Are women really not getting approached?

[Crayola Coyote]

Actually I don’t think men are garbage at all. I was raised in a single parent household with just my father from the age of 3. He did the very best he could as a bachelor raising a small girl child, which I can assure you is not easy. I have plenty of respect for the man who instilled in me the value of selfworth, world knowledge, black history and black pride. His example has taught me to avoid fukk boys such as yourself. While running his own business he still managed to teach me how to cook and clean to raise me to be an independent woman. This man carried me to school on his back when our car broke down, discussed world politics with me from a young age and taught me that possibilities are greater than the eye can see and for reasons like that is why I can respect men who go out of their way to guide our future, teach our children and provide for their household.

One thing he didn’t teach me was to not argue with faceless c*nts on the internet who couldn’t answer a direct question because their ability to read and understand is so poor, those who deflect their insecurities onto other people and those who have nothing better to do than vibrate negativity into their radius. I bet plants dry up and shrink when you walk by. Just ugh!

I stopped reading at "I was raised in a single parent household"

 

[Kasgoinjail]

It be them OG brehs rocking the Ving rhames fit? They holler at any and everything...and especially if you a big gal

Always talking about how much “swag they had back in the day but they still hip with what’s happening”

 

[Caca-faat]

I stopped reading at "I was raised in a single parent household"

That would be because you’re a moron.

 

[Bigblackted4]

There is cold holla screaming “hey yellow shirt ” which is just rude.

Then their is the friendly “oh I like your hair” friendly conversation approach. I only trust approaches from these type of men. Most likely would treat a woman like he has some sense about him.

Agreed yelling at a woman will not usually work but walking up and introducing yourself always works

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

With the rise of dating apps and social media as a method of communication, if they want to talk someone they're interested in, they will eventually be put in a position where they have to make the first move.

Another thing for us regular, non-tech-relying dudes who don't have a fighting chance through social media and dating apps... approaching women/organic courtship/initiating is the only way to survive in the dating realm.


I think because most of these dudes who are on said platforms have such a greater leg up than say, yours truly... it forces people like me to have to think outside the box and constantly evolve/adapt to the game and always bring shiit 110 percent.


Promise y'all... i don't go out as much as i used to cuz i minimized my spirit and drug intake 10 fold, so when i do go out... i go extra and show out.



If that means approaching as many victims as I can... it's the only way to secure my odds at manifesting any form of romance.



The great thing about cold approaches/social world game... is that I almost exclusively date black women, and I find that (key word, "Generally" speaking) they are oftentimes the most open-minded and friendly people around.



The reward for their willingness to try something different/taking a risk for dwelling out of their routine types... i always try to give them the best experience, even if its just one outing (obviously, if it doesn't go beyond that or just a one night stand... that's what it is - when you're my age and have experienced so much and interacted with vast seas of people from all walks of life... you tend to admire the concept of society being a big ocean with even more sea creatures to mingle with at your whim).



Like i said... to me, the challenge just isn't in the approach (for the most part, I've gotten over the shy guy stage, too old for that shiit now)... but finding out what this new specimen will bring to my life and vice versa (is she schooled and cultured... is she just another ig thotty mchotty? Does she enjoy hiking and peeping out new recreational activities?). I guess I was dealt a pretty solid hand in life with extreme extroversion (i manage a body shop so working in this environment truly helped me fine-tune my character - real talk, I had speech impediments growing up) and being a very sexual person without it being too creepy (but you can get away with a lot of things when you're not so bad looking, thanks mom/dad).




The reason why every person should act with all the confidence in the world is because it is actually one of those things in life you have absolute control over.



Why not make it a defining trait to secure these ladies hearts, minds, souls... and bodies?




If it were up to me... i would spend just one evening with every woman in the globe and show them that the world is so much beyond what they're used to. That great guys come in all sizes, colors, creeds and packages...



... and you can do that to.



Don't let the man tell you otherwise.




The world is your fukkin oyster perpetual rollie... with the day and date.





Fukk social media and dating apps. We can do this naturally, face to face where there's no filters and screens. The only screen is the screening we do with our eyes. We, as men, with this mentality... GET TO DO ALL THE CHOOSIN'!!! How fukkin' great is that?!




Carpe Diem my brehs.




