Anybody else feel resentment towards their parents?

[#1 pick]

Yeah I think the word resentment is a little strong. Wishing someone had done some things differently isn't resentment, per say.

at folks calling it entitlement. Wow. Or calling it white people shyt.

Generational wealth makes a huge difference. Otherwise every generation goes through the same shyt and reaches the same levels on average. Some of you are clueless.

Blacks deserve a lot of shyt like reparations, no taxes, etc. If you read the history from the ground up to now, you realize we do BUT, that's not an excuse for our failure loser mindset. It's funny we only have this mindset when it comes to wealth, business and money but when it's entertainment and sports, we expect greatness and nothing less.

 

[Turbulent]

This is a horrible post. There is no such thing as entitlement in the Black community. Even LeBron's family isn't entitled.

It's like we are always 30 years behind the trends and wondering why we getting our asses kicked by cacs, Asians and everyone else. I once used to talk to this Black/Arab mixed type of girl who I wasn't serious with but she dropped game on how they moved. It was always on some owning and making life much better for their kids tip. I heard my favorite poster @Elle Driver talk about well give them a foundation. That foundation shyt works for girls and boys who have abilities. The abilities to go to the Ivies and Black Ivies. But most Black folks ain't cut out like that. In that case is when you create businesses and pass it down for your kids. That's why buying generational wealth is vital. I listen to Gary Vanyerchuk and Blacks are so fascinated by him not realizing he got a major head start on them in how to see, view and envision a business from the ground up from the time he was 8. That's part of all he knew so him being a mid tier student is irrelevant as he build the foundation of business from an early age so if school is not for him, he will find something that is. I am telling ya'll, kids ain't stupid. They will join your business whenever they see it as the best option and they know without a doubt, it can provide a nice six figure lifestyle and they can flip it into a better opportunity.

What i said is not the opposite of what you said. If you're a parent you should do everything you can to make sure you're children are straight both financially and mindset wise. I agree with leaving a legacy to your children.

Having said that, if you're the child in the situation and you feel like you're parents should have done more for you, should have created more for you, then you're not gonna go very far in life, have a bytchmade attitude and yes are entitled as well.

 

[#1 pick]

What i said is not the opposite of what you said. If you're a parent you should do everything you can to make sure you're children are straight both financially and mindset wise. I agree with leaving a legacy to your children.

Having said that, if you're the child in the situation and you feel like you're parents should have done more for you, should have created more for you, then you're not gonna go very far in life, have a bytchmade attitude and yes are entitled as well.

You parents should have did for more you. Where is the wrong in that statement. It's not a coding diagram. There is no "if" statement and infinite loops. This shyt simple but getting to where you need to be is complicated and hard.

 

[NoChillJones]

Money is key to being a good parent. What the fukk are you talking about? Ole Good Times ass statement. Wondering why J.J. is a c00n, Michael joined a gang, Selma is probably sucking a cac's dikk is because they failed you my nikka. Now money is not going to make you a good parent is 100% true but without it, you sure don't have control and a nikka without control is food.

Leaving a business is key as it's an option. Look that word up my nikka. It might not be one the child takes but it's an option. I think we undervalue the value of OPTIONS in the Black community severely. Indians in the gas stations don't expect their kid to run them but they have the OPTION to if they would like and they can't find something that better suits their skill-set.

Then you failed as a parent, your job isn't to raise and create emotional retards who can't handle adversity and on top of that their Black. That's setting them up to run to the white for procreating and protection. That's failing too. That's like being in school and doing well on test but failing every lab and you wonder why you didn't pass the class.

It's not a lane for yourself, it's a lane for all especially people who are Black where we don't have as many options in society in general due to the system of white supremacy. Any book would list the shyt I wrote. It's not some secret society magic I just told you about. It's simply good parenting.

Any book reccomends starting a business to leave to your kids as a mandatory requirement for good parenting? You confused ass nikkas ALWAYS go the extreme with your belief shyt. One has shyt to do with the other. Take your Tariq Nashed brainwashed bullshyt to another thread. You can go the route you choose. But that's not the fukking rule.

 

[#1 pick]

Any book reccomends starting a business to leave to your kids as a mandatory requirement for good parenting? You confused ass nikkas ALWAYS go the extreme with your belief shyt. One has shyt to do with the other. Take your Tariq Nashed brainwashed bullshyt to another thread. You can go the route you choose. But that's not the fukking rule.

