wasn't like that 10 or 15 years ago
But this will mainly only affect awkward black men and average and below
Athletes
Rappers
Corporate black men
Handsome gang
Hood dudes
Are the desired
Broke
Square
Awkward
Avg and below
Are undesired
Rinse and repeat
Nah. There’s a major difference in the opportunities afforded to women today vs in the past. Here’s a couple of reasons why:
Safety: Women in the past were far more vulnerable than they are today. Women living alone back in the day was unheard of. Why? No security systems, less female access to firearms, less integrated protection services. Most women in the past literally went from living with family to living with husbands to living with children in old age. Today, because of many innovations in technology, changes in city development and safety measures, far more women live alone and relish it if they can afford to. In fact, a lotta men don’t know, but it’s an unspoken rule amongst a lot of women that popping in your 20s and 30s= living in your own lil
spot, and being able to pay your bills and car note without having to rely on a guy. It’s easier and preferable, especially for women, to go to college and get your own spot in your 20s and 30s—THEN focus on marriage while working on your career. Nothing like your own space. This shift in many women’s mindset from being hyperfocused on marriage for safety, to wanting to have a period of time on their own, impacts the dating scene. Women less pressed about it.
Economics-Some women still struggle with poverty, but many have taken the plethora of economic opportunities afforded to them today and RAN with it. There’s literally shyt tons of ways to make income and a lot of women are bossing up so much. So that takes some is the pressure off the need to get married immediately or quickly too.
Society- In the past, women were highly castigated if they lived alone. They were shamed, looked at with suspicion and shunned in many communities. “Old cat ladies” as u will. Now, a lot of those social shaming mechanisms are over and done. Plenty of people live alone and prefer it. In fact, there’s even a whole movement of women who only want marriage or relationships if they don’t have to move in with men.
So now that those social mechanisms have been relaxed, a lot of the pressure has been taken off women to get into relationships immediately.
Small towns vs. A Whole New World- In the past, many women were limited not only in economic opportunity or due to safety concerns and societal pressures, they were also limited in their mobility. People lived and died in small towns. And if a woman did move, it was mainly do for marriage. In these circumstances, she only had access to the same small town men she grew up with. These women were tired of the bullshyt attitudes many of these dudes had about gender and marriage, but they didn’t have a choice. It was either put up with his bullshyt or continue living with your parents and be shamed as a weirdo. But in modern society, women are moving all over the place. Education and economics made that possible. You got more women in the military interacting with all KINDS of men. shyt tons of women go to college and they exposed to thousands of other men. This opened their eyes that they didn’t have to accept the same small mindsets they may have encountered growing up. It also opened women to the world and infinite possibilities. You got chicks out here starting businesses overseas, purchasing homes, starting businesses, ziplining, swimming with whales, doing so much shyt beyond the very narrow roles traditionally ascribed to women. The idea that a woman could pretty much do whatever she wanted and had the means to do so without necessarily deferring to or relying on a man to do it—it raises the stakes for relationships. Because women aren’t getting into them purely for necessity (unless they choose to). Many women now will only endure some of the worse toxic aspects of relationships if they are highly fulfilling or that’s what they want for themselves. Otherwise, why would or should they?
The simp/social media stuff is just icing on the cake. This stuff has been on the horizon for a minute. You can only see a person’s true colors when their basic needs are met. Women are meeting those needs without relationships. So unless these relationships have something else to offer (true, enjoyable, loving, companionship), chicks can’t be bothered.
And if they do get into a good relatiomship, it better stay that way or chicks won’t hesitate to bounce and divorce if the man she thought she was marrying isn’t who she thought he was.
Long post, but I think people need to understand where a lotta chicks heads are at these days. Unless it’s good, they don’t wanna be bothered.
) and only use dating apps where the male to female ratio is lopsided and women can be selective of who they engage with.