Talk to girl walking your direction at the mall checking her receipt. Bump into her so gently and axe her, "I know you just stepped out of there... but I can show you my bed, bath... and beyond."



And you don't even need a shovel...





... to dig that.







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[DaRealness]

Who gives a fukk if there not getting approached


Thats not my problem.

If I want a woman, Ill approach. Im still 100% cold approaching, personally. If I dont, I wont and it aint cuz im afraid to. Im just not interested, I dont want ur ass.

If u are a woman that is not getting approached thats a you problem

That's exactly my point lol.

A lot of women will be like "so and so dude was standing right near me and didn't say nothing". It's like chick, maybe he just doesn't want to and he doesn't have to, the fukk? It got nothing to do with him being "scared", he just ain't interested. shyt ain't even that deep.

That sense of entitlement like you HAVE to say something to them....

 

[Shadow King]

I haven't read yet but I know how this will go...

 

[Crayola Coyote]

That would be because you’re a moron.

AAAAWWWWWWW

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

The post I am about to make was going to go into the GEMS FOR MENS thread... then i saw this on the first page.





Where do I fukkin' begin. LOL!




As tech of a city seattle is... most of the women here, yes, do rely on networking and social media/dating apps... but that doesn't discredit/discount the ideology that you should stone cold approach women.



Case in point:


South seattle's infamous Rainier Valley/Beacon Hill district is a haven for some of the most beautiful East African and black/mixed women in the state.


Long story short:


Went to Safeway last night by the crib and saw this gorgeous red bone in a long jacket, stockings and knee high boots.



Her aura and disposition was very high-horsey and seemingly attitudinal. She didn't look around or acknowledge anybody.



I needed to grab a bunch of shiit for superbowl festivities but noticed she was getting in line and didn't want to lose my golden opportune, so i grabbed the closest shiit to me (a box of ice cream) and swaggily made my way to the checkout - to which, she still happened to be standing at.



My first initiative was to scope and scan her hands... is she married?


What's in her grocery cart? Are there baby items? I saw carrots, bottled water, rice crispies, some miscellanous house hold stuff and a few snacks... clear/dead giveaway that she was single/living alone and didn't seem to have children.



*after 5 minutes or so of gawking her, watching her habits/demeanor and only seeing that she was on social media in line... you boy decides to swoop in*


Disclaimer: she looked hella snobby and stuck up... so i was mad hesitantly reluctant to spit game. Guys coming in the store would just eyes wide open once they walked through the door because our check out stand was right by the entrance.



Here we go:




Me: *taps broad on shoulder* Excuse me sweetheart. You look extremely familiar... *then i pause*


Grocery store patron goddess (her): *Turns with a smile but not with shock or dismay... almost like relief and glad to be approached*
Umm... i don't know!



Me: *not knowing what to say next, but remembering there was a gym that just opened up around xmas time*
Oh! I believe i've seen you at the Planet Fitness in the valley, right?


*my hearts bumping at this point cuz i'm nervous as fukk and she was so beautifull... i didn't know what else to do but pretend like i was confident as fukk --- reason being is cuz i don't actually have a membership to that gym ------ YET! lol*



Her: Oh yeah! I actually do! Okay... (and she smiles with glee... good lawd... enough to make a fella want to get down on bowf knees and shout hallelujah)




Then there's a brief moment where its a slight silence... but no longer than 4 seconds...



Me: So how often do you be going?


Her: Ehhh... not often enough. I find it hard to feel inspired after work and just get lazy when i get home


Me: Oh shiit! Me too! I think this is fate because i need a gym partner.. and...



*she whips out her phone and motions it to me with the quickness*


Her: Yeah, we should go! Put your number in*



Well i'm Tameeka... i'm sorry I'm just high as shiit right now... but it was nice to meet you. We'll get together sometime






So that was that fam. I could tell the people around store last night were like, "Damn... did this guy just land some fukkin' digits at a check out line?"




I felt so fukkin' cool, brehs and crehs.




Really needed this to happen, just got into a bad car accident a couple weeks back (that was my fault) and back in new years week, my favorite aunt passed away of cancer... then earlier this week i hear that my uncle is dying from diabetes...



A spark in my life with this goddess would really help mellow your boy out and take the frustration from life's challenges.