Since when has Tariq said that? Yes, a lot of business books like the 10x rule talks about it. You act like it's rare and you are acting like a hoe. Step up your cookies.

 

[NoChillJones]

Since when has Tariq said that? Yes, a lot of business books like the 10x rule talks about it. You act like it's rare and you are acting like a hoe. Step up your cookies.

You act like you belief is the golden ticket to parenting...when its a shyt outlook that has absolutely nothing to do with the essence of raising kids. Thats the point. Get off your high horse.

 

[Azul]

Quote, Anyone and I mean anyone that's talking well I have it A LOT Better than others talk is full of it.

Azul, do athletes every say, well, I run jump higher than Larry Bird so I must have it better than them or Chris Brown like, I dance better than the coli posters so I must have it better than them. Even when I played Basketball, if you sucked, no one was like we lost but I am better than Johnson so must have it better than him? No, why, because only a loser would say that. Only a loser.

This is my some of the responses are so offensive. It's shyt losers say. Sorry, but Asians and Indians aren't coming to America saying, I have it better than Blacks so I am doing well. Only loser ass cacs do that who have white supremacy which is a system which makes the most powerless Whites more important in treatment than the most powerful of Blacks. They can afford to be losers. No one else of any other race can afford to be loser. nikkas in this thread have said at least 4 to 5 times that I had it better than others. Like if you were playing sports, would you say that? Only in the loser ass Black culture would that even be a thought. This is the shyt that bothers me. The loser mentality is killing the Black community not as much but damn near as much as the system of white supremacy itself.

First off, I know you aren't calling me a "loser" right? Believe me, I am VERY far from having a "loser's mentality." I am goal oriented and I think a lot about my future. I hate to sound like I am bragging, but I'm almost at six figures (and will go way over it), have more than one retirement fund (which Lord willing, will make me a millionaire before I even retire) and I damn sure ain't bringing kids into this world until I can show them the very best. I'm just trying to find a way to diversify my income.

While I stated that my parents made some bad decisions, perhaps I should have clarified that it didn't leave us desolate. It just prevented us from being rich and leaving the hood sooner. While we didn't "struggle" with money, I spent my childhood in an infested apartment building where I witnessed something no one much less a child should never see, my parents discovered a murder scene on our floor (our neighbor), and my brother escaped a mass driveby where almost a dozen ppl were injured/killed. They finally had enough, and moved us out of the hood. They just didn't have the foresight to follow advice to buy in a place that would make us millionaires when cashing out (fortunately since then, they have made some decisions and moves that will make them comfortable when they eventually move back to Africa). We are set up now, they just should have done it sooner.

I said all of that to say that while I understand where you are coming up, you are painting with a pretty broad brush. Acknowledging that they did something to make me not afraid to go the corner store is not the mindset of a loser. So in that way, yes I did have it better than those who've been living in the same project building for generations and have no education and a hard road to get out. I just use the mistakes they made to drive me further.

They recognize their missteps and pretty much made up for it now. That ain't losing to me.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

Slightly, I don't resent them per se but I did and still do wish I could have done certain things without them constant on my back

 

[Elvira Sol]

nikka, I do it all the time.

Love my mom and dad but they weren't built to make it in this country and I shouldn't hate them for their shortcomings, but it was trash watching all my cousins come up, but we stuck in the same shytty house in the hood for 20 years. I had to clothe and feed myself and siblings since I was 15.

I made it regardless, but now I deal with the problem of my parents looking at me as a piggy bank, whenever they need something they ask me because they know I got it and rarely say no.

My mentor warned me not to start giving my parents too much money or they would get used to it and keep asking, I didn't think my parents would be like that. I was wrong.

This is an issue a lot of first generation college students encounter. Their parents haven't done anything to elevate themselves or the family and as soon as one or more children make it to college, they're the cash cow for the family. I've seen students taking out loans and all just to be able to provide for their parents and family back home.

 

[#1 pick]

First off, I know you aren't calling me a "loser" right? Believe me, I am VERY far from having a "loser's mentality." I am goal oriented and I think a lot about my future. I hate to sound like I am bragging, but I'm almost at six figures (and will go way over it), have more than one retirement fund (which Lord willing, will make me a millionaire before I even retire) and I damn sure ain't bringing kids into this world until I can show them the very best. I'm just trying to find a way to diversify my income.

