MajesticLion
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edgy 
Anyone else hate people who come from well-adjusted families?
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make sure you eat before and after you drink and try to drink water. invest in gatorade bulk powder and pedialyte that shyt is incredible
and if you must be a liquor drinker at least switch to vodka or gin. brown liquor picks up flavor but also toxins from aging in those barrels. makes you sicker the next day
i stick to beer. wine is cool but liquor is poison
Life is shyt, I don’t see this shyt getting better
That’s not true. nikkas in this bytch are ignorant as fukk. Like the other nikka taking it personal and took it as an attack on the black family.Family issues can be so complex it's difficult to encapsulate your entire experience in a reasonably short conversation.
And even then a lot of folk don't want to listen.
Every mother, every father is good, you're just ungrateful.
No nikka, go to the psychology section of a book store.
You’ll see books like Toxic Parents for example. Yes many of our parents did the best they could but not every person had a peaceful childhood and/or teen hood. Not every person had a good parent or good parents.
It’s not about growing up in or out of poverty.
Bumblebreh
Collecting honey and money
I can't stand a lot of these two-parent household MF's I swear to god man. They'll judge someone else not even knowing their story or how they got there, meanwhile, they had their whole mom's yellin out, "jimmy! Time for dinner!
" as they run through their picketed fence right after they played with their friends in a safe suburban neighborhood
Fuk ALL y'all mothafukkas FUK YOU!!!
Op,I was raised in a two parent,two cars, two income household. Mama was a stay at home wife and papa was a hard working man. My siblings and I had our own bedrooms.
UnQuantized
Superstar
Single Parent household but it wasn't a chaotic environment, I was still raised well
I don't know anyone who doesn't have family issues. But, I don't really pry into other ppls business to know...*shrugs*
As for OP, maybe the issue is ppl placing judgment while hiding the
s in their closet??
I don't consider ppl who live or grew up in 2 parent households as being well necessarily.
Maybe from those looking outward it may appear to be that way, but unless you live with those ppl, you will never know what exactly happens in their house.
Just don't accept ppl who don't know your story to assign judgment upon you! Tell them to mind their business and keep it movin!
As for OP, maybe the issue is ppl placing judgment while hiding the
s in their closet?? I don't consider ppl who live or grew up in 2 parent households as being well necessarily.
Maybe from those looking outward it may appear to be that way, but unless you live with those ppl, you will never know what exactly happens in their house.
Just don't accept ppl who don't know your story to assign judgment upon you! Tell them to mind their business and keep it movin!
Yeah, the last line was sarcastic bruh
god shamgod
Veteran
Rather grow up in this environment instead of a tumultuous dysfunctional one
Yinny
Sweet and Sour Patch Mom
No, I wish I had grown up in a two parent household. But really that I was able to give my son one with his father. After a trial run, I saw very quickly It’s not feasible or going to be healthy.
Devilinurear
Veteran
I can't stand a lot of these two-parent household MF's I swear to god man
Fuk ALL y'all mothafukkas FUK YOU!!!
Givethanks
Superstar
Another reason why the coli is one big happy family
This was me up until a few weeks ago. At a certain point you have to accept that some people get luckier than others with the environment they’re born into. Grieve what was lost if you have to. But you’ll have to accept it. There’s a lot I’ve had to accept. The pain that’s come with that has been immense.
I was born to two tremendously traumatized parents — one who was absent emotionally and one who was absent physically. The one that was absent emotionally was neglectful and abusive in that way. The one that was absent physically was abusive physically. We had no money. They both lacked any sort of communication skills and raised me and my brothers in social isolation. A lot of opportunities were missed. And I was conditioned to see the world in ways that were counterproductive to my growth, leaving me with a ton of work to do as an adult to learn and unlearn so many things.
I was mad and depressed for a long time. But eventually you get to a point of, “what is being mad and depressed about something I didn’t choose and can’t change doing for me?” It’s just hurting yourself in the long run. It’s energy that could be better used to change your circumstances. So you get up one day and realize that you don’t need to use your chaotic upbringing as a reference point for every aspect of your life. That’s how you keep the trauma alive. Let it die. And the world opens up.
The irony of everything I’m saying is that it is my girl who’s shown me all of this — someone from an upper middle class two-parent home who had every opportunity available to her (and has done well with those opportunities). When I first started dating her I was jealous of her family. I didn’t think she could understand my pain. The reality is she could never understand it as I felt it, but she understood the impact it was having on me, and has been helping me heal.
So, OP, the pain isn’t going to just disappear. It sucks to be born into a shyt situation and to then develop the lens to see how a different situation would have opened different doors personally, emotionally, financially, academically, athletically, etc. It SUCKS breh. But you can’t keep carrying the burden. Make the best of what you can with the time that you got. Yesterday wasn’t under your control. Today is. You may have missed out on some dreams because of the bad luck you were born into. That sucks. But there are other dreams you can still create. Chase those.
Let yourself be happy. Let yourself be free.
I was born to two tremendously traumatized parents — one who was absent emotionally and one who was absent physically. The one that was absent emotionally was neglectful and abusive in that way. The one that was absent physically was abusive physically. We had no money. They both lacked any sort of communication skills and raised me and my brothers in social isolation. A lot of opportunities were missed. And I was conditioned to see the world in ways that were counterproductive to my growth, leaving me with a ton of work to do as an adult to learn and unlearn so many things.
I was mad and depressed for a long time. But eventually you get to a point of, “what is being mad and depressed about something I didn’t choose and can’t change doing for me?” It’s just hurting yourself in the long run. It’s energy that could be better used to change your circumstances. So you get up one day and realize that you don’t need to use your chaotic upbringing as a reference point for every aspect of your life. That’s how you keep the trauma alive. Let it die. And the world opens up.
The irony of everything I’m saying is that it is my girl who’s shown me all of this — someone from an upper middle class two-parent home who had every opportunity available to her (and has done well with those opportunities). When I first started dating her I was jealous of her family. I didn’t think she could understand my pain. The reality is she could never understand it as I felt it, but she understood the impact it was having on me, and has been helping me heal.
So, OP, the pain isn’t going to just disappear. It sucks to be born into a shyt situation and to then develop the lens to see how a different situation would have opened different doors personally, emotionally, financially, academically, athletically, etc. It SUCKS breh. But you can’t keep carrying the burden. Make the best of what you can with the time that you got. Yesterday wasn’t under your control. Today is. You may have missed out on some dreams because of the bad luck you were born into. That sucks. But there are other dreams you can still create. Chase those.
Let yourself be happy. Let yourself be free.
I was about to say he totally misinterpreted your comment
