SMH, I didn't watch the video, but not every woman that is celibate is doing it because they were an ex-hoe, or some other reason tied to a past where they may have been sexually "loose". I'm celibate right now, and it has nothing to do with my past--because in the past I always abstained from sex when I was not in a relationship. I've never done casual sex, FWB, or any of that other stuff that is popular these days. I've always had the mindset that having sex is not something that should be casual or with just "anyone" you meet. I've always seen it as an extremely intimate, vulnerable act and I have to really know that person and have feelings for them on a deeper level to go there. And no matter how attractive a man is, unfortunately I've always been the type of woman that does not feel comfortable having sex with him, without having those deeper feelings for him(which takes time to develop).
I always felt anxious or scary about the idea of just letting a man inside of me that I barely knew, or that I had known for a few weeks, no matter how much I was starting to "feel" him, or no matter how much I was attracted to him. Of course there would be times, when I did want to have sex because I was horny, but I knew even then that it was temporary, and that with time those "urges" would go away, but the "act" itself was something that I would not be able to erase, so I chose not to act on it in situations where I might have felt tempted to, because I was afraid of it would hurt me. Me abstaining was never any deeper than that, to be honest. It was never about playing games, or a bad "hit it" or quit experience, or even any spiritual reason, because back then I was not a spiritual person.
But now that I am spiritual and have a relationship with God, it's enhanced my previous position on abstaining from sex. In the past I would "wait" and only have sex once I had truly known and cared for the person on a deeper level, and we were exclusive. Nowadays, it's deeper than that, because I know from a spiritual perspective that I must be cautious about who I let inside of me, as I don't want to create a "soul" tie with the wrong person. So there has to be compatibility, and there has to be a "future" that I can forsee with him (if that makes sense).
Other reasons that I've been comfortable abstaining from sex are the prevalence of STD'S that are going around. I have no interest in getting an STD, and feel like when you don't have "conditions" or constraint(and self discipline) on the people you let inside of you, you are more at risk of transmitting unwanted things, like STDS, bad soul ties, etc.
I won't lie, with all the above in mind, in the last 5 years--especially with my last relationship, it really meant that I had to turn down a lot of men, and that a lot of men were not interested once they found out that I wasn't having sex with them right away. My last relationship was one that was built after being friends first. Nowadays, especially with my age, I know that the average man is not interested in waiting, and does not have my perspective on sex. This is why if I were interested in dating(I'm not right now) I would be on the look out for a man of faith(spiritual) that understood where I was coming from-- a man that understood morals, patience, self-control and self discipline, because really that is what it is about. It's easy to just fukk someone because they look good, or you've vibed for a couple of weeks, but I'm not looking at the short term(things that will fade), I'm thinking about the big picture.
Anyway, I've rambled, but that's just my perspective as a woman that is celibate.