As a black man do you feel the need to be hyper-masculine?
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Absolutely not, being myself has worked perfectly fine for 29 years.
I do witness the behavior you speak of though and a lot of times it's completely unnecessary.
I do witness the behavior you speak of though and a lot of times it's completely unnecessary.
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No. I have been told I am intimidating, and thats just me being whimsical old me. 
Westcoastnative
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Not me.
A lot of black men feel like they have to act hyper-masculine because it attracts women. Rappers, thugs, athletes, etc. tend to be hyper-masculine and unfortunately, a lot of black boys grow up looking to up to black men like that.
A lot of black men feel like they have to act hyper-masculine because it attracts women. Rappers, thugs, athletes, etc. tend to be hyper-masculine and unfortunately, a lot of black boys grow up looking to up to black men like that.
It's all the females fault.
If they didn't put the dikk on the pedestal there would be no desire for a young boy to look up to ppl like that
Imagine if black women dropped that shyt and started busting it open for nerds and scientists.
Guess what we'd all be trying to be right now. We'll I'm still a nerd, but u get my drift.
It's your fault bytches
PhonZhi
Veteran
Hiphop culture(the most powerful and influential force currently in the black community) teaches us black men, that being ultra-masculine and aggressive is the key for survival. It teaches us that being promiscous, extremely materialistic, having a felony, being apart of the gang lifestyle and being an overall intimidating threat to other black people garners the most respect and is the difference between being a "real n1kka" and a "lame broke boy".
yeah, most of that shyt is just posturing to hide lots of insecurities.
Mr. Somebody
Friend Of A Friend
If you take bjj you can be masculine without being hyper.
PhonZhi
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Or maybe we are overcompensating subconciously for being forced to wear dresses during slavery
Kid McNamara
'97 Mike Bibby
Meh, I hear this a lot and don't buy into it too much.
It is posturing, it probably does hide insecurities, but I think it's more than that.
Dudes out here growing up with no father figures, no solid and consistent positive male role models, and no real understanding of what it is to be a man, or be masculine.
It's easy to get confused out here, trying to find the right mix of not being a pushover and not being overly aggressive. I see a lot of black kids and black men, myself included, struggle with this all the time. Black men get stereotyped as being overly aggressive as it is, so it can be downright crushing to find a balance that satisfies everyone.
White guys walk around acting like knuckleheads, being fake tough guys, starting trouble, they are seen as these endearing bad boys. White dudes walk around with arrogance, they are seen as strong and silent types, romanticized.
Black dudes are taught from jump that the world is afraid of their masculinity, confidence, and abilities. You get into this mode of people pleasing or go the opposite direction.
Same goes for a lot of bigger dudes out there (white or black).
I struggle with this all the time.
It's why dudes are soft spoken or adopt the "too cool for school" persona and run with it.
KravenMorehead™
Barrel Brothers.®
Hypermasculine is just a word. Who decides where the line is drawn and on what basis?
Kid McNamara
'97 Mike Bibby
Brock O'Hurn said:
Lot of black dudes walking around thinking they're a 5'10" guy with a cool vibe. In reality, people see a crazed nikka going, "oooggaaaa booooggggaaaaa."
shyt is in our subconscious, can make you crazy.