Anyone else struggle with sentimentality?

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why you have this problem?
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I feel maybe I built up a wall during my formative years and it made me kind of a cold adult in some ways. But I don't think I'm selfish, at least for the people close to me. I go out of my way to be cognizant of their feelings and even I don't want to do something or don't feel a particular way, I still try to do things for their emotional sake.

I'm the same, but I'm also a heartless narcissistic sociopath :ehh:
I was kind of worrying about this but I don't think this is me. I can be narcissistic sometimes but I think it's because I was an only child honestly instead of being a sociopath. A lot of my day to day life was also spent being introverted as a teen. Those two things together I think can dampen your ability to connect with people emotionally imo.
 

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I hope you all realize that sentimentality is a bad thing. The word you’re looking for is empathy.
 
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so do you also just fake outrage when you post here or does it only go one way when it's something that should be fun....
if so then i would say you might have an issue. if not then you are probably just a plain ol hater :manny:
 

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I realize I find it hard to be sentimental and the shyt makes me question my normalcy a bit.

Like, I find no enjoyment in taking pictures. I find formal celebrations a fukking chore and it really is hard for me to feel excited about shyt that I feel other people care about. Like I'm the type who if I got married, I'd just want to go to the court house and get the paper. Having a ceremony is totally unappealing to me.

I admit I have no sense of romance. Like Ill do romantic shyt just to keep my partner happy but it's like going through the motions. Like I don't feel like Don Juan in my bones. I do the shyt out of practicality instead of emotionally.

Is this shyt just maybe me just being a man or even among men is it normal to have some sense of sentimentality?
What's the real value. I'm not one for sentiment - Marlo Stanfield
 

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I realize I find it hard to be sentimental and the shyt makes me question my normalcy a bit.

Like, I find no enjoyment in taking pictures. I find formal celebrations a fukking chore and it really is hard for me to feel excited about shyt that I feel other people care about. Like I'm the type who if I got married, I'd just want to go to the court house and get the paper. Having a ceremony is totally unappealing to me.

I admit I have no sense of romance. Like Ill do romantic shyt just to keep my partner happy but it's like going through the motions. Like I don't feel like Don Juan in my bones. I do the shyt out of practicality instead of emotionally.

Is this shyt just maybe me just being a man or even among men is it normal to have some sense of sentimentality?

That's me and i like the way i am :manny:


The only problem is the bytches won't leave me alone cause i'm handsome :unimpressed:
 

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You're normal. We're all on a spectrum, breh. I don't give a fvck about my birthday either. I be doing overtime at work on my birthday while everyone in my family hit the :picard:
 

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I realize I find it hard to be sentimental and the shyt makes me question my normalcy a bit.

Like, I find no enjoyment in taking pictures. I find formal celebrations a fukking chore and it really is hard for me to feel excited about shyt that I feel other people care about. Like I'm the type who if I got married, I'd just want to go to the court house and get the paper. Having a ceremony is totally unappealing to me.

I admit I have no sense of romance. Like Ill do romantic shyt just to keep my partner happy but it's like going through the motions. Like I don't feel like Don Juan in my bones. I do the shyt out of practicality instead of emotionally.

Is this shyt just maybe me just being a man or even among men is it normal to have some sense of sentimentality?




Opinion of humbleness, I think it has a lot to do with your upbringing and how certain memories you have shaped your personality/the man you are today.


What was your childhood like and did you experience anything traumatic?




And my response to thread topic:

I'm a very nostalgic person and take sentiment to a lot of things (they go hand in hand to me). I basically live in the past/have a severe case of Peter Pan Syndrome (i refuse to grow up because I adore my childhood experiences so much to the point where I day dream about yesteryear numerous time a day. Let's not get started if a scent/sight/taste trigger a certain memory, I dwell on it for a few minutes).



Photos? I have an infiniti of (love snapping images/capturing videos so i can revisit those memories later, i don't believe in living in the moment, I want my experiences to last forever). I'm too cheap to purchase I cloud, but I have all my iphones (dating back to the 4s) and browse through images periodically.


My cd collection is still by my side, things my ex girlfriends gave to me are all special occasions (essentially almost every piece of momento that was gifted to me is dear to me, primarily because I don't get too many - some of them have yet to be unwrapped because I treasure them that much).


If i peruse through my tennis shoes, I can attribute which ones I wore to almost every event/function/date/activity/shindig/vacation etc. dating back the last 13 years (when i started amassing tennies again). This is the exactly reason why i don't resell, every pair means something to me (I can even tell you how I acquired each shoe, when I purchased them and for how much, down to the exact dollar, and i have quite a bit of them, straight hoarder status; it's a mental disorder that i own up to really).


Quite frankly, i'd never sell/trade in any of the cars i've owned. Even though they're just a mode of transportation, to me, they are journey mobiles and every time i step in the whip, (and this going to sound hella cheesy mccorns) I put the volume up to level 27 and just go on daily excursions (driving for me is a luxury and I never take it for granted, especially when on weekends when I treat myself to taking out thee car that's in the garage). You ever watch Bobby's Worlds? Thats the same with me, driving and my imagination.


Even those frequently traveled paths for me an adventure. Every drive is a holiday road. Once in a while, I'll drive past that bar where I met my ex/great white buffalo and just reminisce.


And that segues into:


Breakups are especially hard for me because I hate letting things go, especially when I work so hard to make them work (i.e. I even save receipts and trinkets from my dates with previous exes/victims - there's a whole box of them in a secret compartment so they're never lost).



Man, there's even a tissue I have stowed away where I wiped my mom's final tears before she went up to meet him.



Real deal April O'Neal... sometimes I feel like my life is just a sped-up vocal sample.




:ohlawd:



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