Alpha Male Strategies Thread

[mag357]

yea, its for the birds.

I really tried tho, she was seemingly the marriage type. Good looking, younger, cooked cleaned and rubbed my feet, west african to boot and believed in all that "man is the king shyt"

But in the end i felt i was sacrificing too much to be dealing with high school shyt that came with dating her (strict parents, no sex, etc)

Pass that chick then bruh

 

[Silkk]

Why didn't she want to fukk?

Cause she had Herpes

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

Okay... What other women do has no influence over what I do. I know that a lot of man don't see any value in getting to know a woman and exclusively dating her before having sex with her, in 2018. I've had friends do what you've said(fukking some other guy, while dating another one that they choose not to have sex with) so I get your perspective, especially if that's happened to you. I'm not a man, so obviously I'm not coming in to this conversation with that perspective. Just like you don't see a value in investing in a relationship without sex, I've never seen any value to having sex with a man that I don't know. And I don't think going on a couple of dates, means I know "you". I see more consequences(physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally) in having sex without caution, and with whomever I like(which is a prevailing attitude that a lot of people have these days), than I do in abstaining from sex until the right conditions are met.

You got to do what works for you, I guess.

I respect this carmel ur post indicate u a classy lady

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Cause she had Herpes

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Very few women above 25 are mentally and psychologically healthy




Next generation of moms gonna be something else

Gonna be having they daughters wearing booty shorts by the time they 12 on some "it's her body !" type of shyt..

I may be thinking negative but anyone raised by a single parent chances of them being a terrible parent are high as fukk. Because they're learning from shytty behavior.

 

[mag357]

shyt let me come from wma different perspective on this because i see most of the thread is stories about a chik who supposed to be celibate but wanted done dikk or sucked some dikk...
Bruh, the bytch is still human... just cause shes trying to be celibate, doesn't mean she doesnt want dikk. shytttttt, she probly wants it more than others because shes horny.
Celibacy is about working on ur self control. Doesnt mean ur a robot.
The flip side is the regular bytches out here... im not even talking stone cold thots.... im talking bytches, who are single and be fukking nikkaz, then get in a relationship for awhile, then single again and fukking nikkaz. Them bytches lives are just a constant chain of dikks... we not even mentioning the random vegas and miami dikks. Those types never had a good thought in their head about just resting their p*ssys for awhile and letting a relationship grow without anything physical...
So as men, where upset or talk bad about females when they cheat, or are known thots... but when theyre trying to do something to better themselves, like not fukking ppl and gain some discipline... We're like fukk that bytch if she aint fukkin...
My nikka, men are confused, just like these women

 

[El negrito de tejas]

Why didn't she want to fukk?

You didn't see in parenthesis that she had genital herpes?

Sucks though she was damn near prototype
Short petite with a nice lil bubble
Juicy lips
Dark skinned
Ex cheerleader at a hbcu
Ambitious
Die hard sports fan

Only issue was she had an attitude but I don't blame her cause her father passed about a couple of months before she graduated college. She was a daddies girl

 

[Entropy Fan]

Gonna be having they daughters wearing booty shorts by the time they 12 on some "it's her body !" type of shyt..

I may be thinking negative but anyone raised by a single parent chances of them being a terrible parent are high as fukk. Because they're learning from shytty behavior.

Their sons too

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Their sons too

 

[MaxPain]

Yall always throw out "your a single mom" as if I should be insulted because I have a child, on some "how dare she have the nerve to even talk" shyt.



Anyway, like I said in the other post that you didn't read, I've always maintained the same attitude about sex, it never changed. I was with my son's father for 6 years, before I got pregnant, he was my first--but I made him wait until I got to know him and had real feelings for him until I was comfortable having sex with him once we were in a relationship, just like with the relationships that took place after I left him. And whenever I have periods where I'm single, I don't have sex. This has always been the same for me. Yes, I've had men look at me sideways after finding out I'm a single mom, that has "standards" about who I choose to let inside my body, most of em' probably thinking I used to be a hoe, or that I'm playing games, or pretending to be something I'm not. It's nothing new. Before I was a single mom, people always made assumptions about my sex life and went with em', no matter what I did or said to prove otherwise. I remember having to defend myself to boys who were trying to say I wasn't a virgin because I didn't look like one, when I was still a virgin. That's how silly people are, they look at a situation at face value--without allowing room for alternatives--and draw their own conclusions. People are always going to judge, or project their own beliefs onto others to fit the narrative they want.

