am i an a$$hole in this situation y'all? only care to hear from brehs and brehettes :yeshrug:

[7th Letter Specialist]

If anything, you are messing up an opportunity and giving yourself a reputation.
It's bad form to constantly make promises you can't keep or say yes to things that you won't follow through with.

Fair enough that you don't want many friends but what really is the harm about having this breh in your corner? He probably sees potential in you and should he be promoted to a senior position, you might be the first one that he would turn to provide an opportunity for.

If you want to salvage things, it might be best to apologise and tell him that you're an introvert or something which is why you were acting flaky about hanging out.

Tbh, he did what u should've done to Lamar, especially after he almost got y'all peeled over there on Grove St. Imagine if Trevor wasn't there to let him know he was getting jipped.

 

[Ricky Fontaine]

You are contributing to that phenomenon and its bad to not be a man of your word but on the other side of things I really wouldnt stress about it too much.

Be like me. I know Im not no friendly type of nikka so I never commit to anything. When I do show up its always a pleasant surprise and people are happy to see me. The main thing is to try not to blow people off.

 

[Paper Boi]

you sound like the sales people at my job

lazy and unreliable as fukk

 

[drederick tatum]

Who else would be the a$$hole in this situation? But I wouldn't so much say a$$hole as just flighty.
If he ends up being your director or having any say in your future upward mobility , you've probably screwed yourself, because now he knows you're flaky and unreliable.

 

[klientel]

If you think dude is a mover who may even eventually be your boss why would you not link with someone like that. Never mind that it’s a breh around your age who is actually solid to hang around.

nikka I hang with my boss everytime I’m in Texas. This is an Indian dude in his 50s….we have nothing in common and nothing besides work to talk about. Yet dude thinks I’m the coolest MF on the planet, and my reviews reflect that. Despite me being average actually my last review was “high value, exceed expectations”.

Gotta play the game.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Change your name to “Bornbytch”.

The worst traits a man can have is weakness and inconsistency: neither are forgivable in social/relationships settings.

 

[Born Rich]

@Commish I'll rep you when I can, breh...

 

[Born Rich]

after reading some of y'alls perspectives i'm realizing it's less me not wanting to build wit breh and more me feeling like I don't have the time to do it...

i'm only in town a couple weeks out the month and between spending time wit my lady, spending time wit my parents, spending time wit my brother, linking up with the homies, going to they gym, doing school work, I don't really have time for other shyt...

definitely overextend myself initially and i think just bein straight wit breh and keeping shyt professional is the best way to go...we're in two different departments tho, so he has no baring on my career trajectory...even if he did i'm not the type to be buddy buddy just because somebody can do something for me...

 

[Commish]

after reading some of y'alls perspectives i'm realizing it's less me not wanting to build wit breh and more me feeling like I don't have the time to do it...

i'm only in town a couple weeks out the month and between spending time wit my lady, spending time wit my parents, spending time wit my brother, linking up with the homies, going to they gym, doing school work, I don't really have time for other shyt...

definitely overextend myself initially and i think just bein straight wit breh and keeping shyt professional is the best way to go...we're in two different departments tho, so he has no baring on my career trajectory...even if he did i'm not the type to be buddy buddy just because somebody can do something for me...

It's all good! Always do what's best for you! When I replied to this thread, I simply wanted to remind you that there is such a thing as cause & effect. You can believe in it or not. I know that for me, I strive to treat people how I would like to be treated. If said practice works in my favor, then great. If it doesn't, then cool. At least I did my due diligence!

 

[Carl Tethers]

OP sounds like a fukking fakkit

 

[4-Rin]

If you don't want to link up with him say so instead of ignoring his texts. He won't mind you being upfront. Ignoring him is potentially burning a bridge, everyone including him can see you're an unreliable flake who's word means nothing.

You don't want a rep like that. Why are you exchanging numbers with coworkers you don't want to kick it with anyway? I bet you even ask him for his number

 

[perfectblack999]

You should hang with him at least once. You never know when you’ll need somebody

 

[perfectblack999]

And yes you’re contributing to black men not building with each other. He’s about his business. See if that helps you