I don't think it's about finding someone similar to you. It's about finding someone that values your qualities.
I'm a six figure breh, and instead of going after successful women similar to me, that are going to factor in looks/swag/social skills the most, I go after broke chicks looking for a provider type. That's the lane with the least resistance.
There aren't enough nerdy woman for every nerdy man anyways, and there's more to someone than being a "nerd". There will have to be some "regular" women that deal with nerds, women that were popular/athletic/cool, and even some that might be labeled "hoodrats". After 35-40 that s**t don't matter anyways. You think a 40 year old hoodrat is going to turn down a 40 year old nerd making $150K?