Am I crazy or are bars/clubs now the WORST spots to pick up women?

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I consider myself an attractive man. I’ve been told I’m attractive often. I get “looks” in public often. I had a decent body count in 2018, I was thinking of how I got with most of them and I’d say it was in the following order:

1.) Meeting them and getting a co-sign through mutual friends
2.) Meeting at “non-social” public spaces, like the gym, library, etc
3.) Internet. Social media.

I had only one one night stand via the bars/clubs last year despite going out on probably a bi-weekendly basis. I look around at the end of the night, and see most guys going home empty handed, even the top tier ones. Groups of men who come together looking to score all end the night still together with no bytches. The only men going home with p*ssy, usually came there with the girl to begin with and did not meet her there.

It’s not for a lack of effort or looks. I can attract women at a bar and even drum up a long lasting convo or get a dance. I can do enough to nab social media or a number and sometimes later with enough work and communication get the p*ssy.

But for the most part it feels like women met via nightlife either aren’t with the one night stand or will give out their contact info but curve later on. A lot of bytches are also bougie and waiting for their hypothetical NBA player to walk thru the door and spoil them with bottle service. Am I the only one seeing this?
 

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I always had better success with the women leaving the bars/clubs or women at the park or just walking down the street.

I think women in them bar/club scenes be too focused on stunting and have their guard up more...they're sitting waiting for the highest quality dude she can get..then you gotta deal with the potential for a dude to try to start a competition for bytches.
 

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the bar/club has a bad stigma to it anyway. Everyone knows people are looking for something. You can get numbers but the chances of a one night stand are slim. Unless you either find a really drunk female and you meet someone and the chemistry is just undeniable(dancing all night, eye contact, great conversation)
 

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Club is too much of an investment of time and energy, nevermind the money aspect. I would rather talk to a woman anywhere no Earth practically than a club, esp. in San Diego, esp. if we are talking about meeting for first time. I also don't drink, or so drugs, so that is a factor. And I would rather just meet someone, and go out, like normal people, or even directly go somewhere, than try to maneuver for hours and hours til closing time.

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Constant distractions and everyone jockeying for attention of women/men
Dynamics of groups
 

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No....ur not crazy OP.

Granted I have had success at clubs...to compare the amount of time and money wasted there to the actual times I've gotten some p*ssy from it is lopsided and pitiful....

Bars are decent cuz there's less stunting, more laidback vibe, less loud ass music etc but it depends on the bar. Your best bet is everyday game (grocery store, mall, etc). Dating apps are good if u found a lane & social media id u have a lot of followers/clout.

I realized years ago most girls at clubs have men at home, and are only there for attention from men like you (thinking there gonna get laid). It's a waste of time & I only really go for special events or I'm invited.
 

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While I agree clubs/bars are the worst spots to pickup a quality women randomly but nikkas are most definitely still taking chicks home with ease.

Based off the qualities about yourself you mentioned OP it really should be nothing to take a chick home especially with you being able to strike up and carry a convo in a drunk environment. Might just be something missing with you. :yeshrug:
 

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I consider myself an attractive man. I’ve been told I’m attractive often. I get “looks” in public often. I had a decent body count in 2018, I was thinking of how I got with most of them and I’d say it was in the following order:

1.) Meeting them and getting a co-sign through mutual friends
2.) Meeting at “non-social” public spaces, like the gym, library, etc
3.) Internet. Social media.

I had only one one night stand via the bars/clubs last year despite going out on probably a bi-weekendly basis. I look around at the end of the night, and see most guys going home empty handed, even the top tier ones. Groups of men who come together looking to score all end the night still together with no bytches. The only men going home with p*ssy, usually came there with the girl to begin with and did not meet her there.

It’s not for a lack of effort or looks. I can attract women at a bar and even drum up a long lasting convo or get a dance. I can do enough to nab social media or a number and sometimes later with enough work and communication get the p*ssy.

But for the most part it feels like women met via nightlife either aren’t with the one night stand or will give out their contact info but curve later on. A lot of bytches are also bougie and waiting for their hypothetical NBA player to walk thru the door and spoil them with bottle service. Am I the only one seeing this?

So you got one night stands through your firend circle, the gym(or library), or the internet?
 
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