Anyone else constantly having issues dealing with women that put up walls?

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

That's only worth dealing with if the woman in question is worth it: i.e. shares the same relationship values that you do.

I personally wouldn't deal with someone who puts walls up unless I already knew their character. I'm not doing that with strangers. That's too risky.

What part is too risky?

i'm not in the business of putting broken
things back together.

Yup, me neither. I really can't understand why women actually think someone would be willing to put up with those obstacles. Most guys want something easy, stress free and nurturing. No one wants that. The guys that do fall for that mess end up getting divorced young. Why would.someonw want to put themselves through that when there are wholesome women who will build you up and give you what you want.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

Naw. Bringing in walls is just bringing in past issues. It's different when you want to go slow to make sure. It's another thing when you're telling me your ex husband cheated on you and so had your ex boyfriend and you have past issues. My rule is that if a chick brings up her past relationships within the first few weeks of talking she's fukked up and not over her problems.

Again..
We are all damaged breh..
You sound very judgmental..
If you don’t find this girl worth the time..
Why are you so pressed..
If she can’t move pass her damage..
That’s her personal problem and she is going to have to figure that out..
Just Diddy bop to someone who fits what you are looking for..
People don’t want advice..
They just want people to reaffirm their actions and thoughts they are already comfortable with..
Nobody owes you anything or an explanation..
Going slow is synonymous with having walls up..
Everybody has a comfort rating when meeting new people(friendship or romantic)..
You can’t impose your will on people to change or to conform to your ideals..
Either you find that person worth it and work through or not..
It’s pretty simple..

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Again..
We are all damaged breh..
You sound very judgmental..
If you don’t find this girl worth the time..
Why are you so pressed..
If she can’t move pass her damage..
That’s her personal problem and she is going to have to figure that out..
Just Diddy bop to someone who fits what you are looking for..
People don’t want advice..
They just want people to reaffirm their actions and thoughts they are already comfortable with..
Nobody owes you anything or an explanation..
Going slow is synonymous with having walls up..
Everybody has a comfort rating when meeting new people(friendship or romantic)..
You can’t impose your will on people to change or to conform to your ideals..
Either you find that person worth it and work through or not..
It’s pretty simple..

Yeah, that's true. And honestly I be knowing they are gonna have walls up even before I meet them. I have great intuition. I wasn't interested in this past girl. Can't be a hypocrite and complain when I know that. Either way there are girls Ive met worth it that were fukked up. It's all on me because I get the clues early and still go ahead and make them prove my intuition is correct. Honestly it's all in the eyes

 

[GhettoTeK]

I've never met a chick who had walls up initially that didn't have baggage. And it NEVER works out for me. It's always some bullshyt I have to navigate around and one little thing I do wrong brings me back to the wall. I talked to the girl today and we decided not to talk anymore. She felt I was trying to make her be something isn't and that she's not willing to put her walls down.

Naw. Bringing in walls is just bringing in past issues. It's different when you want to go slow to make sure. It's another thing when you're telling me your ex husband cheated on you and so had your ex boyfriend and you have past issues. My rule is that if a chick brings up her past relationships within the first few weeks of talking she's fukked up and not over her problems.
I agree if she is worth it. Unfortunately people with emotional problems aren't worth it to me. We all have past problems. My issue is I can't fukk with you If I can't trust you won't lose trust in me over something stupid. People who don't trust people don't trust themselves. When you trust yourself you are confident about what you're perceiving. When you don't trust regardless it's because you don't trust your own perception. That's problematic

You said it yourself friend. We all have to live and cope the best way we can.

 

[Savvir]

Absolutely not true. I've fukked girls with walls up. That has nothing to do with it. I once had a bytch cut me off even though we were fukk buddies because she refused to have any emotion as friends. Again, that's not it at all.

fukking a chick doesn't mean she love/liked you breh...

Real talk, do you think these chicks loved every nikka they fukked? If she opened her legs and not her heart she wasn't really feeling you .

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

So basically you want someone who is gullible and all trusting even though she doesn't know you from a can of paint.