Anybody else tend to not want to bother others?

[Fatboi1]

When I think about it, I tend to not "hit up" people and end up going long periods of time of not talking to someone even though I'm perfectly fine with the person. I just never want to feel like I'm bothering someone and I think it's starting to become unfavorable to me because when I finally feel like talking to the person, that length in time of not talking to them feels awkward when reaching out and I'll end up not hitting them up at all.


I'm kind of like that with friends, family, women, co-workers etc.

I don't really hit up friends like that because I just don't really feel like it. I got dudes I'm cool wit that I haven't talked to in a long ass time(months/years). I use the excuse of them just going about their way and stuff and me not being on the same level as them(in terms of interests, hobbies.)

I have family that I don't really talk to(except a cousin of mines). Everybody else I just pretty much only greet when I run into them(and we live in teh same house but on different floors.)

Women I'll just end up not hitting up because I don't want to come off like i'm clingy or w/e. Like we'll talk today and then if I sent her a message last e.g. a reply confirming to talk later, I'll just wait for her to initiate contact again. This one chick who friends with another cousin of mines told me why I'm always away because she don't ever see me come downstairs like that into the other cousin room. I just be in my room doing me and I don't go there because what I look like being in his room?

Coworkers I only talk to are the ones who are close by and I see everyday but others that come here and now I don't really open up to.

 

[Mr.Plan B]

Same way but that cuz my mom told me I talk to loud when I younger so now I hardly talk unless I really know u. Ppl tell me they thought I was stuck up before they get to know me.

 

[Dwolf]

When I think about it, I tend to not "hit up" people and end up going long periods of time of not talking to someone even though I'm perfectly fine with the person.

I have the exact opposite problem. As in I hit people up and go long periods of time not talking to someone. Guess it takes me a while to take a hint
Also, you lowkey antisocial.

 

[KplusK]

no doubt….gotta keep your circle tight no need for a lot of people around all the time

 

[Fatboi1]

Same way but that cuz my mom told me I talk to loud when I younger so now I hardly talk unless I really know u. Ppl tell me they thought I was stuck up before they get to know me.

People say I'm real quiet and I don't talk to no one but I found it funny because I'm really talkative and really funny when I do. I don't talk to people like that unless I got something meaningful to say. I'm not really a small talk kind of person to most people. Once I'm going though I'm easily a loud person and pretty open I just don't open up like that all the time.

 

[Freedman]

Nah seems like most people who frequent the coli are anti social

 

[flea]

I dont really see anything wrong with that. You're a grown ass man.

 

[Jazzy B.]

You subconsciously regard them as acquaintances as opposed to actual friends or close family. Pretty simple

 

[CinnaSlim]

You feel like a bother because you are putting how they feel above what you want. Value yourself.

Raise your confidence. You are worthy of their time and attention.

 

[Lucy]

I'm fully convinced that some of my fellow quiet people aren't as secured with themselves as they claim to be.

Why? Because this kind of thread gets made all.the.damn.time on here.

You're awesome, breh. Don't ever stop being awesome.

How's that for life?

 

[CinnaSlim]

You sound like me. You care about how other people feel (Fe). Remember when getting everyone's needs met, include yourself.

 

[Cake]

Yea i never hit up the homies. They always call first. I guess it's a way of me lowkee protecting my feelings cuz I would hate to call and be disrespected. Dumb if you think about it because they're always happy to hear from me but its whatever.

I also use my place in life as an excuse not to be social. I'm losing right now so I don't have time to kick it unless someone invites me.

 

[TEH]

you are socializing by being on here ... so you are not that anti-social

 

[MikeyC]

I try not to, but as my nigaa Brad once said:

nikkas don't respect to live and let live
So I pack a .40 caliber cause that's how shyt is

 

[Fatboi1]

Yea i never hit up the homies. They always call first. I guess it's a way of me lowkee protecting my feelings cuz I would hate to call and be disrespected. Dumb if you think about it because they're always happy to hear from me but its whatever.

I also use my place in life as an excuse not to be social. I'm losing right now so I don't have time to kick it unless someone invites me.

Lol disrespected? Nah neva that. My homies would hit me up randomly out the blue and we'll chop it up like it's old times again. I just never be the one hitting them up.