Men leave their wives and kids all the time...some without even saying goodbye. The fact this man is still struggling with these thoughts tells you there is still love there. He's waited this long, he can wait a little longer and make sure he's making the right decision.
As much as I love my wife....
- Thread starter Steve Piffler
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I have to agree w/ Reincar and Spark.
But, give it a lil time
But, give it a lil time
First thing to do is talk about it with her
Stop ignoring the elephant in the room
Dont be a coward and key log her shyt or whatever. You already know thats bad advice. Just step up and confront the situation respectfully
Stop ignoring the elephant in the room
Dont be a coward and key log her shyt or whatever. You already know thats bad advice. Just step up and confront the situation respectfully
Sigh amateur, communicating is not going to do anything.
This is what will happen if he confronts her,
hey can we talk hunny , it just seems lately we are not as close as we were before, is anything wrong?
Nope not at all as she smiles and kisses, just work has been a little stressful lately and the kids and all but everything is fine.
My advice is the best, key logger, USB recorder, hire a private eye.
Look at the phone bill, all the signs are right there, it's better to find out if she's having an affair so at least you can stop screwing her once a week incase you get a std.
To everyone saying he needs to talk to his wife about this is missing the point. If you read the first post, this man knows that the marriage is over. He's been with her for 13 years, trust me, he didn't just come to a message board without trying to sort his problems out first. And have you nikkas just KNEW something in your soul? I think he knows that no matter what, this shyt is coming to an end. He's just trying to cope with the impending future. Thats why I say take care of that shyt now, instead of having it linger for Lord knows how long.
Uncle Trill
Hendrix 3:16
He obviously hasnt had an official conversation about the situation or else he wouldnt be so confused about what to do.
Steve Piffler
I got them CERTS
WOW! there is some incredibly insightful information given here....
i'm proud of you brehs...
but anyway, i have already opened up the dialog this morning and let her know what is on my mind and that when we get home this evening, we need to have a LOOOONG talk. i could just cut my losses and leave, but again, i don't HATE my wife. she actually hasn't done anything wrong (that i know of
), so there is no reason for me to just break out. i love her and would like for us to get back on track. i just wonder if it's too far gone, since it's been over a year since this shyt has been going on. it's been getting progressively worse with every month that passes. however, the phone thing kinda bugs me. shyt gets on my nerves when anyone does it, and it REALLY fukks with me when she does it.
i'm proud of you brehs... but anyway, i have already opened up the dialog this morning and let her know what is on my mind and that when we get home this evening, we need to have a LOOOONG talk. i could just cut my losses and leave, but again, i don't HATE my wife. she actually hasn't done anything wrong (that i know of
), so there is no reason for me to just break out. i love her and would like for us to get back on track. i just wonder if it's too far gone, since it's been over a year since this shyt has been going on. it's been getting progressively worse with every month that passes. however, the phone thing kinda bugs me. shyt gets on my nerves when anyone does it, and it REALLY fukks with me when she does it.
Sansprix
Around the way girl.
Most of these dudes do not ever need to get married. No one wants to put in the work when it gets rough. OP, I commend you for giving it a last shot. I honestly don't think she's cheating, although that's always something to consider. I agree with Bamba. It sounds like there's no excitement between you two. Things have gotten too predictable, comfortable, and routine.
I think you need to COMMUNICATE to HER what you're feeling. Figure out how you can change it before it's too late. If she doesn't feel like there is a problem, after you've talked about it or does nothing to change.....then you have to decide what to do next. You really need communication tho, maybe even counseling. Don't give up until you've really tried all your options. Everyone is quick to just give up when it gets too hard. You owe it to yourself to not give up so easily.
I think you need to COMMUNICATE to HER what you're feeling. Figure out how you can change it before it's too late. If she doesn't feel like there is a problem, after you've talked about it or does nothing to change.....then you have to decide what to do next. You really need communication tho, maybe even counseling. Don't give up until you've really tried all your options. Everyone is quick to just give up when it gets too hard. You owe it to yourself to not give up so easily.
WOW! there is some incredibly insightful information given here....
but anyway, i have already opened up the dialog this morning and let her know what is on my mind and that when we get home this evening, we need to have a LOOOONG talk. i could just cut my losses and leave, but again, i don't HATE my wife. she actually hasn't done anything wrong (that i know of
at the whole concept of marraige. Good luck to you broski, and I hope it takes a turn for the better
Steve Piffler
I got them CERTS
yep. got tired of always being the one to initiate. fukk, i like to get a surprise dikk suck in the middle of the night every once in a while. come out of the room wearing some lacy shyt. seduce a nikka sometimes. she does NOTHING. zilch. nada. get in the bed....go the fukk to sleep. no kisses. no laying on my lap while watching tv. no hugging. no i love yous. i got tired of doing all the shyt by myself. so fukk it. i checked out too. but because i checked out, i have been checking out skirts lately, and i don't want to even start down that road. if i'm gonna be married, i'm going to be all in, or all out. can't fukk around on my wife.
WOW! there is some incredibly insightful information given here....
but anyway, i have already opened up the dialog this morning and let her know what is on my mind and that when we get home this evening, we need to have a LOOOONG talk. i could just cut my losses and leave, but again, i don't HATE my wife. she actually hasn't done anything wrong (that i know of
Do you have access to her phone bill?
If not get a sim card copier
beenz
Rap Guerilla
@ steve
does this have anything to do with you getting that new benz? u tryin to bounce on your old lady cuz u see the quality of trim u can pull with that whip? did ur old lady get fat or anything?
does this have anything to do with you getting that new benz? u tryin to bounce on your old lady cuz u see the quality of trim u can pull with that whip? did ur old lady get fat or anything?