Any Tips Dealing With Being "The Family Screwup"

[trick]

I feel ya but my circumstance is a bit different. I didn't fit my "former" family's mode of thinking/ lifestyle (i.e. limited education, limited job prospects, conspicuous spending but always screaming broke, swindlers/ scam artists, cheaters, etc.) so they deemed me the "fukk up."

Bushed myself. No intention to speak to them ever. It's for the best.

If you actually ARE a fukk up, then get your shyt together.

If you’re not, stop spending so much of your free time listening to and thinking about what they’re saying about you.

Find people who appreciate and acknowledge your positive qualities and spend that time with them because they are the ones who deserve it.

I have shytty family members and removing myself from their influence did wonders for my self esteem and overall outlook on life.

I used to feel like the fukk up and now I see myself as a stand up dude who lives by his own terms and of course there are gonna be people who dislike/don’t understand that.

My mindset did a complete 180.

These are the best answers.

If you've tried everything to be your best self, succeed and they still don't support you, then just stay away from them. @Dog Based Gremlin

 

[Ricky Fontaine]

23. Crazy thing is that I wasn’t even living with them and had already graduated with my bachelors. But growing up my dad hid the fact that my mom was a single mom of my older brother, from us until I was 16. He was ashamed of it. He grew up in a single mom home, and so did my mom. They wanted things to be different for us. I fukked that up.

Damn that's tough.

I know parents want the best for you but do you personally feel as if you fukked up? You were a whole adult making your own decisions by then.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Damn that's tough.

I know parents want the best for you but do you personally feel as if you fukked up? You were a whole adult making your own decisions by then.

If I hadn’t had my son, I would most definitely not be alive right now. After my moms death, my son who was one at the time, is what brought the family back together. My son is the reason I’ve made so many of the positive moves I’ve made. I wanted a baby too at the time, which is how I ended up with him, so no regrets. There are times where I understand though why this is not an ideal situation, luckily unlike my parents situations with their dads not being in their lives, my son’s father is very involved in his life.

 

[invalid]

Caused me to drink and not be on my purpose as well (shout out to AMS)

but they set the bar of expectations too high for me.

They caused you to drink....
They set the bar to high.....

50% of your post is you scapegoating others people for your problems. I know your type.

My advice to you is to STOP.

Be a man. Man up. Own your bad decisions.
And stop blaming everyone for you shortcomings.

The buck stops with you.

You need to make a decision on what type of man you want to be.

The type who goes after what he wants no matter what’s thrown in his path.

Or the type to find any excuse to stop when someone or something blocks his path.

You either bulldoze through or you don’t.