Any of y'all ever put a bish you met online in her place?

[blackzeus]

So I'm talking to chick online, who was looking nice and thick, so I say let's meet up. Turns out she is cute in the face as per photos, but in her photos she was thick (legit thick, not fat), but in real life she was somewhat past thick, more like chubby. Even for f*ckbuddy status I'm kind of picky, but being as we was already out, I wanted to be a gentleman, we had some ice cream and chatted for a bit, and then I took her home. Now she's hittin' me up for a second date (). The g in me had to tell her out it is, that she looks good, but until she drops the weight, we can't be seen in public, but she could still top me off/f*ck if she's still down. She started breaking down and calling me superficial, and she told me that she was already in the process of working out again to drop the extra pounds, bla bla bla. Everything else is on point, educated, financially independent, etc.

Fellas: Am I wrong? Should I have just lied to her, but on the real treated her like a sidepiece never to be seen in public?

Ladies: Am I wrong? Should I be less superficial, and tell anyone who calls me a chubby chaser to f*ck off?

I really feel like sh*t for having to be straight up, but her online photos were only semi-accurate, what's a nikka to do?

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

Being blunt is a double edge sword my friend.

In a lot of situations it'll work in your favor

...in this situation it may or may not. I dunno if she's gonna be with the dude who dissed her.... but if you would;ve related it back to her how she portrayed herself in her pictures and made it seem like she kind of wasn't being honest and that u were expecting her to look like that... shyt would've ended up a little better.

 

[Tunez]

 

[1thouwow]

We should have been put these hoes in their place.

 

[Raava]

I always pick honesty.

She was wrong for the misrepresentation, but you were wrong for how you said it. You could have said she wasn't your type to date and you would still mess around with her. I just don't see the point in being mean for no reason. Always be straight up tho, superficial or not. There is nothing wrong with having a preference either*

 

[flea]

You are gay

 

[no.]

If she's your type except for the extra weight, then yes, it's inherently shallow to reject her just based on that. But listen, being shallow is not a crime. It's NOT a big deal. People turn down others based on looks all time. It doesn't make them bad people.

The thing is, if you like her and if she is in process of losing the weight, then you might consider making a long-term investment. If not, the worst that can happen is she drops the weight later and then you regret not getting with her. But by then you might have already got another chick anyway.

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

You're fat so I don't want to be seen in public with you

 

[Illuminatos]

Breh, I can't give you a correct answer until you put some pics up.

 

[aXiom]

She lied with her pics, if she hadn't she wouldn't be feeling some type of way now. You were honest, and even though it was a bit harsh you saved yourself future headaches.

 

[blackzeus]

Being blunt is a double edge sword my friend.

In a lot of situations it'll work in your favor

...in this situation it may or may not. I dunno if she's gonna be with the dude who dissed her.... but if you would;ve related it back to her how she portrayed herself in her pictures and made it seem like she kind of wasn't being honest and that u were expecting her to look like that... shyt would've ended up a little better.

It was working in my favor at first to be honest, we're chatting right now, she admitted that I'm keeping it real, then she went into this whole spiel about how she went bulimic in the past trying to keep her weight down, then she broke down () and said it's better we meet when she drops more weight I really feel like sh*t now

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

It was working in my favor at first to be honest, we're chatting right now, she admitted that I'm keeping it real, then she went into this whole spiel about how she went bulimic in the past trying to keep her weight down, then she broke down () and said it's better we meet when she drops more weight I really feel like sh*t now

LOOOOL she can still give you head tho for now.. how much weight she gotta lose anyway?

 

[blackzeus]

I always pick honesty.

She was wrong for the misrepresentation, but you were wrong for how you said it. You could have said she wasn't your type to date and you would still mess around with her. I just don't see the point in being mean for no reason. Always be straight up tho, superficial or not. There is nothing wrong with having a preference either*

I actually invited her out to the movies (I figured it would be dark ) But she wanted to go to a restaurant, and being that it was Saturday, I just had to break it down to her why I didn't want to go.

She lied with her pics, if she hadn't she wouldn't be feeling some type of way now. You were honest, and even though it was a bit harsh you saved yourself future headaches.

I can't see she lied with her pics. It's not like she's obese, she needs to drop about 15-20 lbs. But I just can't do chubby in public I guess I'm f*cked up.

You're fat so I don't want to be seen in public with you

I could give a f*ck what people think. If my wife was fat so be it, f*ck you nikkaz But I'm in my prime, towards the end actually, I gotta be spending it with 8.5s and up brehette.

 

[ugksam]

It was working in my favor at first to be honest, we're chatting right now, she admitted that I'm keeping it real, then she went into this whole spiel about how she went bulimic in the past trying to keep her weight down, then she broke down () and said it's better we meet when she drops more weight I really feel like sh*t now

yeah you went way too far by saying you couldnt be seen in public with her, thats gonna give her a complex about her weight.

 

[blackzeus]

[quote="honestly?, post: 7615311, member: 15116"]If she's your type except for the extra weight, then yes, it's inherently shallow to reject her just based on that. But listen, being shallow is not a crime. It's NOT a big deal. People turn down others based on looks all time. It doesn't make them bad people.

The thing is, if you like her and if she is in process of losing the weight, then you might consider making a long-term investment. If not, the worst that can happen is she drops the weight later and then you regret not getting with her. But by then you might have already got another chick anyway.[/quote]

1) Yeah, basically it, educated, financially independent, and when we went out, her effort was for me not to spend money, she was watching my pockets on the first date

2) Yeah, I was tryin' to flip it into a long term project, even offered to work out with her, but she broke down into some story about her being bulimic in the past and now won't message me back

You see, bishes don't really want honesty. I should have just hip-pocketed her and let her stop by only during certain hours at the crib, but I was just trying to keep it real because I liked her.