At What Age Did You Discover Who You Were?

[Ego Noir]

An author...mainly science fiction books and screen writing...

I've been splitting my time between doing a regualr 9 - 5 IT gig and writing for the last 3 years now...

I only write when I have the time...but with my job and recently getting married I never really have the time...

So it took me this long to figure out, that if I want to be a writer...I am just going to have to make the time for it....short change some stuff here...stay up later her...stay in and write on a friday instead of going out with friends...

Plus I have grown to strongly dislike my job, the IT industry in general, and corporate jobs as a whole...i view every second I spend writing is a second closer to me getting out of the corporate rat race

True words.

Going out will always be around, the farther you progress in your writing the sooner you could toss IT to the bushes.

 

[TheArchitect]

I really decided around 27....been taking the proper steps ever since, and am making some progress....I just have to do something about these "demons" holding me back....

 

[Heafcliffe]

What kind of things did you learn my friend?

Went thru some real ish and had to jump that hurdle of "stop doing dumb shyt." Unemployment, underemployment, lethargic behavior and small hints of depression. Had to man up and apply myself and never stop doing such.

Pretty much what @Hijo de luna said plus:

- Happiness does not have a dollar value
- Fukk with only those that have been there for you at your lowest and reciprocate (Fukk all that fairweather friend ish)
- Give zilch fukks about your appearance/ perception (except in a professional environment)
- Learn to kick "cancers" outta your life. That includes family. Haven't fukked with an entire side of the family bc of the dumb shyt they did and do.

There's more I'm sure.

 

[Tunez]

When Lloyd Banks Victory Freestyle dropped thats when I knew I had to become a Banks stan

 

[Hyperion]

I'm still on that journey. I started questioning who I was at 20.. and I'll be 22 next month. And I still don't have the answers. And I probably will never have the answers to everything, especially considering how young I am. But I do know that I used to base myself on other people's opinions and what the world may have saw me as, and I didn't want to be chained to that anymore. I wanted to be who I chose to be. And since I made the decision on that day to follow my own path, it's been tough cause you start seeing things you may have had a blind eye to.. for example, good friends that you start really noticing that maybe they weren't the greatest friends to have around. Or, you may start to truly understand where you are and where you need to go. I kept wanting people to give me advice, when I should've sought out the answers myself. All I know is... I want to do music, and I want to enjoy life to the fullest. To what end.. I'm still not sure.

 

[NobodyReally]

33. It was an epiphany and life has been gravy since.

 

[Pool_Shark]

24 and still don't know. I thought once I stopped drugs and alcohol my entire life was going to change and it'd put me on the fast track, but no same shyt different day. I'm starting to feel the pressure of moving forward and out this rut, getting a better job. It's basically 8 hours with nothing to do. Only so much bullshyt I can look at on the internet, and then I think about what a smarter person would do and how much money they could make online while sitting here.

I started this codeacademy stuff though so I'm learning how to make websites since I have the time.

 

[ellessij]

Gotta love the kids in their early 20's thinking they have it figured out.

 

[Myrical Lyfe]

Quite honestly, maybe over the last 2 to 3 years. I'm in my early 30s too. The things you discover during a rough journey......

This. Im 27, and just ended a 8 year relationship that really didt let me be who I was. Im slowly discovering who I am now.

 

[rogue_riezo]

I don't think I have yet

 

[VICVALLIN]

the one thing i've learned as i've gotten older is that if you're constantly growing, learning, experiencing new things, and embracing new ideas, then you will never truly know who you are because you're constantly evolving.

 

[Doctor Wily]

14.

But I didn't put it all together till I was 27.

 

[EA]

I'd say over the last 12-18 months. Finishing off university whilst going through a stressful breakup helped me come to terms with who I am as a person. Now, I'm fully focused on improving everything around me in a way that I couldn't imagine myself being in the past.

 

[frush11]

Quite honestly, maybe over the last 2 to 3 years. I'm in my early 30s too. The things you discover during a rough journey......

I feel on this, in the same boat, there's s certain peace and new found confidence that I now have

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

I'm discovering myself as we speak.