Anybody else feel resentment towards their parents?

[blackgentlemenvoice]

White supremacy has f***** you all up.... it broke my heart reading some of the things I read in this thread..

Yes it is your parents responsibility to provide you with a better life. A better future install good values and to show you what the real world is going to bring to you as an adult. You shouldn't know what crack, guns violence are. Those of you who grew up in HOODS, your parents failed you and I am so sorry sincerely.

I grew up in LA, inglewood area to be pacific before we moved to the suburbs. I didn't have the best life but I never saw any violence cause my mother and father worked hard to Shield me from the life until we can move.

 

[wickedsm]

Let me scoot my ass out of this thread.
Ole "woe is me" ass nikkas

 

[EndDomination]

But you also have to understand shyt happens.

What shyt?

 

[the cac mamba]

Dog stop copying me. fukking cornball

you still broke

 

[MF budz]

Technically my grandma and grandpa were able to do that for my mom, aunt, and uncles but they provided an abusive environment that mentally scarred all of them. Are they not allowed to be resentful?

nah that's different. Money or lack of money doesn't make you abusive though. They have every right to be resentful. Are they still like that? But for the most part ppl crying about oh mommy an daddy didn't buy me the new iPhone or some car. I can't stand. My parents didn't have a lot but they always got me the essentials and taught me important life lessons which helped me be a better human and man.

 

[Farrinto]

nah that's different. Money or lack of money doesn't make you abusive though. They have every right to be resentful. Are they still like that? But for the most part ppl crying about oh mommy an daddy didn't buy me the new iPhone or some car. I can't stand. My parents didn't have a lot but they always got me the essentials and taught me important life lessons which helped me be a better human and man.

My grandpa passed and my grandma is still alive but my mom has had falling outs with her over the years. I can't speak for my aunt and uncles, but I know my mom took the worst of it and even has PTSD because of the conditions she had to grow up in. I don't want to get too into detail about it but she said there were days that she didn't know whether they would be treated with affection or get abused and she first contemplated suicide when she was 5 years old . But yeah, to the people who are mad at their parents because they didn't or couldn't buy certain things. When my brother and I were babies, my mom used to eat saltine crackers for dinner to make sure she had enough money to do things for us.

 

[re'up]

Of course, they are flawed like anyone, and those flaws in many ways impacted me. Some are glaringly obvious, an absentee Dad, who didn't pay attention either of his children, carried out affairs and then just left, barely raising a finger in the raising of his kids. A Dad who never talked to his son, or daughter, never gave them much in the way of advice, or guidance, instead was either disinterested, jealous, or resentful of his own children, I don't regret growing up mostly without him, because he's not worth much, but I wish he had been a different person, and obviously, I have been affected by his absence.

Finances....Neither was good with money, I am much better, and I learned it coming up on my own. Communication. My Dad is too egotistical and narcisstic (unable to read other people) and my Mom too sensitive to be effective communicators, and I am glad I didn't inherit these dysfunctions. Judgement. My Mom isn't a good judge of character, and my Dad is just a user, with no regard for anyone but himself, yet is unable to manuver in ways that would have made him much more successful and financially prosperous.

also, I'd categorize 'resentment' as a healthy knowledge of self and your parents, and how you grew up, not a long running grudge that bleeds into your life.

 

[The_Truth]

well if you from the hood, then you know our people are thrown with more bullshyt our way, that prevents our folks from correctly situating their family.

If my folks were making 6 figures than yea, I guess I would expect them to hold it down for the kids, the reality of the situation is much more bleeker tho.

im grateful my parents busted their ass to just keep a roof over our heads,

I cant imagine being aggy cause they aint set up a trust fund for me or help me get a job or something

And a lot of that bullshyt is self-imposed....like having kids you can't take care of.

 

[Booker T Garvey]

I don't give a fukk what it is or where he/she is located...

If growing up you ate every night, had a solid home, didn't get touched or abused, and got supported to the point where you could take care of yourself then you don't have shyt to complain about, figure it out

Yea it could be better but more times than not it could be much worse. We the ones should be resentful towards her parents for raising that dumb ass brat she turned into here

this is my attitude toward the shyt too

but I do often wonder about all these hoodrats with kids by multiple baby daddies

they're not providing their kids with a got damned thing

other than showing them how to beg, lie, hustle, steal - basically anything to get by

I think that falls under the category of what the OP is talking about too

 

[FreddyCalhoun]

It's taboo to talk about it but damn, my parents ain't plan or nothing.

Everything I do I do without help which is fine but sucks some parents hooked their kids up.

The cold hard truth is if your parents didn't plan for you, you're pretty much fukked if you don't make it yourself.

I love my mom and dad but a lot of the shyt I'm going through now could've been avoided.




easily

I have nonoe towards my mom....but I do have some towards my dad.


Didn't really develop until I grew up and realized that Dad's do more than pay child support and send money...

 

[Jahmal]

I would hate my parents if they raised me in some crime infested poor black neighborhood

My parents raised me in the burbs, sent me to good schools and a great college

 

[JoogJoint]

I hate to say this, but I truly believe that a lot of Black Baby Boomers set their kids up for failure in the future. I know they bring up racism a lot for the reason they keep being "held back," but many had the opportunity to help the future.

 

[wickedsm]

this is my attitude toward the shyt too

but I do often wonder about all these hoodrats with kids by multiple baby daddies

they're not providing their kids with a got damned thing

other than showing them how to beg, lie, hustle, steal - basically anything to get by

I think that falls under the category of what the OP is talking about too

thats not what op is talking about though.
op is a teenage girl in college in america and shes from canada
so her parents raised her well enough that she has the oppourtunity to continue her education
shes got internet access to complain on the coli
shes got a cellphone to talk to her parents
she goes out and enjoys a social life

op is worked up for having to take out student loans or not having as much money as some of her crew to
run the streets all day every day.

entitled bullshyt.,

 

[The_Truth]

One of the main duties of a good parent is to provide your kids with the tools to be better off in life than you are. That doesn't even mean you have to set up a million dollar trust fund that will take care of them for the rest of their lives.

That could be teaching them good money management skills. Making sure that they learn a trade. Networking with different people in the community that work in the fields your kid is interested in. Exposing them to different interests and extracurricular activities. Put them in a class for something. Or exposing them to your job. Hell, just being involved in their school community makes a difference. There are many ways to prepare your kids for success. Setting aside money is just one.

Too many parents in the hood think as long as they do the bare minimum then they did their job. That's why you get 3 or 4 generations who stay in the same income bracket. No generation surpasses the previous one because the parents never pass anything on to their kids to build upon. Each generation just reinvents the wheel.

I made a conscious decision to hold off on having kids until I am in a place to not only provide their basic needs (which a lot of people don't even do that much), but to go well beyond that. I want to be able to pay for their college tuition with pocket change. It's a natural instinct to give your kids what you didn't have. But it's like a many black parents actually want their kids to struggle, just because they had to struggle. Shyt is the definition of backwards.

 

[Sean312]

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Who's gonna dap this post? Don't be shy now

Average one bedroom in the hoods of Chicago is 6 to 700. Same as the burbs or safer areas. nikkas just stupid. Some people can't be saved. And black people in general don't travel.