Are we smashing this indie rock singer or nah?

[Thebadguy]

And yet the onus is still on you, the black artist in the white space to tell the white space how that dynamic works.

And I’m suppose to do that using somebody else’s terms, even if they aren’t the best fit to describe what I feel!

You know, though, it’s been that way since I moved to Wisconsin. I mean, I love folk music. Because I grew up in Wisconsin. And I embrace that Americana culture much more that pop R&B. Since third grade, I’ve kind of disengaged from a fair amount of what’s considered “black culture.” My dad listened to soul music, and I did when I was at home, but when my friends parent’s were like “AC/DC!” I wasn’t like, “The Persuasions!”

But I was talking about this with some friends yesterday: [In high school], I straightened my hair every single day. I wore my foundation too light. And feeling compelled to do that, that’s such a horrible way to feel. It effects everything, and then there’s just being a woman and all of that embedded shame.

It’s that evil process of self-mitigation that, if you’re a woman, you go through anyway but if you’re ethnically or racially other than white, it’s compounded because you’re trying to get to the closest approximation of what every other woman around you looks like. It’s a survival technique, but it’s exhausting, emotionally.

Oh, sure.

Do you think that has something to do with the critic in a female artist’s own head? Like we’re so busy trying to smooth out the edges of our sense of self that creating something new is all but impossible? So much of making art is about embracing whatever uniqueness one’s voice carries, but that’s the very thing we’re taught to stamp out.

God, I think you’re right. And that’s important to hear — important to remind oneself about. I think about this, too, every day. Take performing: I end up being the hair dresser. I love doing hair, I love doing makeup. But I’m really good at those things because I hate how I look. So now I can reason with myself and say, “This is just a fun way to express yourself!” And it is. It is. But I’m continuing to alter my natural state.

In a way that skews away from blackness?

Sometimes. When it comes to this stuff, hair and make up, if I ever have a daughter, I’ll tell her to use it if it’s fun, but I hope she’ll know she doesn’t need it.

There are just so many things like this where you don’t know. Like, when are you doing it because you have to? When are you doing it because it’s fun? Bold blue eyelids: That’s dope! I feel bad that men are shamed into not playing with makeup. It can be awesome. But it can become a routine, and it can become a way to hide yourself.

Interview: PHOX’s Monica Martin on race, voice and the perfect album – Little Village

 

[At30wecashout]

Yup. Shes my type of hype. Love the aesthetic.

 

[13473]

she looks like a fair skinned version of Jessica Williams

 

[Take It In Blood]

Is she slow?

Why are u assuming she's slow

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

That's a dude

 

[Black Lightning]

Jaw looking mighty strong.

 

[Phitz]

As if you all have the option. It's 2018 let's stop giving attention to women like this. I like indie/alternative music but at the same time, women like this make me vomit. My spirit can't take them. I can smell the narcissism from way across the globe. Nice music though. There are a zillion others.

 

[Phitz]

nikka, she’s the one that’s gonna be spitting at your black ass. You really think this bytch that’s in a ROCK BAND with nothing but whites is gonna give you the time of day?




:C00nmj:

Hey there are black people in rock bands who only deal with black people on a romantic level breh....let's not stereotype. Not saying they're famous

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

More often chicks like this won't fukk with you because she looks down on your music choices rather than you being black

I listen to ac/dc,deep purple, punk music as well as rap. I tend to be drawn to women who are open to music.

 

[MercuryHayes]

It's always funny and sad seeing supposed black men on here get defensive and up in arms over any chick that may have fukked a white dude.


As a black man you should have way more self confidence than that.

 

[TEH]

I'm cuffing ... if she checks out - wifing

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

It's always funny and sad seeing supposed black men get defensive and up in arms over any chick that may have fukked a white dude.


As a black man you should have way more self confidence than that.

Brehs should pick up an instrument perhaps..women be drawn to the talent ,and the fact you're applying yourself to pick up a craft

I think i'd have a chance..I play guitar,a decent dude and smart and have a wide musical pallete.

 

[Stir Fry]

It wouldn't be my proudest moment, but sure why not.

 

[GreenGhxst]

Hate to bust y'all bubble, but she don't fukk nikkas

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

Fefe Dobson got the raw end of the stick