Attraction Is Black & White. No In Between. The Games End When You Realize That.

[Phitz]

While I agree with most of OP's points. Life is not
Always so simple. I had a situation where I was basically put in the friend zone. But because me and the girl worked together. She came around about a year later( I had stopped chasing her after she said she only wanted to be friends ).

The girl I'm dating now. I didn't see her the way I do now at first. 1 day out of nowhere we just really clicked and I think about her all the time
Now

So while OP is probably right for the most part, you have to take it situation by situation.

yeah, even the texting/messaging part is tricky because I don't always respond right away when I get a message IF I didn't hear/feel the notification nor my phone is in another room, or rechargine or whatever. It is all in the communication and EFFORT to spend time though. Even if they don't respond right away if they are making an effort to spend time in person then that's what matters.

 

[Legend]

While I agree with most of OP's points. Life is not
Always so simple. I had a situation where I was basically put in the friend zone. But because me and the girl worked together. She came around about a year later( I had stopped chasing her after she said she only wanted to be friends ).

The girl I'm dating now. I didn't see her the way I do now at first. 1 day out of nowhere we just really clicked and I think about her all the time
Now

So while OP is probably right for the most part, you have to take it situation by situation.

I appreciate and respect your counter points, but my position and the ultimately theory still stands true.

One, no normal man or woman should be willing to wait an entire year for someone to realize they have feelings. That's insane, and definitely the exception, not the rule. If you are going to wait 12 months for a girl to come around, you could've come across a dozen others that clicked with you perfectly in that same amount of time... And i noticed how you never mentioned y'all being together now.. Point proven.

Attraction is black and white. If a woman or man isn't feeling you right then and there. Thats fine... Just means they dont want to be with you... That doesnt go against my point... And if they came back around some time later, as long as her attraction and desire to be with you is evident , I don't see where we disagree... If a man or woman doesn't want to be with you and they make that clear--- that makes your job easier. Its the supposed indecisive nature of attraction that im calling ducktales. I dont believe there is a such thing as indecisive attraction. A man or woman knows when they want someone, knows when they want to be with someone. And they will do what it takes to be with that person. If the attraction and desire is real and not some game thats being played.

 

[At30wecashout]

:letyasoulglow:Amen.

And while there are possible exceptions, my rule of thumb is to bush early if interest is not reciprocated. No time for shoulda-coulda-woulda.

I have lost out on my fair share trying to "feel" a woman out, meanwhile someone who doesn't waste time speaks up and gets her attention right away.

Chicks be sneaking on the clock to contact you if they feel you that much. If you gotta wait, she can't relateMove on.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

When it comes to attraction, I always follow Occam's razor--the simplest answer is usually the correct answer.

So if I gave to do a bunch of guesswork whether a chick is attracted to me or interested in me, she probably isn't.

 

[Asiatic Black Hebrew]

Real shyt man. Dapped & repped

shyt bringing back memories though

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

True

A lot of ppl go through this shyt because theyve never had anyone ever actually like them

Amd then they ask other ppl and they tell them its easy just do x y and z

When its easy for them, not necessarily the other person

 

[VFib]

Its true. One thing I never understood is getting a girls number and not calling cause you don't want to seem thirsty. I would always tell girls after I got their number that I'm calling them that night, cause I ain't get it for no reason.

I don't understand this either. If you can't be yourself with someone, why be with them. If I give you my number, I WANT you to call. The sooner the better. I couldn't stand giving a guy my number, only for him to text asking for permission to call me. How TF old are you? My number is your permission.

 

[The Mad Titan]

OP is 100 percent correct.


But I've learned that most people know this but just aren't able to follow.



Its like eating healthy while trying to lose weight


You know that if you eat fries, pizza and drink 5 days out the week your not going to lose weight, yet.... most still do it while going to the gym and drinking diet cokes hoping for different results.

 

[FSP]

It really is that simple.

I can think about a number of times when I liked a woman but was too shy to express it, and ended up missing out.

 

[FSP]

I don't understand this either. If you can't be yourself with someone, why be with them. If I give you my number, I WANT you to call. The sooner the better. I couldn't stand giving a guy my number, only for him to text asking for permission to call me. How TF old are you? My number is your permission.

I never call. It ties up your resources (maybe that's a good thing)

 

[wickedsm]

I can think about a number of times when I liked a woman but was too shy to express it, and ended up missing out.

You not on that no more right?

 

[FSP]

I appreciate and respect your counter points, but my position and the ultimately theory still stands true.

One, no normal man or woman should be willing to wait an entire year for someone to realize they have feelings. That's insane, and definitely the exception, not the rule. If you are going to wait 12 months for a girl to come around, you could've come across a dozen others that clicked with you perfectly in that same amount of time... And i noticed how you never mentioned y'all being together now.. Point proven.

Attraction is black and white. If a woman or man isn't feeling you right then and there. Thats fine... Just means they dont want to be with you... That doesnt go against my point... And if they came back around some time later, as long as her attraction and desire to be with you is evident , I don't see where we disagree... If a man or woman doesn't want to be with you and they make that clear--- that makes your job easier. Its the supposed indecisive nature of attraction that im calling ducktales. I dont believe there is a such thing as indecisive attraction. A man or woman knows when they want someone, knows when they want to be with someone. And they will do what it takes to be with that person. If the attraction and desire is real and not some game thats being played.