While I stated that my parents made some bad decisions, perhaps I should have clarified that it didn't leave us desolate. It just prevented us from being rich and leaving the hood sooner. While we didn't "struggle" with money, I spent my childhood in an infested apartment building where I witnessed something no one much less a child should never see, my parents discovered a murder scene on our floor (our neighbor), and my brother escaped a mass driveby where almost a dozen ppl were injured/killed. They finally had enough, and moved us out of the hood. They just didn't have the foresight to follow advice to buy in a place that would make us millionaires when cashing out (fortunately since then, they have made some decisions and moves that will make them comfortable when they eventually move back to Africa). We are set up now, they just should have done it sooner.

I said all of that to say that while I understand where you are coming up, you are painting with a pretty broad brush. Acknowledging that they did something to make me not afraid to go the corner store is not the mindset of a loser. So in that way, yes I did have it better than those who've been living in the same project building for generations and have no education and a hard road to get out. I just use the mistakes they made to drive me further.

They recognize their missteps and pretty much made up for it now. That ain't losing to me.

You taking what I am saying wrong. I wasn't just calling you out, I was calling out 4-5 posters who had this, well, I had it better than XnX. That's a loser mindset. We need to kill that. That's how we end up with crabs in a bucket. It is a byproduct of the loser mindset. I see you Azul, and I want you to win. I want you to get that husband you want to build with and WIN. I want @NoChill Jones to win. That's all I want. Black people, winning!

But the words I had it better than... should never come out of anyone who is a non-white much less Blacks mouth. The goal is to create so the next generation can build a fortune unless you are great enough to create one first.

You aren't bragging when you say you are almost making six figures. You should be proud of yourself and want more. I am proud of you. I know you overcame a shyt ton to get to this point.

We gotta kill that mindset period, in reality, I had it better for sports being 6'4 but that ain't gonna provide generational wealth unless I am a dope entertainer who got skills like John Wall or any pro athlete for that matter who gets paid substantially well for it. No one says that. No one. Black, white, etc but when it comes to economics, money and building we got excuses for our parents, ourselves when no one else but cacs are doing that who are truly entitled. Blacks aren't entitled to shyt, even LeBron James.

 

[#1 pick]

You act like you belief is the golden ticket to parenting...when its a shyt outlook that has absolutely nothing to do with the essence of raising kids. Thats the point. Get off your high horse.

There is no gold ticket to anything in life son. This is simple. What were you put on this world for? Are you harming your children even if you aren't physically harming your children. These are questions Asians, Indians and others ask. Why do we take pride in degrees as a milestone and not just an achievement that we are suppose to do. Why are we acting as if being a good guy is an accomplishment when it's not!

These are generalities. This is not perfect but it's a plan and a start.

High horse? This must be something low achieving negros believe in? I am not familiar with that language.

 

[NoChillJones]

There is no gold ticket to anything in life son. This is simple. What were you put on this world for? Are you harming your children even if you aren't physically harming your children. These are questions Asians, Indians and others ask. Why do we take pride in degrees as a milestone and not just an achievement that we are suppose to do. Why are we acting as if being a good guy is an accomplishment when it's not!

These are generalities. This is not perfect but it's a plan and a start.

High horse? This must be something low achieving negros believe in? I am not familiar with that language.

Gibberish...incoherent nonsense.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

I don't give a fukk what it is or where he/she is located...

If growing up you ate every night, had a solid home, didn't get touched or abused, and got supported to the point where you could take care of yourself then you don't have shyt to complain about, figure it out

Yea it could be better but more times than not it could be much worse. We the ones should be resentful towards her parents for raising that dumb ass brat she turned into here



If people have healthy kids and put them in position to make moves themselves then they did their job. Quit thinking anyone owes you more than that

And yall wonder why white people and Asians shyt on us economically

Y'all do know not even Africans have this mindset? My grandmother even tried to make sure she leaves my mom with something before she passess

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

East African parents are usually really lax on college and further education in my experience. At least compared to West African parents. What has been your experience, specifically in Toronto?

You not far off every Nigerian and Ghanaian I know was forced to get a degree that could lead to a high paying job...that mental stress though

 

[#1 pick]

Gibberish...incoherent nonsense.