As man what's worse..your dad slapping your wife, or dad refusing to give you inheritance money
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He changed all of our names 12 years ago when he legally could. We just wanna change them back.
We aint his family anymore. He made sure of that with all his bullshyt
Wow. Sorry to hear that.Is your fiancé okay?
Nope.
She wants me to drop it. She says my father makes me waay too angry and it scares her. She says im not myself.
Iunno if i can drop it....
Honestly this sounds like a situation that should be handled with counseling. Your father most likely needs counseling individually, and then as family y’all need it. His behavior was unacceptable. But she sounds like a good woman—especially if instead of being on board with your anger she’s telling you to move on from it. And she’s right, you don’t want to walk around carrying that negative energy because you’re upset with him. But I completely understand your anger.
I hate giving the cliche advice to seek counseling but unfortunately mental health is something that’s sort of swept under the rug in the black community. A lot of erratic and crazy dysfunctional behaviors result from untreated mental health problems. And bm more than any other group probably need it more than any one. The toll on y’all, and our fathers—well it’s a lot. Finding a black counselor that yall vibe with is so important in this scenario. I hope you guys can eventually move pass this.
Edited to add: my mom used to tell me just because you become a parent doesn’t mean you stop being the person you were before became one. You can try to, but most of us parents have issues that don’t just go away once we have children. We end up projecting those issues on to our children. That’s why so many people are walking around fukked up. I hope your father gets the help he needs, and that in time you can restore some sort of a relationship with him.
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We are in counseling. Ive been in counseling for 3 years. 2 years joint. I always extol the virtues of counseling.
My dad is another story. I dont care to.have a relationship with him. No one is gonna drag him to.counselling. it can't be forced.
He gonna die alone, that's all i keep telling him. You gonna die alone
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Good. fukk him.
No offense.
None taken
We are in counseling. Ive been in counseling for 3 years. 2 years joint. I always extol the virtues of counseling.
My dad is another story. I dont care to.have a relationship with him. No one is gonna drag him to.counselling. it can't be forced.
He gonna die alone, that's all i keep telling him. You gonna die alone
That's good that you've at least gotten counseling. I understand. My father won't go into counseling either. He's so stubborn. He needs it so much. Oh well. I wish you and your fiance the best, breh.
