The Collie
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Husband and I have been together for 6 years; prior to that, I was married to another guy and we were together from age 20-26. I dated from 26-30 and had some promising LTRs that didn't work out. My current husband is great; we basically have a more "adult" relationship than my ex and I did where things are calm and we function extremely well as partners. He does most of the housework, cooks, and is generally a really reliable partner. I appreciate all of that all the time, and I really love his personality as he's comfortable to hang out with. Being at home with him is like being alone, but better. So what's the issue? My ex and I were absolutely best friends. We talked all day every day and were inseparable; we were truly soulmates. He was also "exciting" aka he was animated and in a band and played a lot, and he was always up for adventure. Traveling with him was a joy, he made anything fun; we once got stuck in a layover in Philly for 7 hours and he made it a blast. We had to get divorced because I want multiple kids and he realized that while he was supposed to want kids, he didn't. It was tragic but we couldn't work it out.
Wanting kids has been a deal breaker for a lot of guys while dating, and I have some other past stuff that makes me harder to date than maybe other women are. Nevertheless, post divorce I made a good go of it, dating several people for months at a time over the 4 years before meeting my current husband. I was rarely single. The problem is, while current husband and I mesh well, there's not the exciting, say anything have a blast feeling with him at all. He's not my best friend, and out of people in my life he's definitely in the top 6-7 people in terms of closeness. This is fine with us; we've talked about it and we both like our relationship a lot. He's going to make a great, reliable dad, and great partner through that. Honestly it does bother me that I don't have what I had with my ex but that's a one in a million shot to have that; plus some stuff that was great at like 24 isn't great at 36, like ex being in a band as a source of income.
The problem is people push me all the time to talk about my current husband like I did with my ex. People have confronted me about the relationship, and while I think I tell people off well enough, it makes me feel like crap. I don't want to divorce and start dating again; there's no reason to think I'm going to be able to "upgrade" but it does bring back memories of my ex and it makes me feel sad. I'm not sure how to handle this with people; telling people my current partner is great seems hollow to people and people have been seeing right through that. Telling people to butt out seems to cause the rumor mill to gear up, not shut down.
tl;dr: Me [36 F] with my husband [35 M] of 6 years, people keep pushing me to gush about him and I just can't.



I've skimmed that redpill shyt b4 ..seems very white or Indian state of mind
Yep. Guys like Elliot Rodger swore by that type of shyt. TheRedPill, MGTOW, “pick-up artists”, incels, the alt right/Trump supporters/white supremacists, etc. all share the same beliefs and hate women.I've skimmed that redpill shyt b4 ..seems very white or Indian state of mind
Yeah all I know is it will go from solid fitness advice (great) to women problems (kinda normal but pushing it) to "maybe if I got chin implants and shoelifts they'd RESPECT meeee" (getting strange!) To..."fukk ALL THESE SLUTS DUDE THEY NEED DEEEEEEATH IM MOVING TO ×3RD WORLD COUNTRY WHERE THEY DONT GOT AGE LIMITSSSSSS! (O...KAY..THEN IM OUT FELLAS)Yep. Guys like Elliot Rodger swore by that type of shyt. TheRedPill, MGTOW, “pick-up artists”, incels, the alt right/Trump supporters/white supremacists, etc. all share the same beliefs and hate women.
I'm guessing a lot of cacs tooThat Elliot guy lived in a good part of California had movie producer parents and a CLEAN bmw -basically set for life and he killed a good amount of ppl bcuz he couldn't get a hug from a bytchYep. Guys like Elliot Rodger swore by that type of shyt. TheRedPill, MGTOW, “pick-up artists”, incels, the alt right/Trump supporters/white supremacists, etc. all share the same beliefs and hate women.