I dunno what got into me last night... but i was just so eager yet confident. I was in a zone, knew what i wanted and the cosmos ensured that i would at least have a good convo with this thick ass dime. Lord have mercy. I should have taken some photos from the back but I will in the future.


Lord knows... when i tell y'all i take pics... a vigga always come through.





Long story short... closed moufs don't get feeded. You never know if a woman gon' feel you until you actually approach her (especially in scenarios where she's less guarded than a novice boxer). I mean real talk, it's not like she was checking your boy out or anything, she just got done chiefing it up by her lonesome and was gonna go home and netflix and relax.



For perspective, she look like a thicker bootleg version of Lauren Londen. Kid you fukkin knot!!




I'm gonna dominate her society, brehs.




Wish me luck fam...





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Man brehs in Seattle don't be approaching them beautiful black women up there like that at all.

PAWGING is big out there, so black dudes who ain't afraid to approach black women up there got it super fukking easy.

I used to work at Nordstrom up there...they got some fine ass chicks, you would think they snobby as fukk but most just awkward and ain't getting approached because it's dudes who psych themselves on some "she too bad!".

 

[Shadow King]

The people saying "they just don't get approached by the dudes THEY want" are somewhat correct, but it's disingenuous as it implies these chicks are just being too choosy and ridiculous and the ones approaching are otherwise "decent" guys. This is often far from the case. IME, no one is more aggressive than an out of shape, middle aged black man shooting his shot with a cute young chick walking down the street. Yeah that's an "approach" but lets not lie and act like that's reasonable or desirable.

A lot of these young dudes absolutely DO NOT approach and they don't want to. Why do you think there's been an uptick in "b...but why can't WOMEN approach!?" If dudes were really out here like that, you'd hardly hear some corny shyt like that being said.

Men my age don't want to approach because women my age walking around with the bytch face and giving us 0.561297 seconds of eye contact for every 45 seconds their face is in their phones. Women have stopped acknowledging men and giving us reason to step up, mainly because of all these dating/hookup apps where they look up the physically cream of the crop men and swipe left. If we don't know women through social circles/former classmates or get lucky in DM's dudes aren't bothering.

 

[Shadow King]

. You sound hurt. Are you speaking from personal experience where you have been overly aggressive with a woman to the point she had to call her henchmen? I’ve never seen this happen in person. Work on your approach, you’ll get some p*ssy soon, in the meantime beat your dikk to get rid of some of the pent up frustration you appear to have.

Additionally if you took some time to realise that women are more for you than against you; you would be more pro women than anti-women. You come across as one of those men that love p*ssy but hate women. It will get better for you soon.

 

[Dat Migo]

I approached a woman at checkers on 163rd st just now i'll probably be tongue kissing her later tonight after I leave finger lickin

Me and the wife went to that checkers after our first date. She could be the one

Spoiler

Or just a skeezer

 

[KOOL-AID]

@Donovan Gumby how wld u describe yo self as a female cuz I think that also plays on what approaches wrk. Like u dnt respond well to brash and vulgar approaches but casual sweet stuff is welcomed so I wld assume your girly girly. How do u then think men shld adapt to the variation of women? Shld we just always be nice and forward or if the situation calls for it aggressive n confident/cocky

 

[Bossino]

this pretty much sums it up. i very rarely get approached irl. online is dif

Or that you must be busted for not giving a rude ass dude any attention.

Soooooooooo, assuming yall aren't bullshytting, which I honestly doubt, just do what your theoretically "equal" counterparts in men been doing, and step up and shoot your shot. But if you feel thats embarrassing, or makes you look desperate, isn't a woman's place or some other flimsy excuse date exclusively online or just STFU and be alone

 

[Oceanicpuppy]

@Donovan Gumby how wld u describe yo self as a female cuz I think that also plays on what approaches wrk. Like u dnt respond well to brash and vulgar approaches but casual sweet stuff is welcomed so I wld assume your girly girly. How do u then think men shld adapt to the variation of women? Shld we just always be nice and forward or if the situation calls for it aggressive n confident/cocky

I’m not a complete girly girl. I’m like a nerdy girl with girly girl tendencies.

Always be respectful but be yourself. You want someone who will like the real you, so if put on an act you’re going to have to do that the entire relationship and that’s not fun.

If the girl doesn’t like it don’t worry about it. Someone out there will.