Mindfield333
Superstar
Is needing therapy really an attack? A lot of people need therapy period. Especially judging from some of the threads I see being created
Apparently Only Black Men Need Therapy
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Mindfield333
Superstar
You sound like my mom with this. I really wish she’d go
Of course not, I could see how people could take offense to the way that tweet was presented.
There were a hundred other ways that person could have worded that tweet to convey the same message without gaslighting a large group of people. If genuine concern was that person's intention they could have crafted the tweet a little better.
I wholeheartedly agree with you, but to add, there is a negative stigma attached to seeking therapy that also needs to be eradicated!
In all, those who need therapy isn't gender specific. Both men, women, Black and non-Black alike can use some useful therapy, not to mention, therapists also need therapy to be honest..
I have no issue seeking help from a qualified therapist, but I strongly prefer someone who understands my issues as a Black man.
SirShaktus
All Star
She almost stuck the landing...
Yes, a lot of Black men have severe mental illness/trauma to deal with... But we need to deal with it due to it exclusively affecting Black women.
Not to hell Black men heal and become better people, or help the black community... It's so Black women don't have to deal with their baggage.
Smh
And I think @CinnaSlim is right in the fact that it helps Black women have each other to aid in their mental health.
Merely having another person as a sounding board and know exactly what you're going through to confirm you aren't going crazy.
And unfortunately, men aren't afforded that luxury, Black men in particular.
Most men can't be vulnerable to those closest to them because, at best we're told to man the fukk up and repress emotions; and at worse our feelings are ridiculed or (even crueler) thrown back in our face.
The things I've heard said to black men (including myself) when trying to cope with shyt.... man...
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Yes, a lot of Black men have severe mental illness/trauma to deal with... But we need to deal with it due to it exclusively affecting Black women.
Not to hell Black men heal and become better people, or help the black community... It's so Black women don't have to deal with their baggage.
Smh
And I think @CinnaSlim is right in the fact that it helps Black women have each other to aid in their mental health.
Merely having another person as a sounding board and know exactly what you're going through to confirm you aren't going crazy.
And unfortunately, men aren't afforded that luxury, Black men in particular.
Most men can't be vulnerable to those closest to them because, at best we're told to man the fukk up and repress emotions; and at worse our feelings are ridiculed or (even crueler) thrown back in our face.
The things I've heard said to black men (including myself) when trying to cope with shyt.... man...
*Edited: posted too early
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You're right
what kind of double talk/gaslighting shyt is this
Black men and women..
Equally need to seek professional help..
Both genders are suffering from our parents PTSD..
Women most definitely need it..
Y’all deal with sexual harassment at young ages..
Not only that..
Some of y’all mothers project their failures on to y’all..
Especially when it comes to them failing with men..
Which in turn..
Y’all come at us with funky ass attitudes and acronyms..
Stop the bullshyt..
This is why the chasm is so big between the sexes..
Both sides out here..
Tweeting irresponsible bullshyt..
How are we supposed to move as a collective unit of people..
When everybody trying to one up..
Olympic oppression each other..
Both black men/women are fighting a war..
Nobody safe from..
MajesticLion
Veteran
She almost stuck the landing...
Yes, a lot of Black men have severe mental illness/trauma to deal with... But we need to deal with it due to it exclusively affecting Black women.
Not to hell Black men heal and become better people, or help the black community... It's so Black women don't have to deal with their baggage.
Smh
And I think @CinnaSlim is right in the fact that it helps Black women have each other to aid in their mental health.
Merely having another person as a sounding board and know exactly what you're going through to confirm you aren't going crazy.
And unfortunately, men aren't afforded that luxury, Black men in particular.
Most men can't be vulnerable to those closest to them because, at best we're told to man the fukk up and repress emotions; and at worse our feelings are ridiculed or (even crueler) thrown back in our face.
The things I've heard said to black men (including myself) when trying to cope with shyt.... man...
