Anybody else feel resentment towards their parents?

[flea]

it was a question, puta. i dont know why i had to ask tho

Then stop disappointing your green eyed blonde haired cac mom and use a question mark then cracka

 

[Knuckles Red]

Some of the responses are the reason why the Black Community won't get very far. We think thinking ahead and building for the future is "White People Stuff." All groups do this except us. Hell, even Mexicans around my way are surpassing Black people in entrepreneurship.

I grew up with mostly White and Asian kids and they weren't "trust fund babies" per se, but they made sure their kids didn't have to struggle for sh_t. All we're saying is that your job as the parent is to make sure your kids didn't have to suffer and struggle as much as you did. Now how you guys go to the "entitlement" argument, I don't know. Some of you have loser mentalities that will get you nowhere.

They're just projecting their own coping mechanisms that they've had to develop to deal with the hardships they've faced in life. I guess it makes them feel better about their own unfortunate circumstances to call people "soft," or "entitled" for wanting more in life. Some of these people don't think they're worthy, and so I guess the goal is to drag down those who do.

 

[InDePickWest]

I swear you from somewhere different every week

Until you pull up where I say differently, your post is null and void. Pull up where I said I was from somewhere different. It was only last week so it shouldn't take too long.


I'll wait

 

[wickedsm]

Tell me more bout my life.


My friends parents are the reason I'm in the U.S.

And yes I am stressed about student loans.
I don't have the fukkin right to be?

fukk is a 'woe is me'? If that was the case I woulda sat my black ass down and complained but I got up and did something. Y'all kill me with not letting people vent. Ol hold it all inside until you eventually explode ass nuggas

my bad

go ahead and vent
knock yourself out
take a minute to realize how very much worse it could be.

then take some energy and
start planning for how youre gonna do shyt different and better for your children [when you get them]

 

[Arithmetic]

I got my tuition money in the streets. Them long summer days.

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

TC is right. What your parents do or don't do can have a major impact on the trajectory of your life. Kids whose parents provided for them, emphasized education, and gave them resources to succeed will statistically do better in life than kids whose parents weren't shyt. The latter kids have to play catch up later in life. It's perfectly normal to resent ain't shyt parents.

 

[Houston911]

my parents made me 6'2 and i will never go bald

how could i ever resent them?

 

[Edub]

Nah...no resentment fam, life is your oasis, it's up to you to make it do what it do...step 1 seek the father

 

[ignorethis]

nikka, I do it all the time.

Love my mom and dad but they weren't built to make it in this country and I shouldn't hate them for their shortcomings, but it was trash watching all my cousins come up, but we stuck in the same shytty house in the hood for 20 years. I had to clothe and feed myself and siblings since I was 15.

I made it regardless, but now I deal with the problem of my parents looking at me as a piggy bank, whenever they need something they ask me because they know I got it and rarely say no.

My mentor warned me not to start giving my parents too much money or they would get used to it and keep asking, I didn't think my parents would be like that. I was wrong.

 

[Azul]

One of the main duties of a good parent is to provide your kids with the tools to be better off in life than you are. That doesn't even mean you have to set up a million dollar trust fund that will take care of them for the rest of their lives.

That could be teaching them good money management skills. Making sure that they learn a trade. Networking with different people in the community that work in the fields your kid is interested in. Exposing them to different interests and extracurricular activities. Put them in a class for something. Or exposing them to your job. Hell, just being involved in their school community makes a difference. There are many ways to prepare your kids for success. Setting aside money is just one.

Too many parents in the hood think as long as they do the bare minimum then they did their job. That's why you get 3 or 4 generations who stay in the same income bracket. No generation surpasses the previous one because the parents never pass anything on to their kids to build upon. Each generation just reinvents the wheel.

I made a conscious decision to hold off on having kids until I am in a place to not only provide their basic needs (which a lot of people don't even do that much), but to go well beyond that. I want to be able to pay for their college tuition with pocket change. It's a natural instinct to give your kids what you didn't have. But it's like a many black parents actually want their kids to struggle, just because they had to struggle. Shyt is the definition of backwards.

I don't quite agree with the "many black parents want their kids to struggle" part of your post, but some good points were made.

I will say, I did encounter a parent who said "I struggle, why can't _____? Struggle is part of life Ms. Azul." They have lived in the same project apartment for almost three decades

 

[Azul]

And judging by some of the comments made here, my homegirl is "entitled" or should "be grateful" because her mom never bothered to pursue even a basic education, didn't save, had my friend paying an extra G a month to pay her rent, and now has to live with her?

 

[:-)]

I don't resent them but I do wish things were different. I have social anxiety and I struggle with talking to people at times. Very sheltered and I wish I was allowed to go off to a university to get the independent experience (despite the fact that I ended up hating sitting in a classroom anyway lol). I wish I was allowed to work in high school and do extra curricular activities. Hell I even had to beg to play sports. It really messed me up mentally. I'm just now getting out of my shell as a grown woman. Been taking control for awhile now and I no longer let my mother run over me verbally. That was one of the things I had to nip in the bud when I was in my early 20s. Now that it's just mama and I (she's a widow) it's not as bad. My backbone is getting a little bit stronger and we get along better. You'll be fine hun! Hugs!

 

[JoogJoint]

Tell me more bout my life.


My friends parents are the reason I'm in the U.S.

And yes I am stressed about student loans.
I don't have the fukkin right to be?

fukk is a 'woe is me'? If that was the case I woulda sat my black ass down and complained but I got up and did something. Y'all kill me with not letting people vent. Ol hold it all inside until you eventually explode ass nuggas

my bad

As Black People we are suppose to enjoy struggling. Struggling builds character.

 

[JoogJoint]

And judging by some of the comments made here, my homegirl is "entitled" or should "be gratefu" because her mom never bothered to pursue even a basic education, didn't save, had my friend paying an extra G a month to pay her rent, and now has to live with her?

This is why our White and Asian counterparts are winning outchea. Even Hispanics are surpassing us with this. We have to be just "grateful" for crumbs.

 

[BrandonBanks]

Cac posters always showing their pasty asses in these threads. Like we can't tell