I think it's mostly about power; however, I can't sit here and say that all the unnarrative "lame" men out there are scared and passive and are satisfied with jerking of to porn on the daily. I know some pretty aggresive men who don't get much play from women do to their lack of looks or whatever, these guys seem to want sex badly; in fact, when in with them sex is 95 percent of the conversation. A lot of it has to do with hormones I'm sure. I on the other hand have a decently high testosterone level and I don't have a lot of sex or have a really big desire to, so it doesn't apply to all men. I'm starting to think it has to do with the mans body chemistry his libido and above all how he views women.