*Edited: posted too early
Something needs to be pointed out here, for clarity. Women are not in any better position on this. It's simply a different coping approach to the same stress.
Both sexes exist under a b*stardized version of the proverbial Sword of Damocles. Some of it is self-inflicted mental stress, much of it is physical. Either way, stress is stress. Men are told "man look, we're all under this same sword, deal with it and stfu already because we have things to do". Women's approach is to take the interior decorator view, dress the sword up in pretty fabrics, paint it a different shade every so often, have conversations with it, pretend that it's entertaining, anything to mentally make the sword easier to live with. That's what simple venting is, and that's all it achieves. No matter how they try to dress it up, being told what you want to hear to get by for another day/week/month is in no way the same beneficially, long term, as being told what you need to hear to get out from under, to move that sword or dismantle it, and teach others around you how to do the same.
So all this posturing is moot, once you take a hard look at the nature of loyalty and how friendship is defined in those circles. The short term fix becomes, in itself, an addiction. It's not any better than the self-distraction habits men can develop...especially once you realize that both genders wind up circling right back around to the same intoxicants: church, dope, alcohol, food binges, "chasing the bag", and on and on and on. Different paths to the same place.
Smarten up.
This just means black women are prone to seek out echo chambers where everybody else agrees with them. This very tweet itself proves this, as no doubt hordes of black women will chime in and confirm just how fukked up black men are. Like I said, an echo chamber.
Who said men don't vent? Constant venting is not good, regardless of sex. That's my point.
If you think this place is bad then go look at LSA.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
Is she attacking Black men
Mmm yeah, because who is the “we” she’s talking about at the end?
Whomever it is, it’s a chore for her (because she’s included in the “we”) to deal
with Black men’s “sh-t”.
yeah...all those problems she listed which are delicate issues? Those are just “sh-t” to her.
Just another reason why I be telling y’all dudes not to be depending on these broads
(whatever their relation to you) for “support” or whatever. Even if they may call themselves caring about you,
they still don’t wanna deal with that “sh-t”.
Black men and black women need to stop going at each other in public and online and basically any damn public space at this point.
There's a reason these "nikkas ain't shyt" type tweets get tens of thousands of notes. Non-black people be liking and retweeting that shyt cause they racist and want to have a black person spout the views they have about us without having to come off as racist.
Basically reveling in our dysfunction. And I'm not gonna lie, there's parts of black men that need work, but we can admit black women need work too in parts, and collectively we need work together and to be able to entertain the ability to have healthy dialogues about it instead of reducing ourselves to name calling and putting each other down in front of thousands if not millions of people online.
We need to build each other up dammit! not break each other down!
There's a reason these "nikkas ain't shyt" type tweets get tens of thousands of notes. Non-black people be liking and retweeting that shyt cause they racist and want to have a black person spout the views they have about us without having to come off as racist.
Basically reveling in our dysfunction. And I'm not gonna lie, there's parts of black men that need work, but we can admit black women need work too in parts, and collectively we need work together and to be able to entertain the ability to have healthy dialogues about it instead of reducing ourselves to name calling and putting each other down in front of thousands if not millions of people online.
We need to build each other up dammit! not break each other down!
Mental health in amongst Black people needs to be taken more seriously.
Knowing you need help is not a weakness and sometimes it helps to take it into consideration. If anything to build a mentally stronger and more proficient version of yourself.
How come everytime there is a black woman attacking a black man on twitter, it gets a shyt ton of likes and attention?
Exactly, the OP is probably an agent or a troll from another web forum like the misc forum
Biscayne
Ocean air
You don't know how to read between the lines and read the tone of ppls tweets.Is she attacking Black men
I know a shyt ton of Black men that have PTSD and deep traumas from early childhood violence, have criminal records just because of ADD/ADHD or treatable mental illnesses, and I've watched how it effects their families and loved ones
My dad has PTSD from the Marines - as does one of my college homies, and neither of them has gone to therapy. It causes deep personal strife and can lead to disfunction
I've mentioned this on here a couple of times.
