Anyone ever date a girl who was raped?

[SeveroDrgnfli]

No seriously... I'm intrigued that women feel comfortable telling a man that they are casually dating that they've been raped or molested.

I'm serious. This thread is real, it's raw, and it's aunthentic. I dated both of those girls for years. We weren't casual. I lived with one and almost married her. The other was my HS sweetheart.

 

[Voice of Reason]

yeah and i'd advise not to do it, unless she had therapy.

Dated a girl who was raped by her step father from the age of 12 to like 17 when she ran away from home, she had nightmares, was sometimes suicidal, a sexual freak, couldn't form long lastng relationships, but then she finally went to therapy and it seemed to help

I messed with a woman with this almost exact story

 

[Paradise]

Why should it be a secret?

I don't think I could share that with somone that I don't plan on being with long term.

It's not a dirty little secret like it used to be viewed....

 

[akata]

Secrecy about sexual assault is one of the main reasons that it happens at such high rates, because abusers feel they can get away with it. It's also the reason people don't realize how common it is. It's healthy for the victim to talk about their experiences and may explain some behaviors their partner may have observed.

 

[Voice of Reason]

No seriously... I'm intrigued that women feel comfortable enough telling a man that they are casually dating that they've been raped or molested.

It might casually come up when you're discussing the Nate Parker case or something along those lines

 

[Tetsuo]

Yea, an asian chick I dated in high school was raped by her previous bf and one of his boys. Don't remember how it got brought up because I didn't ask

 

[akata]

I don't think I could share that with somone that I don't plan on being with long term.

It's not a dirty little secret like it used to be viewed....

I understand that you think it should be kept a secret, but I don't understand why. Why is that something you wouldn't be able to share? Talking about those experiences is super therapeutic for some victims and if the person they're sharing with isn't an a$$hole about it what's the harm? The secrecy is why uncles and aunts and ole boy from two houses down get away with their shyt. The taboo of sex and sexual assualt allows them to be low down.

 

[RebelHebrew]

Yeah fam dont do it. Not tryna be disrespectful but a lot of them are too messed up mentally for a relationship

 

[#SOG_soldier]

I only fukked a girl that got raped by her pops and her uncle got her pregnant. She was a major thot

 

[GreenGhxst]

yeah she cheated on me and did me really dirty,she was hyper sexual and insecure... senior yr high school

 

[Paradise]

I understand that you think it should be kept a secret, but I don't understand why. Why is that something you wouldn't be able to share? Talking about those experiences is super therapeutic for some victims and if the person they're sharing with isn't an a$$hole about it what's the harm? The secrecy is why uncles and aunts and ole boy from two houses down get away with their shyt. The taboo of sex and sexual assualt allows them to be low down.

What I'm saying is that I wouldn't want to share intimate details of my life with someone that I wasn't completely comfortable with. Now if we were dating or long term then I would spill my guts unless the conversation came up and then I would share.

 

[HoloGraphic]

Twice. Don't want to talk about it.

 

[AlainLocke]

Yup...

Some of the time, I had to tell the bytch she was raped...cause the bytch thought that shyt was normal...

I was like..."No...that's rape, I am sorry notify you that your p*ssy was taken without your consent..."


A lot of these alcoholic bytches out here been raped...I don't know how these stupid bytches do it...

Like after the first time a bytch get her p*ssy taken...I am like



The second time I am like


Third time, I am scream, " bytch STOP DRINKING AROUND THESE nikkaS WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!"


bytch be like..."I thought I could trust him..."


Or they respond with..."I just don't give a fukk anymore..."



I feel bad a lot of the time...


But the shyt be so common...I just look at the drunk stupid bytch like...

 

[Marti]

Yall would be shocked at how many women were touched inappropriately by a man when they were younger

I was never molested but ive been around my share of creeps as a child

I was in a day camp from ages 7-12 and at least 2 of the male camp counselors were some sick perverted fukks (coming into the girls locker room while we were changing into swimsuits or getting groped while they are supposedly "playing with us "in the pool )

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

Secrecy about sexual assault is one of the main reasons that it happens at such high rates, because abusers feel they can get away with it. It's also the reason people don't realize how common it is. It's healthy for the victim to talk about their experiences and may explain some behaviors their partner may have observed.

Exactly. There are signs. I want to beat the silent partners of rapists. The she was asking for it, it'll ruin our reputation, and the she'll get over it crowd. fukk all those idiots.

If they got raped they would never be the same again. I remember Pac speaking on it.

"I tried to trade places in the tragedy. I couldn't picture three crazed nikkas grabbing me.

For just a moment I was trapped in the pain. Lord come and take me.

Four nikkas violated, chased, and they raped me. Even though it wasn't me I could feel the grief."