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Are all relationships transactional?
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ewww no
not one, at least not on my end.
not one, at least not on my end.
Lieutenant Daniels
I’m up for Major
@the bolded is basically how most relationships end.
At least from personal experience and seeing other relationships come to an end over the years.
I won’t say 100% of the time cause nothings ever 100% but 95% of the time when a woman is walking away from you it’s because another man has already taken your place. That’s just reality. Very rarely will they just leave and chill by themselves with NOBODY. That’s why when I hear a sob story I
cause most of the time they left a relationship for a perceived better option. But I digress, most relationships in life are conditional. That’s just the way it is. It’s important as a man to know that emotions are how you get a woman to stick around. Also pay attention to how she behaves. If suddenly those text messages become dry and she’s ducking physical contact it’s a wrap. Eject and brace for impact.
If you can’t plan/build a future with your mate, then why are y'all even together.. The answers to all of your questions are within you because you're the one seeking a relationship. Men just need to admit they want faithful pu$$y and the ability to seek out new pu$$y. The longer you lie to yourself, the longer the agony will be..
Yes
Break down the word transactional.
It’s defined as relating to the process of doing business. Buying and selling.
I would argue that most healthy relationships aren’t transactional or commodified to the point where affection is turned into a barter system.
But I do think it’s a healthy expectation for anybody spending copious amounts of time with you, to get something out of being with you and you should be benefiting from their presence too.
I think reciprocity, mutual respect and integrity from BOTH parties are what keeps relationships from becoming the selfish pursuit of what you can get from somebody else.
If you are both growing together, it’s not a transaction…it’s a journey. But all of that is predicated on whether your relationships are healthy or not.
And all of that depends on personal mental health and soundness.
Personally, none of the relationships I have are transactional. If I have friends, it’s because we mutually pour into each other. Got rid of users a long time ago.
It’s defined as relating to the process of doing business. Buying and selling.
I would argue that most healthy relationships aren’t transactional or commodified to the point where affection is turned into a barter system.
But I do think it’s a healthy expectation for anybody spending copious amounts of time with you, to get something out of being with you and you should be benefiting from their presence too.
I think reciprocity, mutual respect and integrity from BOTH parties are what keeps relationships from becoming the selfish pursuit of what you can get from somebody else.
If you are both growing together, it’s not a transaction…it’s a journey. But all of that is predicated on whether your relationships are healthy or not.
And all of that depends on personal mental health and soundness.
Personally, none of the relationships I have are transactional. If I have friends, it’s because we mutually pour into each other. Got rid of users a long time ago.
HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
You left out the other part:
trans·ac·tion·al
adjective
- relating to the conducting of business, especially buying or selling.
"access to transactional data such as records of purchases"- relating to exchange or interaction between people.
"transactional models of social evolution"
- relating to exchange or interaction between people.
... which is what you've described here.
I think women just don't like the word.
It absolutely should be voiced.
A healthy relationship requires all parties to clearly state their needs. Humans aren't mind readers. And clear boundaries should be established as well.
A partner that has no regard for your needs and boundaries is a clear indication you should not have them in your life.
Complexion
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its just you bro. Have you ever seen a fetus grow a pregnant mother around it?
you cant seem to discern between game and reality. rep for the song tho
Can you discern between this:
and this:
Oh yes. That is, in part, what inspired the thread because I was thinking about couple dynamics and why people pay to sit there and listen to them then render explicit all that was implicit and expected by each that the other gets.
Madness!
Then it got me thinking about my own implicit contracts/expectations and how woven into the fabric of society this is so that its almost invisible. Like most things it can be traced back to childhood as parents almost train this into their jits from the jump and thus the Pattern runs unquestioned in so many with the havoc it brings. That and most people are so basic in the sense that they are running the most rudimentary wetware with no upgrades, add ons or modification to suit them due to an almost total lack of Knowledge of Self.
The other interesting thing is the whole shadow aspect and unseen needs but thats another dynamic.
RARI_Godwind
St. BAWGustine - DarkSkxxxn
They could be but they shouldn’t be. People got it fcked up tho thinking it has to be so it should be. 
Yeah but even that entire definition, the way we conceptualize exchange of services and project that onto relationships is odd.
I think once mutual respect, honesty, love, integrity enter the fray, interactions with others have much less to do with quid pro quo and more to do with two people’s reciprocal enjoyment of each other.
People may feel cautious about identifying relationships as transactions because doing so strips away other protections good relationships provide: like a space where you can be yourself and still be loved…without having to pay for it.
The paying for it part is what muddies the mental waters. Because what happens when you can no longer pay, whatever price for the goods or elements of the relationship you are being charged for?
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve seen lots of relationships operate this way. But I’ve also seen the opposite where people don’t have to pay or sacrifice anything to love and be loved and I can honestly say, non-transactional bonds are the way to go.
usually when i see the phrase "pour out into eachother" it means more than friends
i dont need much from a woman, in fact i dont need much at all
HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
This is what I meant, women just don't like the word.
Transactional doesn't have to mean cold hard currency. Men consider time listening to women talk about their day as part of a transaction.