So if people assume that I'm celibate because I used to be a hoe, and choose to use my child as evidence of that, then that's on them. It's not going to change my stance on the value in my life in abstaining from sex.

I wasn’t even tryna insult u, I’m just saying it’s funny how u turn celibate all of a sudden after u have a kidwhich is a result of sex.

Most likely if a single mother says that, she’s playing games and is likely not attracted to u. She prolly didn’t make her baby father wait that long either. Same with ex hoes who are tired of getting pumped and dumped. Now alla sudden they wanna leverage sex.

Whether that’s ur case or not, idc. I won’t be able to tell if ur telling the truth or not for 100% either. So I just advise guys to not waste their time and your time & assume ur lying and move on to the next y’all interests dont match up.

 

[-DMP-]

Pass that chick then bruh

She been back in the wild bruh.

I’m sure she’ll make someone a great wife one day.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

This is not on a misogyny tip, I feel like a lot of you dudes on here or straight dogs lol... But how are any two adults supposed to even consider being in a committed relationship before fukking? That's some romantic comedy pretend bullshyt. You need to know there's sexual compatibility before you start getting deep with all those emotions (goes for male and female). Celibacy for religious/non-religious reasons is all types of fukked up and dysfunctional.

What do you mean by sexual compatibility though--do you mean whether or not it's "good" or "bad"? If that's the measure, you do realize that a lot of women don't orgasm when they have sex "casually"(not being in a relationship and barely knowing someone)? In Hookups, Inequality Still Reigns
Women are more likely to have sexual satisfaction in committed relationships. So they don’t get much out of testing it out with you.

But if you mean sexual compatibility based on other criteria then I can kind of see where your coming from, especially if one person has a low sex drive, the other doesn't, or one person likes oral, and the other doesn't, etc. TBH, without going into detail, I can see how not having that compatibility played a part in my last relationship, lol. Still, I've always been more interested in testing compatibility in the other areas FIRST(which is the foundation of a relationship IMO), before getting into the physical part of a relationship. I think sexual compatibility is important though, and probably equal(in value) to all the other areas of compatibility that people weigh. I just think that it’s more important to consider and build the foundation first(the foundation or what’s important to you in a relationship varies from person to person), because I think it’s risky to engage in sexual activity on a shaky foundation or on no foundation at all. What’s good sex, if that person isn’t good at much else?


I’ve mentioned this on another thread, but every person you have sex with, you tie yourself to from a spiritual perspective. Think about it this way, just like you can get or transmit sexual diseases physically when you sleep with someone unprotected, you can also have things spiritually passed onto you from other people every time you have sex. There are some people that have dark energy, that are crazy, very broken, or that have had tons of sex partners that are broken, and these people haven’t broken any of the tire, they’re them carrying around, so when you have sex with that person your letting them give you all of that “stuff”, so now your carrying it around too. Just because you cant see the physical evidence of what they gave you, like you can with an std, doesn’t mean that they give you anything, or that the negative symptoms aren’t there. Everything we consume effects us, the food we eat, the shows we watch, and the people we let in our lives. Sex is no different. But a lot of us are so fukked from all of the other things we consume, that we aren’t paying attention. All we’ve ever known is ourselves with the same negative symptoms, so we can’t even tell anymore when more bad is being added to us.

When it comes to sex, we can’t just protect ourselves physically, with condoms and birth control. We have to protect ourselves spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. And the best way to protect yourself is to be cautious about who you let in.

Just like most of us who want to be healthy pay attention to what we put in our bodies, by reading the labels, researching, and trying to understand what’s in the food we’re about to eat, that’s the same attitude a lot of us can take with sex. It’s easy to do quick research with food, because the information is already posted for you on the product or online. But people? They don’t walk around with labels on them. You can’t take people at their word, or by stalking their social media profiles, or by going on a few dates where they were able to pull off their best behavior. You have to get to know them. You think you really know someone after a few weeks? Nah. It takes time.

