As much as I love my wife....

[Steve Piffler]

we may be near the end of our journey together....

shyt ain't been right for a while now, and it's getting more and more distant as time goes by. there is almost no affection anymore, we only have sex like once a week (maybe), she is ALWAYS staring at her phone (nikka, and i mean ALWAYS), we never say i love you anymore, and she is generally just not checked in anymore. and because of that fact, i have checked out too. i don't try to initiate sex, i don't kiss or hug her when i come home or before i go to sleep or leave for work, i don't say anything to her unless she asks me a question, i don't call or text her throughout the day, and i just keep to myself. but somehow, she doesn't seem the least bit concerned. i look at her demeaner, and she seems to be just fine. i have a lot of years, a son, and a ton of money invested in this relationship, but i'm almost ready to say fukk it and throw the towel in. shyt is tearing me up, but 13 years is a LONG time to be with someone, and it's hard to just "let it go".

now i know where i'm posting this, so i'm prepared for the "you share that girl " or "breh, you should have never gotten married ", but i need some real perspective from people with real relationships. i know that the inevitable action will be to leave, but take into consideration the amount of time that i have spent in this marriage and understand that I can't just "pack my shyt and bounce" at the drop of a hat. this is going to take some manuvering and thinking.

Help....

 

[Marti]

Get to the root

As to why there isnt any affection.

She might be cheating.

Have you both been faithful?

 

[MikelArteta]

Im here for you breh!

Key logger on the pc, all the signs right now is pointing to gulp a affair. When women drift away they are basically emotionally detaching.

I wouldn't be shocked if she's rekindled a old flame through fb or email and thus why it's going stagnant better to be on top of things.

If she has her own car a hidden gps and USB recorder can do wonders. My boys brother caught his wife in an affair with a USB recorder.

Before you waste money on counseling etc., do this, once a woman has entered te fog of an affair counseling etc is worthless

 

[Stuntone]

Sorry to here that bruh. My advice is to cut and run, don't waste anymore time in something that's destined to fall. Let it crumble, but try to do it as peacefully as possible. You only get one life, you got to be happy while you're here. I just lost 3 family members bruh, you got to love this life while you and your love ones are here.

Just Love This Life.

 

[MikelArteta]

The fog
In a nutshell, the Wayward spouse reprograms their brain into thinking that the BEtrayed spouse doesn't care about them or their needs, the marriage was doomed and over anyway, and that the OTher person is the only one who truly understands them. They do this in order to justify their actions and to alleviate their guilt with the thinking that "why don't I deserve a chance at happiness?". They start to believe this thought process because they keep telling themselves over and over again to justify the A in their own minds. It's a form of brainwashing that the WS does to themselves.

 

[Schmoove]

Whatever you do, don't ask her if she's cheating. She'll sniff out your efforts to catch her.

Give me a little background on you two. How old are both of you? How did you meet? What type of woman is she, etc?

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

If you can get evidence that she's cheating, don't confront her. Sit your son down and explain everything that happened. Pack your shyt and leave. Take everything. Get your own place and clear your mind. Communicate only with the son. After a few weeks/months, file for divorce.

 

[MikelArteta]

If you can get evidence that she's cheating, don't confront her. Sit your son down and explain everything that happened. Pack your shyt and leave. Take everything. Get your own place and clear your mind. Communicate only with the son. After a few weeks/months, file for divorce.

I agree cheaters never admit anyways just comply the evidence and take steps to secure your finances

Sad to say all the signs are pointing to her cheating, I've been there breh

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

we may be near the end of our journey together....

shyt ain't been right for a while now, and it's getting more and more distant as time goes by. there is almost no affection anymore, we only have sex like once a week (maybe), she is ALWAYS staring at her phone (nikka, and i mean ALWAYS), we never say i love you anymore, and she is generally just not checked in anymore. and because of that fact, i have checked out too. i don't try to initiate sex, i don't kiss or hug her when i come home or before i go to sleep or leave for work, i don't say anything to her unless she asks me a question, i don't call or text her throughout the day, and i just keep to myself. but somehow, she doesn't seem the least bit concerned. i look at her demeaner, and she seems to be just fine. i have a lot of years, a son, and a ton of money invested in this relationship, but i'm almost ready to say fukk it and throw the towel in. shyt is tearing me up, but 13 years is a LONG time to be with someone, and it's hard to just "let it go".

now i know where i'm posting this, so i'm prepared for the "you share that girl " or "breh, you should have never gotten married ", but i need some real perspective from people with real relationships. i know that the inevitable action will be to leave, but take into consideration the amount of time that i have spent in this marriage and understand that I can't just "pack my shyt and bounce" at the drop of a hat. this is going to take some manuvering and thinking.

