Anybody else feel resentment towards their parents?

[NoChillJones]

People always say this as if it's an accomplishment or achievement. You from "the block" or from "the hood" because your parents couldn't afford anything more than what the hood had to offer. But to not want their child to endure the same thing they had to, they will set them up and plan ahead. Whether it be putting money into a college fund, savings account or both.

That isn't "white people shyt" it's smart people shyt. There's no entitlement to it, it's just wanting your child to have a better chance then you (the parent) had.

Nothing wrong with pride of origin breh. Think most people want the best for thier kids.

 

[EndDomination]

Obviously you didnt see what I was saying. To busy being a snob to digest what was actually being said. But do you breh.

You're not saying anything all that deep. Sure, being there for kids is incredibly important, but you can be there and at the same time ensure that you are financially well-prepared and are ensuring that you did everything in your power to ready them for adulthood and beyond.
I know kids who grew up without a dime whose lives are absolute hellholes with no way out because their parents trapped them there. And I daresay there are a lot more of my example than there are of your example.
TLDR: Raise your kids, be financially stable, make sure they're prepared for adulthood, there is no other correct answer.

 

[EndDomination]

I think some of y'all need to read some of those "tiger mother" books that came in the wave that Amy Chua wrote "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother."
Or better yet, some of y'all need to come to a dinner or a college parent organization meeting.
A parent's greatest success is their child's.
If your parent isn't willing to sacrifice everything for their child, they aren't parenting right.

 

[Marc Spector]

my parents are great and if anything i illogically resent them for not prodding me enough to take chances. i hesitate alot on risky decisions because my parents are squares and instilled in me to "take the safe route at all times".

I know it was out of love but man i feel like i have so much catching up to do and im 28.

But heres a story of someone I know who is much less fortunate and who I thought off when i read this thread title.

A friend of mine lives in Birmingham lets call her susie.. Susie went to school, smart pretty girl. Parents never married and has siblings by different fathers....sister on drugs (but has like 4 kids that were put in susies moms name)....brother locked up for murder....so pretty clear that Susies mom while did her best, she couldnt keep all her kids out the streets of Birmingham.....

Not DIRECTLY susies moms fault....but I feel parents do deserve a share of the blame raising kids in destructive environments. Either dont have the fukkin kids or get your money up and fukkin move.

But thats not the end of the story.

Susie graduates schoool is all set to leave Birmingham. But then mom has a stroke. and is now disabled. Cant drive. Cant be left alone for long periods of time. Oh and even better all of susies sisters kids stay with grandma...while susies sister is out in the streets and brother is locked up. No siblings to depend on. All other family has either moved or are too broke to help take care of susies mom.

So now susie is stuck working shyt jobs in birmingham, essentially waiting for her mom to die before she can really move on.

And shes' a better person than me because id wake up every day resenting the fukk outta my mother.

 

[EndDomination]

my parents are great and if anything i illogically resent them for not prodding me enough to take chances. i hesitate alot on risky decisions because my parents are squares and instilled in me to "take the safe route at all times".

I know it was out of love but man i feel like i have so much catching up to do and im 28.

But heres a story of someone I know who is much less fortunate and who I thought off when i read this thread title.

A friend of mine lives in Birmingham lets call her susie.. Susie went to school, smart pretty girl. Parents never married and has siblings by different fathers....sister on drugs (but has like 4 kids that were put in susies moms name)....brother locked up for murder....so pretty clear that Susies mom while did her best, she couldnt keep all her kids out the streets of Birmingham.....

Not DIRECTLY susies moms fault....but I feel parents do deserve a share of the blame raising kids in destructive environments. Either dont have the fukkin kids or get your money up and fukkin move.

But thats not the end of the story.

Susie graduates schoool is all set to leave Birmingham. But then mom has a stroke. and is now disabled. Cant drive. Cant be left alone for long periods of time. Oh and even better all of susies sisters kids stay with grandma...while susies sister is out in the streets and brother is locked up. No siblings to depend on. All other family has either moved or are too broke to help take care of susies mom.

So now susie is stuck working shyt jobs in birmingham, essentially waiting for her mom to die before she can really move on.

And shes' a better person than me because id wake up every day resenting the fukk outta my mother.

Rates of poverty in this category are absolutely insane.
A lot of kids are also trapped by their parent's lack of a backup plan like this. Likely no money saved, no insurance, no plans for healthcare, nothing.
Kids are stuck carrying a burden for 30 more years, no way out.
Its a bad situation. Just have to save up to throw her in a nursing home so you can have a life, as fukked up as it sounds.

 

[Rollo Goodlove]

when you grow up without braces

That'll do it

 

[Rollo Goodlove]

my parents are great and if anything i illogically resent them for not prodding me enough to take chances. i hesitate alot on risky decisions because my parents are squares and instilled in me to "take the safe route at all times".

I know it was out of love but man i feel like i have so much catching up to do and im 28.

But heres a story of someone I know who is much less fortunate and who I thought off when i read this thread title.

A friend of mine lives in Birmingham lets call her susie.. Susie went to school, smart pretty girl. Parents never married and has siblings by different fathers....sister on drugs (but has like 4 kids that were put in susies moms name)....brother locked up for murder....so pretty clear that Susies mom while did her best, she couldnt keep all her kids out the streets of Birmingham.....

Not DIRECTLY susies moms fault....but I feel parents do deserve a share of the blame raising kids in destructive environments. Either dont have the fukkin kids or get your money up and fukkin move.

But thats not the end of the story.

Susie graduates schoool is all set to leave Birmingham. But then mom has a stroke. and is now disabled. Cant drive. Cant be left alone for long periods of time. Oh and even better all of susies sisters kids stay with grandma...while susies sister is out in the streets and brother is locked up. No siblings to depend on. All other family has either moved or are too broke to help take care of susies mom.

So now susie is stuck working shyt jobs in birmingham, essentially waiting for her mom to die before she can really move on.

And shes' a better person than me because id wake up every day resenting the fukk outta my mother.

Not to be in your bisnuess but your still young what you miss out on