Disrespect is part of it but I understand how it's not seen in jest.
Personally I think you should be able to take it as long as it isn't wicked like racism, colorism, laughing at deformity, dead relative, etc.
shyt talking is just that, shyt. Cheap with no life. This isn't abuse, this is done in a setting. Could use a better method of mediatoring and more security. Simply have rules to avoid this.
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She told him ahead of time, so he gotta hold the L from not learning from Charles Hamilton.