But this is the generation of instant gratification, shallow relationships that are easily disposed, and sex with people you only kind of know... If your truly curious about whether that person is compatible sexually, communicate with them about sex, not just once, but many times. Not on some crass shyt, but just asking questions and being honest when you discuss what you want or like. If you keep talking about it openly, and through the course of the getting to know you process you’ll find out whether there’s potential or a mismatch. You’ll also find out if other areas are right or wrong. And you can do all of this without even having to have sex with one another. And honestly once that foundations built(the core of the relationship) the physical stuff can always be taught.

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

Bruh aint no other way but to ask up front

And even then she probably lie.

 

[mag357]

This is not on a misogyny tip, I feel like a lot of you dudes on here or straight dogs lol... But how are any two adults supposed to even consider being in a committed relationship before fukking? That's some romantic comedy pretend bullshyt. You need to know there's sexual compatibility before you start getting deep with all those emotions (goes for male and female). Celibacy for religious/non-religious reasons is all types of fukked up and dysfunctional.

This, IMO, is untrue depending on the type of ppl...
If ur dealing with women who've had a crazy amount of parnters, maybe.
But if a women isnt really sexually active (celibate), or wasnt really sexually active in the 1st place. Sexual compatibility shouldnt be an issue. basically, when that women is finally ready to give you all of herself... then shes gonna enjoy whatever u give her... seeing that she wasnt getting it anyway. Alot of ppl have had so many sexual partners, with varying levels of experience, that ur right, it might be hard to be compatible.
But Think about it tho... ppl have good sex all the time but cant be in a good relationship with that person...
its kinda how i feel now... i done been with alot of females that could suck a good dikk, ride a good dikk, and take that shyt from all angles.
Aint met too many faithful muthafukaz, who could cook, clean, and Listen to save their life.
People putting sex as the 1 important thing in a relationship, is the reason the world is how it is now

 

[Piri Tomas]

What do you mean by sexual compatibility though--do you mean whether or not it's "good" or "bad"? If that's the measure, you do realize that a lot of women don't orgasm when they have sex "casually"(not being in a relationship and barely knowing someone)? In Hookups, Inequality Still Reigns
Women are more likely to have sexual satisfaction in committed relationships. So they don’t get much out of testing it out with you.

But if you mean sexual compatibility based on other criteria then I can kind of see where your coming from, especially if one person has a low sex drive, the other doesn't, or one person likes oral, and the other doesn't, etc. TBH, without going into detail, I can see how not having that compatibility played a part in my last relationship, lol. Still, I've always been more interested in testing compatibility in the other areas FIRST(which is the foundation of a relationship IMO), before getting into the physical part of a relationship. I think sexual compatibility is important though, and probably equal(in value) to all the other areas of compatibility that people weigh. I just think that it’s more important to consider and build the foundation first(the foundation or what’s important to you in a relationship varies from person to person), because I think it’s risky to engage in sexual activity on a shaky foundation or on no foundation at all. What’s good sex, if that person isn’t good at much else?


I’ve mentioned this on another thread, but every person you have sex with, you tie yourself to from a spiritual perspective. Think about it this way, just like you can get or transmit sexual diseases physically when you sleep with someone unprotected, you can also have things spiritually passed onto you from other people every time you have sex. There are some people that have dark energy, that are crazy, very broken, or that have had tons of sex partners that are broken, and these people haven’t broken any of the tire, they’re them carrying around, so when you have sex with that person your letting them give you all of that “stuff”, so now your carrying it around too. Just because you cant see the physical evidence of what they gave you, like you can with an std, doesn’t mean that they give you anything, or that the negative symptoms aren’t there. Everything we consume effects us, the food we eat, the shows we watch, and the people we let in our lives. Sex is no different. But a lot of us are so fukked from all of the other things we consume, that we aren’t paying attention. All we’ve ever known is ourselves with the same negative symptoms, so we can’t even tell anymore when more bad is being added to us.

