Bae Is Becoming Cheap. Help A Bruhette Out?

[A Woman's Opinion]

Hey Guys...

I spoke about my boyfriend in the other thread, but I am having a relationship problem I would like your advice about. My boyfriend is becoming cheap, and I don't know how to confront him about this without seeming... greedy?

When we first started dating we would take turns paying for dates. He would get one, I would get the next one. This isn't something we agreed to, but it is something I did because our living situations are different. We both have decent jobs, but I have less bills than him, and he has a teenager. (I know she is expensive. lol)

He would ask me out, and I would just pay the bill when it came... . He would look shocked and say, "thanks".
Or if we went to the movies he would buy the tickets, and I would buy the snacks. (I like a lot of snacks, and I know they can be expensive)

Lately though he is getting comfortable. He doesn't want to date as much, and if we do, he looks for me to pick up the tab, or contribute something, always. (like a least the tip) At first, he didn't do this.

I don't mind contributing. I have shown him that. However, I don't want to always have to.

Am I wrong for that?

My mother AND Brother warned me about this. When you give a man an inch, they will take a mile! Why would he start taking advantage like that? I never call him asking for money or help. Shouldn't he appreciate that? Shouldn't that be rewarded?

Now it seems like he thinks he doesn't have to do anything for me, or just do nice things.

When trying to be independent backfires, eh?

#HelpPlease

 

[charmander]

so you want nikkas to tell you how to extort more money from this man?

 

[newarkhiphop]

simple, ask him to pay.

 

[scarlxrd]

so you want nikkas to tell you how to extort more money from this man?

She tried it huh

 

[KOOL-AID]

so you want nikkas to tell you how to extort more money from this man?

probably has her womb removed :mjfancy:

 

[scarlxrd]

I don't mind contributing. I have shown him that. However, I don't want to always have to.

Am I wrong for that?

You want to participate in the activity though, right?

You think the man should foot the bill 100% for your enjoyment?

You're right though, if you wanted him to pay 100% you should have set your standards at that level. You dropped your p*ssy stock with that move so why the fukk should he suffer for your mistake?

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

so you want nikkas to tell you how to extort more money from this man?

NO! It is not about extorting "more money" from a man.

It's about him appreciating my contributing and simply treating me better. financially, because he is GREAT to me other ways.

Just cheap.

 

[marcuz]

Am I wrong for that?

My mother AND Brother warned me about this. When you give a man an inch, they will take a mile! Why would he start taking advantage like that? I never call him asking for money or help. Shouldn't he appreciate that? Shouldn't that be rewarded?

Now it seems like he thinks he doesn't have to do anything for me, or just do nice things.

When trying to be independent backfires, eh?

#HelpPlease

i was just trying to explain this to @Gravity

once men equalize themselves to women, both partners lose.

if you gotta 40 yr old man thats on that shyt, you gotta move on. next time dont be on that 50/50 bullshyt and let whomever know you want to be provided for

 

[Sterling Archer]

I was gonna crack jokes on you and shyt brehette but its too close to 5pm. I'm trying to get outta the office so honestly, talk to him.You were doing the right thing with also pitching in and showing that you value the relationship beyond what he spends on you by spending on him as well but he may have gotten cheap for a reason. Maybe he's saving up for something, maybe he just a cheap nikka....maybe he spending on another chick. Point is, theres no reason not to just ask. If you can't communicate this type of little shyt with him, it aint going anywhere no way.

 

[resurrection]

Men usually respond quite well to just being politely asked to do something. It shouldn't be a stressful conversation if you otherwise have a good relationship with each other

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I mean, is it you who are setting up the dates because if so then you should be paying. Why don't you try doing some things that don't require you to spend money?

 

[☑︎#VoteDemocrat]

Hey Guys...

I spoke about my boyfriend in the other thread, but I am having a relationship problem I would like your advice about. My boyfriend is becoming cheap, and I don't know how to confront him about this without seeming... greedy?

When we first started dating we would take turns paying for dates. He would get one, I would get the next one. This isn't something we agreed to, but it is something I did because our living situations are different. We both have decent jobs, but I have less bills than him, and he has a teenager. (I know she is expensive. lol)

He would ask me out, and I would just pay the bill when it came... . He would look shocked and say, "thanks".
Or if we went to the movies he would buy the tickets, and I would buy the snacks. (I like a lot of snacks, and I know they can be expensive)

Lately though he is getting comfortable. He doesn't want to date as much, and if we do, he looks for me to pick up the tab, or contribute something, always. (like a least the tip) At first, he didn't do this.

I don't mind contributing. I have shown him that. However, I don't want to always have to.

Am I wrong for that?

My mother AND Brother warned me about this. When you give a man an inch, they will take a mile! Why would he start taking advantage like that? I never call him asking for money or help. Shouldn't he appreciate that? Shouldn't that be rewarded?

Now it seems like he thinks he doesn't have to do anything for me, or just do nice things.

When trying to be independent backfires, eh?

#HelpPlease

What should he be paying for? And why so much?

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

You want to participate in the activity though, right?

You think the man should foot the bill 100% for your enjoyment?

You're right though, if you wanted him to pay 100% you should have set your standards at that level. You dropped your p*ssy stock with that move so why the fukk should he suffer for your mistake?

Did you actually read what I wrote? I never said, nor implied the bolded.

I made it clear I am not that type of woman! I am pointing out that when you give a man an inch, he will take a MILE.

Then men will complain when they come across a woman who thinks a man should pay for everything.

Well, she makes you pay for everything, because if she contributes she will "lower her p*ssy stock" (whatever that means), and he will take advantage of her. [/QUOTE]

 

[King Poetic]

AT OP?? GIVE ME YOUR AGE AND HIS AGE AND I'LL HELP U OUT, SINCE I'M A LICENSED COLI COUNSELOR

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

I mean, is it you who are setting up the dates because if so then you should be paying. Why don't you try doing some things that don't require you to spend money?

No. He sets them up, or we both do.

We have, like, "routine dates"...

Certain days we have lunch dates, and it's kinda understood. (during work breaks)