This is why although I had to distance myself, I’m not hateful. I know some wild shyt must’ve happened and it was never dealt with.
But, that still affected my upbringing and crippled me emotionally so I can’t be around anymore.
Any of yall got narcissistic family members?
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But, that still affected my upbringing and crippled me emotionally so I can’t be around anymore.
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Yea my lil cuz, breh in jail now for attempted murder. He waited him BM back, she didn't want him. He threaten to keep their son away from her....He showed up on morning to take his son to school (kidnap him lowkey). BM boyfriend was there and they already took him ( 10 am in the morning 
). Cousin found out, got into a fight with the new BF...got jumped by his homies. Cuz got in the whip and drove off...came back and spun the block. Hit everyone but them nikkas. Went on the run for weeks....another cousin is a cop so his ppl was looking at him funny. Theres a vid of it on FB and breh is literally caught in 4k.
Fast forward a few weeks and we convince my cuz to turn himself in. B4 he goes, he tells his son him moms got him in trouble. Once in jail, he's starts cursing out him mom, my aunt about not getting him enough money to survive
then he starts complaining about the lawyer she got him. Apparently, my cousin knows nikkas who got bodies and have done less time then what the lawyer is saying. Mind you, this is happening during Thanksgiving while we trying to eat and mourn the passing of an Uncle.
Now the nikka is talking about snitchin on his ppl..thst side of my family is Blood....Cousin releases the lawyer is right and he's going to be in jail for over 20 years. My cousin wants to sing to do less time. Everyone is warning him to stfu but he don't care.
). Cousin found out, got into a fight with the new BF...got jumped by his homies. Cuz got in the whip and drove off...came back and spun the block. Hit everyone but them nikkas. Went on the run for weeks....another cousin is a cop so his ppl was looking at him funny. Theres a vid of it on FB and breh is literally caught in 4k.Fast forward a few weeks and we convince my cuz to turn himself in. B4 he goes, he tells his son him moms got him in trouble. Once in jail, he's starts cursing out him mom, my aunt about not getting him enough money to survive
then he starts complaining about the lawyer she got him. Apparently, my cousin knows nikkas who got bodies and have done less time then what the lawyer is saying. Mind you, this is happening during Thanksgiving while we trying to eat and mourn the passing of an Uncle. Now the nikka is talking about snitchin on his ppl..thst side of my family is Blood....Cousin releases the lawyer is right and he's going to be in jail for over 20 years. My cousin wants to sing to do less time. Everyone is warning him to stfu but he don't care.
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Thing about narcissists is they project all the time. Like call everyone else narcissistic. And accuse other people of doing the shyt they actually are ones doing. Lol.
OJ Simpsom
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Gaslighting is their main tool of defence. Don't believe a word they say. I always say when you argue with a fool, you don't know who's the fool. Don't take the bait. You will never win.
My biological/birth mother is. I haven’t voluntarily spoken with her in years, but she got my number from someone and called me on my birthday last week.
Go 45 years without an actual relationship with your son, don’t know shyt about my life, never met my children and act like I’m supposed to be glad you called, brehettes.
And the few times I remember visiting her as a kid, it was always fukkery. From her pulling guns on people multiple times, or taking us around her boyfriends while she was married, to starting fights with random people over bullshyt, etc. It’s amazing I wasn’t more fukked up as a kid than I was.
Go 45 years without an actual relationship with your son, don’t know shyt about my life, never met my children and act like I’m supposed to be glad you called, brehettes.
And the few times I remember visiting her as a kid, it was always fukkery. From her pulling guns on people multiple times, or taking us around her boyfriends while she was married, to starting fights with random people over bullshyt, etc. It’s amazing I wasn’t more fukked up as a kid than I was.
TheKongoEmpire
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Stories like these only make me more grateful for my mother. 
Child_Of_God
Jesus is king of kings and lord of lords.
Yep, my abusive dad (not God obviously but my actual biological dad). I cut him off for good though and everything been good since. 
Complexion
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I'm glad to see so much honesty on here as well as actualization, realization and evolution.
One of the things thats vital about all of this is to exorcise the demons of the past that these mind games inflict upon the you within otherwise you'll repeat the Patterns due to the familiarity they present. There are various ways to do this but one of the best is pushing the pen (keys are not the same in terms of neural activation but better than nothing).
Grab a pad and just let the ink flow as your story, feelings and thoughts about back then roll out of your dome onto the loose leaf. It makes a huge difference and often presents a lot of relief as its now "out there" instead of "in here" and you'd be surprised at what you think when seeing the same old same old with a new lens.
The aim of the Game is to be your own best friend and remember what I said about corrosive emotions like guilt, shame and fear simply being street signs on the way to healing and discovering your own true strength so keep that in mind when you feel like shirking or the protective mechanisms of distraction kick in because to name it is to claim it and assert your dominance over what was once unconscious.
