Somebody dapped this post and honestly I had forgotten all about it. This was 5 years ago and things got a lot worse for me before it got any better. I definitely convinced myself that I was completely under control while it was obvious to the people around me that I wasn’t. I’m 100% an alcoholic and I came to that realization probably not too long after this initial post. The whole never drinking in excess thing went out the window. All I did was drink in excess for a solid few years. Went through some shyt and a bad break up or two and my coping mechanism was always the same.I struggle at times with whether Im an alcoholic or not. I don't feel physically reliant on it currently but I have been in the past. But now I'm..managing it. Took a good 3 weeks off drinking earlier this year after a really bad stretch that culminated with me almost killing myself. Was drinking almost a fifth of vodka a day. I live in KY and was typically a bourbon drinker but I have some GI issues and vodka tonics are a lot easier on my stomach.
My unhappiness led to booze as a coping mechanism and my personality led me to believe that it was the only thing getting me through the day. After my unfortunate stretch I sought support and cut off ties with a lot of the toxic relationships in my life. I still drink occasionally now. Haven't drank in a good 4 days. But I never drink in excess and only socially. The thing about me is I'm not stupid. I know issues arise if I drink constantly and in excess. I have goals in life and the idea of living it in a bottle doesn't appeal to me anymore. If you feel you really need help, please seek help. I know a lot of you hate on reddit, but r/stopdrinking helped me when I was in a very bad place mentally.
But for as smart as I think I am I know all it takes is a bad couple of days or one traumatic episode for me to go back to how it was. Maybe one day I can stop completely.
Anyways the only thing that got me to stop was when I found out I think March of this year that I was gonna be a father. Stopped drinking immediately. I just knew I couldn’t be the type of dad I wanted to be and expect to be if I’m living like that. I don’t have any real advice because I did a shyt job really at dealing with my issues until I just absolutely had to face it head on. Good luck to anyone here dealing with this addiction.