When it comes to sex, we can’t just protect ourselves physically, with condoms and birth control. We have to protect ourselves spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. And the best way to protect yourself is to be cautious about who you let in.

Just like most of us who want to be healthy pay attention to what we put in our bodies, by reading the labels, researching, and trying to understand what’s in the food we’re about to eat, that’s the same attitude a lot of us can take with sex. It’s easy to do quick research with food, because the information is already posted for you on the product or online. But people? They don’t walk around with labels on them. You can’t take people at their word, or by stalking their social media profiles, or by going on a few dates where they were able to pull off their best behavior. You have to get to know them. You think you really know someone after a few weeks? Nah. It takes time.

But this is the generation of instant gratification, shallow relationships that are easily disposed, and sex with people you only kind of know... If your truly curious about whether that person is compatible sexually, communicate with them about sex, not just once, but many times. Not on some crass shyt, but just asking questions and being honest when you discuss what you want or like. If you keep talking about it openly, and through the course of the getting to know you process you’ll find out whether there’s potential or a mismatch. You’ll also find out if other areas are right or wrong. And you can do all of this without even having to have sex with one another. And honestly once that foundations built(the core of the relationship) the physical stuff can always be taught.

There's a lot here, so I'll try to address the most salient points.

I think your comment about women more frequently requiring a relationship to fully enjoy sex is accurate with a substantial caveat. As a man who has never had trouble talking to women (homegirls and lovers) I can tell you that plenty of women love their partners authentically, but are not content with the sex, even after plenty of time laying the emotional groundwork, getting to know the other's body. Most of the time, the emotional foundation came before the sex and they find themselves in a serious dilemma. Just because women are more likely to require that deeper bond doesn't mean they have less of an animal need for certain physical experiences to be purely pleasurable.

I agree that finding a potential romantic match requires laying a foundation that involves everything from humor (shared jokes) to shared worldview, interests, emotional compatibility, etc. However, I learned over the years that you can lay down all of that foundation, but if I don't enjoy sexual intimacy with my partner and she doesn't enjoy it with me, it's a recipe for disaster. One or both parties are going to end up dissatisfied and miserable. It makes no sense to find that out after an extended period of laying a foundation. At the end of the day, career, familial responsibilities, etc. make it inefficient and impractical for most of us to waste 6 months getting to know someone who, you find out, hates everything you like sexually. Your idea makes sense in theory, but it wouldn't be conducive to real life relationship-formation.

That spiritual connection stuff is purely subjective. The point a lot of these brothers are trying to make (albeit inarticulately) is that sex is not the most sacred bond you can share with another person to everyone. It's not just a question of a present-day instant gratification culture. I'm 43 and the way I came up (very rough), alongside most of my peers, was that sex was easy, plentiful and to be taken for granted. Things like loyalty and honesty were much more rare and hard-fought. In my life, I have found it much easier to bare my soul, my secrets to someone well after being physically intimate with that person, not the other way around. And I really think that holds true for most people, both men and women.

When I met my wife almost a decade ago her physical beauty drew me in, and from what she's told me subsequently it was a purely physical magnetism on her end as well. We slept together relatively early on. If we had both been closed-off emotionally to meeting someone who could be more than just a jump off then sure, it could have just been a hit and run situation. Instead, we had breakfast the next morning and talked about movies for about 2 hours. The ease of the conversation, shared interests, shared sense of humor made us desire to see one another again, to spend time before and after the sex, eventually open up about things more personal and profound.

If anything, I think this current online dating culture is killing the spontaneity that was always the best part of meeting someone. People are divulging a ton of information about themselves without even meeting in person, not even seeing if they feel that same hunger to be around that individual--both physically and mentally (conversation/company)--once they know them as more than just a posed snapshot (often with filters), text message, or disembodied voice. With the exception of very religious people, the physical was always the entryway to something deeper for all of us, not just in 2018.

I appreciate your perspective and personal preference, but believe that it's inaccurate to portray the alternative as fundamentally cheapening sex and preventing people from getting to know one another.