One of the things thats vital about all of this is to exorcise the demons of the past that these mind games inflict upon the you within otherwise you'll repeat the Patterns due to the familiarity they present. There are various ways to do this but one of the best is pushing the pen (keys are not the same in terms of neural activation but better than nothing).
Grab a pad and just let the ink flow as your story, feelings and thoughts about back then roll out of your dome onto the loose leaf. It makes a huge difference and often presents a lot of relief as its now "out there" instead of "in here" and you'd be surprised at what you think when seeing the same old same old with a new lens.
The aim of the Game is to be your own best friend and remember what I said about corrosive emotions like guilt, shame and fear simply being street signs on the way to healing and discovering your own true strength so keep that in mind when you feel like shirking or the protective mechanisms of distraction kick in because to name it is to claim it and assert your dominance over what was once unconscious.
BandOfGypsys
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Yes my mother and I suspect my father as the enabler. It's casued me a lot of mental stress and pain over the years honestly. It's also puts you in such a fvcked situation because I love my parents with all my heart but knowing she will NEVER change or even a knowledge what she's done fvcks me up mentally. Especially since it would go such a long way.
Hopefully I can get enough time on the planet to fully recover and have more peaceful days and a better life
Hopefully I can get enough time on the planet to fully recover and have more peaceful days and a better life
NoirDynosaur
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Ditto. My family got a bunch of cluster B traits. Emotional reactions was common peace was a anomaly.
Just discovered I'm machiavellian in the way I move. Calculated in the way I plan things.
Not gonna front most of this came from trauma. In a way, I keep them at arms length.
They get a parking ticket.
"Well, this wouldn't have happened if i didn't have to pick up your prescription"
'That's because you asked me to pick up your mother's birthday cake on the other side of town....and I won't have time to make to the pharmacy before they close'
Her: "That's besides the point"
This isn’t Narcissistic to meMy mother and mother in law are both narcs, but my mother in law is by far worse.
I was working from home 2 days a week pre COVID. I started working from home full time with the exception of a few days I have to be on location, or work at a different office other than my home office. Yes, I have a lot of free time, but some days, I have a lot of actual work to do. My mother in law got into a car accident, and was without a car for a few months, because the car prices were high, and she wanted to wait until they went down. Keep in mind, this woman has over $180K in crypto. (Second story directly involves money) She was having her kids rotate driving her around, including my wife, who was still my girlfriend at the time. Since my wife was working full time, she asked me to drive this woman around a few times. She lives 30 minutes away. I did it, because I wanted to be nice, and she was still cool then. One day, I wasn’t available, because I had to WORK. The next day, this lady sends me nasty messages, and says don’t text back.
She finally got a used Infiniti truck. You’d think it was a Bentley with the way she talks about it. A couple weeks later, I visit my wife at work, her mom is there, and was telling the story to someone. She turned, said hi, and kept telling the story, victimizing herself, as if her going to ShopRite and Target was of utter importance.
To this day, she never apologized, and we don’t speak to her for many other reasons.
Second story:
Her son borrowed $100 from her, and didn’t pay her back in time. She cussed him out, called him all kinds of names. They are currently not speaking over a hundred dollars. Keep in mind, she has over $100K.
@Complexion would you say Narcissistic people are happy? What motivates them?
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I know a kid who brought a knife to school in 6th grade got in a fight and stabbed someone. He was in a juvenile facility with no family by the end of the day. They prolly burned his birth records lol.
If that breh was African he'd be cast out of his entire fam. It's one thing I saw first hand growing up in Kenya. When dudes fukk up like that they have no family. The idea of someone calling me with demands from jail is crazy. Short of being a political prisoner you go down for crime and you basically excommunicated..Yea my lil cuz, breh in jail now for attempted murder. He waited him BM back, she didn't want him. He threaten to keep their son away from her....He showed up on morning to take his son to school (kidnap him lowkey). BM boyfriend was there and they already took him ( 10 am in the morning
Fast forward a few weeks and we convince my cuz to turn himself in. B4 he goes, he tells his son him moms got him in trouble. Once in jail, he's starts cursing out him mom, my aunt about not getting him enough money to survive
Now the nikka is talking about snitchin on his ppl..thst side of my family is Blood....Cousin releases the lawyer is right and he's going to be in jail for over 20 years. My cousin wants to sing to do less time. Everyone is warning him to stfu but he don't care.
I know a kid who brought a knife to school in 6th grade got in a fight and stabbed someone. He was in a juvenile facility with no family by the end of the day. They prolly burned his birth records lol.
My old man is the biggest narcissist I have ever met, but my brother and I have him clocked, dead to rights, so we call him on it, and clown him. If you identify it, it doesn’t have to go any further than a bad personality trait, we don’t let it affect our relationship with him, because we know he loves us and would do anything he can for us, and we feel the same way. I am also a narcissist, at least instinctively, but I identify it, and do everything I can to not let it come out my family/wife/daughter. I think it’s natural to be narcissistic, at least for me it is.