AM I the only one that thinks this is bullshyt?

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I hate that a segment of our community are man children that don't know how to make a decision and stick with it

If you married, and its not working leave, don't defer to a side chick because she listens to your bullshyt because she don't have to be up under you 24/7

It's more to life than a p*ssyhole

This old grey nikka is handing out excuses to men abandoning their children and homes because a side hoe gives a safe space

That space is safe because she know ya dumbass is leaving and you aren't hers to keep, so you can run around and do fukk shyt and she ain't gotta deal with it

Why should you be honored when you don't even honor your family and commitment to God

I don't have a wife and kids yet, but jeesh, grown ass men that don't hold themselves accountable shouldn't even reproduce
 
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Kiyoshi-Dono

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Petty Vandross.. fukk Yall
You lacking perspective
Even the best woman with the greatest intentions can sometimes turn miserable after that wedding ring is placed on her finger
Many people lose themselves when they get married
People start give up their agency in the hopes to be something to someone they ain’t
Or women stop having sex with their husbands and make the job, children and lack of chores done by said husband the catalyst for not giving yams anymore
So what does a nikka do
He finds a woman that mirrored what his wife used to be
Now I will agree with you about putting kids in a fukked up situation or simply leaving if it ain’t that good no more
So I’ll give you that
But generally speaking men and women leave situations for far less
Now am I excusing this behavior
No
I’ve been a side nikka before and the dynamics make you see the worst in human beings
And at the time I didn’t have high self esteem nor did I actually like women
I just used them because I wanted to watch the world burn from being hurt so many times
And I damn sure didn’t give a fukk about her nikka at home
Which I think he was trying to talk to but didn’t elaborate very eloquently
When you cheat on someone or are a side nikka
It’s more of a feeling within yourself
You hate something about yourself or you cant convey the issue so you act out
Many main women start to little boy nikkas in marriages
So I get what he is saying about safe space
But to your point the other woman doesn’t have to deal with him on a constant basis
I see that as well but the only caveat to that is
Women eventually want to be seen as that man’s number one
And sometimes, not saying it’s right
Muthafukkas like competition or saying they did something
Which leads back to something broken inside that individual on both sides
I know for me, I’ve never cheated but I’ve had conversations with exes that did
Or when I was a side nikka
I would have conversations with the chick I was knocking off on why they are doing what they are doing with me
And it always came back to that brokenness inside
Again, I’m not saying it’s right but nothing is ever a straight line like you are trying to post in your op
Humans are fukked up and make tons of mistakes due to ignoring inner core issues until sometimes it’s too late
I think the overall message is him trying to get black men into healthy spaces to let this shyt out and not be self destructive
The messaging is weird but I understand
Many of you have this superiority complex
Right/Wrong
Idealization of the world
That’s how I know you young or inexperienced with life as a whole
When you reach my age and been through some shyt
Your perspective on all this shyt you think you care so passionately about changes
And you start seeing what this world truly is
 

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I don't even cheat so I agree with the core of your argument but you're coming off like a sanctimonious bytch homie, might wanna dial back that passive aggressive tone. I can literally hear your voice cracking reading this.

For me, not cheating is about ME not her because I hold myself to a certain standard and I'm not going to compromise that for nobody and nothing. You commit to something, you put your word on that then you owe it to yourself to keep it and if it's flipped into some other shyt, you state that clearly and move accordingly. Somebody be damned if I'm going to sneak around as a grown ass man.
 

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Men cheat because they want something new.

Whole lot of faithful women who are no longer young, super pretty, the size 4-6 they were in the past, who get cheated on too 🤷🏾‍♀️


Ppl do messed up shyt
 

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I hate that a segment of our community are man children that don't know how to make a decision and stick with it

If you married, and its not working leave, don't defer to a side chick because she listens to your bullshyt because she don't have to be up under you 24/7

It's more to life than a p*ssyhole

This old grey nikka is handing out excuses to men abandoning their children and homes because a side hoe gives a safe space

That space is safe because she know ya dumbass is leaving and you aren't hers to keep, so you can run around and do fukk shyt and she ain't gotta deal with it

Why should you be honored when you don't even honor your family and commitment to God

I don't have a wife and kids yet, but jeesh, grown ass men that don't hold themselves accountable shouldn't even reproduce
FACTS
Nothing but facts. There are a lot of grownups out here that are weak mentally, lack discipline and unfortunately are producing children in broken homes and passing their undesirables behaviors on to the next generation. It's a big, sloppy mess!
For those that do have their households in order and are actually raising our children together with our spouse, who the hell are our children supposed to eventually marry???
 
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