Man I disagree with a lot of this

A lot of attraction is dependent on timing for a woman. If you took away the timing factor, all this would be true. But she's going thru xyz that day, or she's busy, or her she's hormonal. This shyt matters and is why being persistent has value sometimes. If it was black and white then nobody would have any questions ever.

 

[FSP]

You not on that no more right?

High school. Happened more times than I'm willing to admit. Probably why I like to converse so much now

And when I say shy. I mean like females approaching me first and me still being too shy. Like really bad shyness

 

[Legend]

Man I disagree with a lot of this

A lot of attraction is dependent on timing for a woman. If you took away the timing factor, all this would be true. But she's going thru xyz that day, or she's busy, or her she's hormonal. This shyt matters and is why being persistent has value sometimes. If it was black and white then nobody would have any questions ever.

The bolded is the one of the craziest shyts I ever heard... nikkas is wild. People like the poster I quoted and you are missing the point. Timing isn't a factor. What does that have to do with natural attraction?? Why would a woman being busy have any affect on her attraction towards you?! Why would her doing xyz on a particular day have any bearing on if she wants to be with you or not?? If a woman likes you, she likes you. If a man likes you, he likes you. Regardless if they pulling a late shift + overtime and can't speak or be with you on a particular day. Read the post again. If Monday don't work, try Tuesday. If Plan A don't work, try plan B. Y'all trying to find a chink in the armor where there isn't any.

A woman or man being busy running errands is not an excuse. You thinking about it too much.

Hormonal, huh...? So a woman being on her period will make her forget that she's attracted to you? Come on, son... Some bullshyt.

I don't expect everyone to be able to open they fukkin eyes and see that yes, it is that goddamn simple. Prophesied this shyt in my OP. People always coming up with excuses to why it ain't so simple. Muthafukka, it is.

No one is saying that you or her got to be available 24/7. We all got lives to tend to. I don't know where this timing shyt is coming from. If two people want each other, they will have each other. PERIOD. They ain't sitting in front of a fukking clock, counting the hours until attraction 'kick in'... So she's busy doing xyz on Monday... Let me guess, what if she busy doing xyz all week, and next week too.... Well, then, nikka, she don't want to be with you that bad. If someone wants you, they will FIND some time during the week to be with you... What's hard to accept about that?

Got nikkas traveling across the globe to be with a broad; got women taking plane trips across the atlantic.... But y'all still refuse to believe the simple fact that two people who want to be together, will be together.

The bullshyt excuses is for people who want to justify their simp ways. If we are going to talk about being persistent, then I hope you are including the female in that scenario... I hope you are talking about both sides putting in effort to be with one another. If only one side (That's YOU, nikka) is being persistent in the relationship... Got bad fukkin news for you, son..

 

[FSP]

The bolded is the one of the craziests shyt I ever heard... nikkas is wild. People like the poster I quoted and you are missing the point. Timing isn't a factor. What does that have to do with natural attraction?? Why would a woman being busy have any affect on her attraction towards you?! Why would her doing xyz on a particular day have any bearing on if she wants to be with you or not?? If someone likes you, they like you. Regardless if they pulling a late shift + overtime and can't speak or be with you on a particular day. Read the post again. If Monday don't work, try Tuesday. If Plan A don't work, try plan B. Y'all trying to find a chink in the armor where there isn't any.

A woman or man being busy running errands is not an excuse. You thinking about it too much.

Hormonal, huh...? So a woman being on her period will make her forget that she's attracted to you? Come on, son... Some bullshyt.

I don't expect everyone to be able to open they fukkin eyes and see that yes, it is that goddamn simple. Prophesied this shyt in my OP. People always coming up with excuses to why it ain't so simple. Muthafukka, it is.

No one is saying that you or her got to be available 24/7. We all got lives to tend to. I don't know where this timing shyt is coming from. If two people want each other, they will have each other. PERIOD. They ain't sitting in front of a fukking clock, counting the hours until attraction 'kick in'... So she's busy doing xyz on Monday... Let me guess, what if she busy doing xyz all week, and next week too.... Well, then, nikka, she don't want to be with you that bad. If someone wants you, they will FIND some time during the week to be with you... What's hard to accept about that?

Got nikkas traveling across the globe to be with a broad; got women taking plane trips across the atlantic.... But y'all still refuse to believe the simple fact that two people who want to be together, will be together.

Umm yeah breh do you get at every woman you're attracted to? You wouldn't have time in the day for anything else. Physical attraction takes a back seat to other things sometimes and I've witnessed it many times before, had it happen to me, done it to other people.

And I'm not saying you're wrong but I'm saying black and white isn't always the case. In anything in life, for that matter. That's why people have questions and why stuff like game and dating advice exists. But you know what, that's okay. Dating being simple is like one of the biggest reaches I've ever heard.