Anybody here a loner

[ThrobbingHood]

People seem to conflate being a loner and being lonely. As you said OP, loners like time to themselves. I can’t be around too many people for too long. I like my own time to read, write, think and just relax.

Sadly, that’s not conducive when it comes to relationships. Some women can’t fathom the idea of having an “off” switch and just zoning out.

Classic girlfriend question: “Are you really gonna sit at home all day?”

Yes bytch, I am. Not everyday has to be a damn adventure.

 

[invalid]

My girl and I lead very busy social lives. But I do value the hell out of solitude and try to achieve balance between the two.

During the summer, it’s common for lots of people to leave the city for bustling resort towns to drink, party, and hobknob. I like to rent a remote cottage in either Northern Michigan or the UP just to unwind. I can spend the whole time just being outdoors, hiking, fishing, paddle boarding, bird watching, star gazing, or being inside lounging around, reading, meditating, or building. The stillness, the quietness of it all helps me recalibrate.

Although I’m on the go for most of the day, I try to incorporate some time for solitude in the early mornings. I started crew when I was in college and have continued with it recreationally after I graduated. In the mornings, I use to get up and practice with a sweep team. About a year ago, I switched to sculling, which is rowing without a team, and it’s the most magical time of the day for me. Being on the water at dawn, when everything is still quiet, and the water is like glass, I go into a blissful trance. And then after that’s over, that’s where my peace goes to die-lol.

This is sculling, btw.



I’m also Catholic. It something about going into a quiet empty church during the bustling rush hour just to meditate. It’s very transcendent and brings peace to my soul to hear all the commotion outside the walls but everything is still within.

 

[P90]

Being alone is great because you basically serve a higher purpose on earth and you have no distractions.

Real talk dap + rep.

I am usually...learning to suppress emotional discomfort from longing for others one of the most important strengths I’ve developed

 

[Prynce]

Idk

I can be social and have a good time.
I can be charming but having me time is very important to me

 

[mannyrs13]

I'm definitely a loner and have grown that way over the years. I have no problem talking to people and an friendly once I get to know a person but I like some alone time. My friends tend to annoy the hell out of me at times so I just keep to myself for a while to avoid any issues. Most of my friends got families and I don't, so I prefer keeping to myself and focusing on me.

 

[JesusFOREVER]

Yes and I love it, I don’t like people

 

[Lord_nikon]

one big dark room with my computer

 

[NoirDynosaur]

The less people around, the less pointless bs and chaos you have to deal with.

When I was a child up to my 20's, I was very social and extroverted. I wanted to be the life of the party and make a lot of friends. Then I got into the real world realized I don't want to deal with people anymore.

Now I just deal with my own company. I go on adventures dolo. I check out new restaurants solo. I travel solo. I don't mind meeting new people, its just nowadays I'm hesitant because people tried to fukk me over in my past. I got homies I chop it up from time to time, I rather just rather be alone and enjoy life.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Being comfortable by yourself actually puts you at an advantage. A lot of folks can't go out solo, they need to be around friends in their comfort zone.

 

[Complexion]

Yes.

The saddest part of evolution is those that started the journey with you may not progress at the same rate. On the flip there are those who were around and hate to see you better yourself as well as those who got close in order to get a better view as another crew engineers your doom. Pose as a friend, work as a spy... Since then its been me against the world because its the only option that makes sense after living what I witnessed.

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Once you've seen the real deal with human nature as well as what powers the machine behind the scenes you simply cannot plug back into the dream that most sell themselves to exist in 3-D. Extreme example, I'm sure, but most who are posting in this thread have more than an inkling that most people aren't about ish as well as the best investment on can make is that in knowing themselves.

I could wax lyrical on this, for real, because a lot of what people think of as friends are actually corrosive influences drawn in to suppress you from stepping onto the way of wisdom as they're designed to bring in low frequency vibration and reaffirmation of your worst aspects as the way it is, should and would be when reality is something far different. Like I said, a glimpse behind the scenes will either have you flip your lid or totally disconnect from all the BS and get centered in Self because this realm is nothing like you suspect as that is a simple fairy tale they wove in your head and you currently operate under the influence of its tenets.

A stranger to your Self. Embrace the depths of solitude, brehs:

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Reject simplicity and delve within, glimpse underneath the surface, innerstand your purpose because none but ourselves can free our minds from behind the enemy lines they were birthed in.

 

[africngiant]

it gives me power. i got one ghanaian friend and we run it up in all aspects—gym/calisthenics, fashion, spiritually, and professionally.

cool, fly, genuine dude.. you only really need one common homey/sidekick at most. i otherwise keep to myself (excluding family friends/blood, that speaks for itself)

 

[97Pac]

So much less stress when you just stay to yourself. Mutha fukkers out here love drama

 

[boriquaking]

I am now. People are exhausting.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

I will honestly say I am

I thought I wanted to be around people.. until I had this chick stay at my crib over the weekend


She was pissin me off left and right. I couldn’t wait for her ass to leave.. dumb shyt too. Like a child

Kinda made me realize that maybe I like being alone and need to be alone. I notice I’m like that with most people too. Maybe it’s the people I’m around, but unless I’m drinking, I can’t tolerate too much.

 

[Dipsey Doo]

I have two close friends in my circle that I periodically catch up with (they still live in California), but other than that and immediate family (pretty much my mom, sister and uncle) that I'm pretty much solo dolo these days. Some of the best times of my life have been getting into shyt rolling solo. It's not for everyone, but I'm very comfortable being alone and rolling alone.

That's not to say I don't have people here in Atlanta that I can chill with, but I'd rather just keep to myself these days. When I turned 37 a few weeks ago, I decided to quit smoking and drinking. My dad passed away at 63 from cancer, I'm 37 - I'm hopeful that I'll outlive him, but it was time to put down the vices. Stopping the drinking and smoking probably won't help the social life, but I've done the club, party thing since I've been of age. I'm embracing my right now.

I cut off a lot of people after I got divorced a few years ago as well.

Work and church keeps me in contact with people for the most part. And of course the Coli

Funny enough - my last relationship ended a few months ago in most part because I valued my alone time too much