Help....

If it's inevitable, no use in prolonging that shyt. It seems like you've come to grips with the reality of the situation, so why not make the the decision that would make you the happiest? You might think that it's not that simple, but really it is. Sometimes in life you just have to make harsh, but necessary decisions for your well being. Remember, NOTHING last forever, it is what it is. Muthafukkers be divorcing after 30 years of marriage and shyt, when it's time it's time broski. Don't shortchange your happiness by "trying to make it work" when you already know the what the outcome will be. Don't analyze the situation too much, just do whats in your heart

 

[BAMBA]

I don't see any signs of cheating..I see signs of a boring marriage. You guys need to reconnect with the feelings that brought you together in the first place. Instead, you've allowed yourselves to get too comfortable and lazy. Get a babysitter for your kid, and start dating again. Go to the movies, dinners, the park...buy her flowers for no reason. Try these things out before you do anything drastic. If she still acts cold and distant - THEN you have to start considering the possibility that she is just not that into you anymore.

Divorce is common, but that doesn't make it a desirable option - so you need to know that you really tried to save the marriage before going that way.

Best of luck.

 

[Shameonyou]

lol @ marriage

 

[Red Omega]

Def sounds like the end stages breh, keep your head up.

 

[MikelArteta]

I don't see any signs of cheating..I see signs of a boring marriage. You guys need to reconnect with the feelings that brought you together in the first place. Instead, you've allowed yourselves to get too comfortable and lazy. Get a babysitter for your kid, and start dating again. Go to the movies, dinners, the park...buy her flowers for no reason. Try these things out before you do anything drastic. If she still acts cold and distant - THEN you have to start considering the possibility that she is just not that into you anymore.

Divorce is common, but that doesn't make it a desirable option - so you need to know that you really tried to save the marriage before going that way.

Best of luck.

Really?

He stated she's getting more and more distant , aka her attention has drifted toward someone else.


Always staring at her phone = waiting for new dude to ask her how her day was or to compliment on her dirty picture she just sent him

Not affectionate = not sexually attractive to hubby anymore someone has got her eye, she will open her legs once a week to just quell any suspicion


The signs are there Breh


Remember women end 80 percent of marriages, most guys don't pick up the signs when it is over, as well Steve if you can get ahold of her phone or phone bill I wouldn't be shocked if there is one number she is texting or calling a lot

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

I don't see any signs of cheating..I see signs of a boring marriage. You guys need to reconnect with the feelings that brought you together in the first place. Instead, you've allowed yourselves to get too comfortable and lazy. Get a babysitter for your kid, and start dating again. Go to the movies, dinners, the park...buy her flowers for no reason. Try these things out before you do anything drastic. If she still acts cold and distant - THEN you have to start considering the possibility that she is just not that into you anymore.

Divorce is common, but that doesn't make it a desirable option - so you need to know that you really tried to save the marriage before going that way.

Best of luck.

See, this is the problem man. fukk a reconnection, some shyt ain't meant to be. That man pretty much said the marriage is on life support and about to die. Pull the plug on that bytch, cause if you do save it, it's gonna be a vegetable. fukk what you learned growing up, you don't have to force anything to work when your married. If it doesn't work out, then cut your losses and move on like an adult. This is why marriage is stupid, it makes things too complicated. nikkas be reluctant to leave some shyt they hate

 

[Uncle Trill]

lol @ marriage

this

But breh why are you talking to us and not her. Your both adults so you need to sit down and have an adult conversation about the future of the marriage and decide whats best to do for everyone.