Be honest...do you think your kid has a bright future?

[TheBigBopper]

If I have kids, I’m sure they will. I’m an Ivy Leaguer and I’m not gonna waste my sperm on some dumb bytch. Now, they’ll probably have terrible personalities, but they’ll be getting money

 

[OfTheCross]

Real thread

Indeed. I know there are more people on here with kids too...they're mighty quiet

 

[GhettoTeK]

Yes

 

[OfTheCross]

This is a hard pill for parents to swallow. As a child gets older they begin to develop their personality, and some of it is environmental and some of it’s just natural to their perception of the world. But at some point they’re gonna decide what lessons they’ll keep and which they’ll reject, as they grow into their own person.
My boy and his brothers are a great example, two parent household, raised by two wonderful people that instilled them with the same morals and values, yet one brother has completely rejected damn near all of it. Bro is selfish, petty and manipulative as all hell. He knows he’s wrong because he’s been taught better, but he doesn’t give a fukk.
Parents don’t hold as much control over their children as they’d like to think, and I get it…shyt is scary.

At what age did you suspect the knucklehead was going to be a knucklehead and that the other kids were going to be good?

 

[Pseudonym]

lil nikka won’t spend a dime and is into stocks.



Lil breh has plenty money but refuses to pay for anything. He’s 15.


Us (parents): You can’t spend $1.07 on gum???


Him:

 

[OfTheCross]

lil nikka won’t spend a dime and is into stocks.



Lil breh has plenty money but refuses to pay for anything. He’s 15.


Us (parents): You can’t spend $1.07 on gum???


Him:

Yeah...he gon be good

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

who knows, I do my best to be involved and to teach them some shyt.

My boys will always be intelligent, they get it honest from both parents .

But the real question for me as a parent is, will there be a future worth investing in and how do I do a better job navigating them through it when I can't really anticipate what the future will be 5 years from now, let alone 15. I don't want to set them up to fail, and unlike now, I don't see there being very many windows for failure either.

Our boomer parents had a relatively stable world, no climate change worries, no post pandemic, no crippling inflation, no high ass student loans, no threat of automation, and most highly sought after jobs are already flushed with people, and you can't rightly guarantee small business savvy; because it aint for everyone.

All that plus...what if they bring home a Becky instead of a sistah

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

Yes
That’s why I work hard to put her in position to win
That’s all any parent worth a damn wants for their seed
To hopefully see them successful in their own right and happy
Doing things differently than I did
I have a shyt ton of regrets and I share those stories with her
To show it’s hard out here and you have to believe in your yourself
Don’t second guess/talk yourself out of things
It’s okay to fail, playing it safe is what kills you

 

[OfTheCross]

Yes
That’s why I work hard to put her in position to win
That’s all any parent worth a damn wants for their seed
To hopefully see them successful in their own right and happy
Doing things differently than I did
I have a shyt ton of regrets and I share those stories with her
To show it’s hard out here and you have to believe in your yourself
Don’t second guess/talk yourself out of things
It’s okay to fail, playing it safe is what kills you

I'm sure you're doing your best...but don't go off your efforts. Based on what you see in your kid(s), do you think their future is bright? Or do you think they'll squander your good parenting.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

I'm sure you're doing your best...but don't go off your efforts. Based on what you see in your kid(s), do you think their future is bright? Or do you think they'll squander your good parenting.

What do you mean by bright? Ivy League, six figures? Or simply being a good person who can hold down steady employment and be a good parent to their future kids? I think most people are capable of raising a normal productive human, and most kids will become that. But there’s a lot of delusion about how smart or special a kid is and too many parents forcing their kids to be the best and brightest - like the people worried about kindergarten enrollment and testing when their kid is still drooling in diapers

 

[OfTheCross]

What do you mean by bright? Ivy League, six figures? Or simply being a good person who can hold down steady employment and be a good parent to their future kids? I think most people are capable of raising a normal productive human, and most kids will become that. But there’s a lot of delusion about how smart or special a kid is and too many parents forcing their kids to be the best and brightest - like the people worried about kindergarten enrollment and testing when their kid is still drooling in diapers

The bolded. I'll add on and say that the kid can't be low-income. That's not very bright...

 

[karim]

I remember with my nieces and nephews I could tell by about 1st grade (officially, I suspected before) which ones was gonna have a struggle life and which ones would excel.

My jit on 18 months so I can't call it just yet.

But I'm mentally prepared for him to not be shyt...having kids is like playing roulette

They are going to grow up into a collapsing eco system and white people readopting fascism. None of these kids is going to have a bright future breh

 

[BXKingPin82]

Hes the son of the KingPin, of course he does.

 

[jonny]

Sorry pops but it ends here, I gotta handle my biz

 

[010101]

it's between what you give them & what the world will do to them*